Never been hurt this bad

KRdogg · 11-08-2009, 04:16 AM

Hi i going through tough times my wife left and has alot of money thats the thing that bothers me sometimes usually i am ok but sometimes it really hurts. I got everything i wanted like the house shared custody of my son all dj equipment but she has alot of money never thought it would be a issue i always support her and when she got some money on her own she left thats what it seems like anyway.
She also has been with someone else and she has admitted it to me when i found out and questioned it to her. So i am really better off with out her but the pain is really there still and sometimes seems like it will never go away.

redherring · 11-08-2009, 04:27 AM

Awah

I'm sorry to hear, I don't really know what to say. Other than things will get better for you eventually. One day things will be different.

toflyforreal · 11-08-2009, 03:26 PM

i'm very sorry to hear that krdogg, i imagine you must be hurting quite badly.

make sure to do at least one thing every day that makes you feel good about yourself. and as cliche as it is time and new experiences WILL heal all, some day maybe soon!

KRdogg · 11-08-2009, 05:32 PM

Aw thanks for the support i will hang in there but it is so tough watching her spend money and do the things we planned togather but i concentrated on the positive things like i would rather work for my self and be successful and i got my son to raise and she cant take him anywhere with out my permission including out of my country i live in that what she planns to do take him to a different country but i just wont let him leave she have to travel with out him

Clabs · 11-08-2009, 05:46 PM

KR

I know you are hurting, but you have to look on the bright side - you got the house and joint custody. Some blokes have all this taken away from them.

You have a choice now to make something of yourself - and stop looking at what she has got.

Pull yourself up mate.

matador1972 · 11-08-2009, 06:04 PM

It dosent feel like it will, but it will.

2 months in, and i feel so much better than i did even 2 weeks ago, work on yourself, help yourself, exercise, eat good, read self help books, do whatever it takes, but you will get there and it will get better.

AutumnBorn · 11-08-2009, 10:50 PM

KRdogg, it doesn't sound like she'll have much money for long, if she's just going out and blowing it. Don't dispair! Bitterness is poison! Let it go, friend.

My ex just got a check for $183,000, the remainder of his father's estate (he probably got $300K total), which was sent to my house accidentally. I opened it, not looking at the label and not expecting him to get any mail here. He hasn't lived here for 28 months! He's going to buy a condo, I'm certain, our daughter a car or truck. Good for him. Good for her.

I just got an introduction to a software CEO who thinks I'm gorgeous and would consider that check pocket money. Doesn't matter. He's not my ex. Money cannot replace love, cannot fill the emptiness, cannot make the pain go away.

I wish I could love somebody else. Maybe someday we both will.

KRdogg · 11-09-2009, 01:20 AM

I am for the most part not bitter but its frustrating that i supported her for 7 years and when she gets her own money she ditches but i have always worked hard and made my own money i will be much happier with nothing to do with this money, like someone died here and it should not be about money but there making it so thanks for the advice i do feel better thanks again to all

11-08-2009, 04:16 AM	#1
KRdogg Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 8	Never been hurt this bad Hi i going through tough times my wife left and has alot of money thats the thing that bothers me sometimes usually i am ok but sometimes it really hurts. I got everything i wanted like the house shared custody of my son all dj equipment but she has alot of money never thought it would be a issue i always support her and when she got some money on her own she left thats what it seems like anyway. She also has been with someone else and she has admitted it to me when i found out and questioned it to her. So i am really better off with out her but the pain is really there still and sometimes seems like it will never go away.

11-08-2009, 04:27 AM	#2
redherring Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 90	Awah I'm sorry to hear, I don't really know what to say. Other than things will get better for you eventually. One day things will be different.

11-08-2009, 03:26 PM	#3
toflyforreal Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 125	i'm very sorry to hear that krdogg, i imagine you must be hurting quite badly. make sure to do at least one thing every day that makes you feel good about yourself. and as cliche as it is time and new experiences WILL heal all, some day maybe soon!

11-08-2009, 05:32 PM	#4
KRdogg Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 8	Aw thanks for the support i will hang in there but it is so tough watching her spend money and do the things we planned togather but i concentrated on the positive things like i would rather work for my self and be successful and i got my son to raise and she cant take him anywhere with out my permission including out of my country i live in that what she planns to do take him to a different country but i just wont let him leave she have to travel with out him

11-08-2009, 05:46 PM	#5
Clabs Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Gender: Male Age: 49 Posts: 3,721	KR I know you are hurting, but you have to look on the bright side - you got the house and joint custody. Some blokes have all this taken away from them. You have a choice now to make something of yourself - and stop looking at what she has got. Pull yourself up mate.

11-08-2009, 06:04 PM	#6
matador1972 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 103	It dosent feel like it will, but it will. 2 months in, and i feel so much better than i did even 2 weeks ago, work on yourself, help yourself, exercise, eat good, read self help books, do whatever it takes, but you will get there and it will get better.

11-08-2009, 10:50 PM	#7
AutumnBorn Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Seattle, Washington Gender: Female Posts: 435	KRdogg, it doesn't sound like she'll have much money for long, if she's just going out and blowing it. Don't dispair! Bitterness is poison! Let it go, friend. My ex just got a check for $183,000, the remainder of his father's estate (he probably got $300K total), which was sent to my house accidentally. I opened it, not looking at the label and not expecting him to get any mail here. He hasn't lived here for 28 months! He's going to buy a condo, I'm certain, our daughter a car or truck. Good for him. Good for her. I just got an introduction to a software CEO who thinks I'm gorgeous and would consider that check pocket money. Doesn't matter. He's not my ex. Money cannot replace love, cannot fill the emptiness, cannot make the pain go away. I wish I could love somebody else. Maybe someday we both will.

11-09-2009, 01:20 AM	#8
KRdogg Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 8	I am for the most part not bitter but its frustrating that i supported her for 7 years and when she gets her own money she ditches but i have always worked hard and made my own money i will be much happier with nothing to do with this money, like someone died here and it should not be about money but there making it so thanks for the advice i do feel better thanks again to all