She's cool but I don't like her face

Theblueman123 · 11-08-2009, 01:19 AM

So this new girl I've been talking to is a pretty chill person. She's cool and knows whats up most of the time, and isn't psycho or crazy (not yet anyway). So I've been spending a lot of time with her (like the whole day for a date) lately, and I really enjoy her company but she just doesn't turn me on.

I've been seeing her for about 2 weeks, and we get along fairly well but there isn't a spark there, and I don't feel chemistry (like with my ex). She's also inexperienced so when we kissed it was awkward since she didn't know what was going on. She's a virgin and is really innocent so I love that but it's bad sometimes too.

So I guess in conclusion she's pretty live except for the fact that she isn't as hot as I would want her to be. I like her but I don't want her if you know what I mean. Now I'm stuck because I'm also talking to other really good looking girls, but I dont want to be with them b/c they're slvtty. I'm not sure what to do, should I stay with this girl even though she isnt really pretty, but has a great personality; or should I date one of the hot girls who I've been talking to, but who have crappy personalities.

I'm super confused right now so any legit advice would be great.

orangetemple · 11-08-2009, 01:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Theblueman123

So this new girl I've been talking to is a pretty chill person. She's cool and knows whats up most of the time, and isn't psycho or crazy (not yet anyway). So I've been spending a lot of time with her (like the whole day for a date) lately, and I really enjoy her company but she just doesn't turn me on.

I've been seeing her for about 2 weeks, and we get along fairly well but there isn't a spark there, and I don't feel chemistry (like with my ex). She's also inexperienced so when we kissed it was awkward since she didn't know what was going on. She's a virgin and is really innocent so I love that but it's bad sometimes too.

So I guess in conclusion she's pretty live except for the fact that she isn't as hot as I would want her to be. I like her but I don't want her if you know what I mean. Now I'm stuck because I'm also talking to other really good looking girls, but I dont want to be with them b/c they're slvtty. I'm not sure what to do, should I stay with this girl even though she isnt really pretty, but has a great personality; or should I date one of the hot girls who I've been talking to, but who have crappy personalities.

I'm super confused right now so any legit advice would be great.

Well if you choose the hot girls, in 30 years their hot looks will have faded and you will be left with their crappy personalities.

Maybe even 10 years.

IndigoEye · 11-08-2009, 01:23 AM

Whatever your criteria, wait for what does it for you. Otherwise, you'll be unhappy.

orangetemple · 11-08-2009, 01:24 AM

If thats you in the photo then im guessing what OTHER people think and your image has a fair bearing on what girls you choose to go out with.

on0s1111 · 11-08-2009, 01:27 AM

Depends on what you are after. If you are seeking a LTR, the not so good looking girl's looks will definitely grow on you if the personality and connection is there. However, you are pretty young so if you decide you would rather just chase some hot tail there isn't anything wrong with that as long as you are honest about it. Either way they will more than likely end up as great learning experiences

on0s1111 · 11-08-2009, 01:28 AM

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Originally Posted by orangetemple

If thats you in the photo then im guessing what OTHER people think and your image has a fair bearing on what girls you choose to go out with.

The man in the photo doesn't look 17 to me! : P

Cminor7th · 11-08-2009, 01:31 AM

If you are 17, I say rack up the points and XP, and go for the gusto....

If there isn't any attraction, no need to keep it going.

iamevan · 11-08-2009, 01:41 AM

You are attracted or not. A girl doesn't have to be the sexiest thing to walk the earth to be attracted. From how you made it sound you think she's awesome. Does it have to become sexual or become a relationship for you to enjoy being around her? It just sounds like you may like her too much to just have her be a lay. If you were just looking for a piece, you're probably going to lose her friendship if you take her virginity and drop her. Great people are rare. If you are just looking to basically love them and leave them, you'd be better off to do that with girls that have a lousy personality. To me, you have to put this girl in the friendzone unless somehow you can find yourself attracted to her. Otherwise, you'll lose this cool aquaintance for only a notch on your bedpost. Notches can be found fairly easily.

Southern · 11-08-2009, 01:43 AM

If you're not attracted, you're not attracted. Cut her loose. And do it quickly, because she's gonna get more heartbroken the longer you wait. My guess is that she's fallen really hard for you, since she hasn't had a lot of experience. So just be honest (not that she's not hot lol but that there's no chemistry) and let her go.

Theblueman123 · 11-08-2009, 02:00 AM

Okay thanks for all the info guys! Really great stuff here. I'll probably end up telling her that we can't work out, because I would rather not end up getting physical and getting her attached and then moving on from her in a few months. Thanks again for all of the advice, I'm really taking what was said into consideration.

11-08-2009, 01:19 AM	#1
Theblueman123 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: The Gym Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 578	She's cool but I don't like her face So this new girl I've been talking to is a pretty chill person. She's cool and knows whats up most of the time, and isn't psycho or crazy (not yet anyway). So I've been spending a lot of time with her (like the whole day for a date) lately, and I really enjoy her company but she just doesn't turn me on. I've been seeing her for about 2 weeks, and we get along fairly well but there isn't a spark there, and I don't feel chemistry (like with my ex). She's also inexperienced so when we kissed it was awkward since she didn't know what was going on. She's a virgin and is really innocent so I love that but it's bad sometimes too. So I guess in conclusion she's pretty live except for the fact that she isn't as hot as I would want her to be. I like her but I don't want her if you know what I mean. Now I'm stuck because I'm also talking to other really good looking girls, but I dont want to be with them b/c they're slvtty. I'm not sure what to do, should I stay with this girl even though she isnt really pretty, but has a great personality; or should I date one of the hot girls who I've been talking to, but who have crappy personalities. I'm super confused right now so any legit advice would be great. __________________ Do something worth remembering.

11-08-2009, 01:27 AM	#5
on0s1111 Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: ATL Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 37	Depends on what you are after. If you are seeking a LTR, the not so good looking girl's looks will definitely grow on you if the personality and connection is there. However, you are pretty young so if you decide you would rather just chase some hot tail there isn't anything wrong with that as long as you are honest about it. Either way they will more than likely end up as great learning experiences __________________ Man cannot remake himself without suffering, for he is both the marble and the sculptor. ~ Dr. Alexis Carrel Last edited by on0s1111; 11-08-2009 at 01:33 AM.

11-08-2009, 01:43 AM	#9
Southern Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 1,231	If you're not attracted, you're not attracted. Cut her loose. And do it quickly, because she's gonna get more heartbroken the longer you wait. My guess is that she's fallen really hard for you, since she hasn't had a lot of experience. So just be honest (not that she's not hot lol but that there's no chemistry) and let her go. __________________ "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~Dr. Seuss

11-08-2009, 02:00 AM	#10
Theblueman123 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: The Gym Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 578	Okay thanks for all the info guys! Really great stuff here. I'll probably end up telling her that we can't work out, because I would rather not end up getting physical and getting her attached and then moving on from her in a few months. Thanks again for all of the advice, I'm really taking what was said into consideration. __________________ Do something worth remembering.

11-08-2009, 01:23 AM	#3
IndigoEye Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: US Gender: Male Posts: 293	Whatever your criteria, wait for what does it for you. Otherwise, you'll be unhappy.

11-08-2009, 01:24 AM	#4
orangetemple Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 307	If thats you in the photo then im guessing what OTHER people think and your image has a fair bearing on what girls you choose to go out with.

11-08-2009, 01:31 AM	#7
Cminor7th Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: 13th Colony Posts: 156	If you are 17, I say rack up the points and XP, and go for the gusto.... If there isn't any attraction, no need to keep it going.

11-08-2009, 01:41 AM	#8
iamevan Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Pennsylvania Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 24	You are attracted or not. A girl doesn't have to be the sexiest thing to walk the earth to be attracted. From how you made it sound you think she's awesome. Does it have to become sexual or become a relationship for you to enjoy being around her? It just sounds like you may like her too much to just have her be a lay. If you were just looking for a piece, you're probably going to lose her friendship if you take her virginity and drop her. Great people are rare. If you are just looking to basically love them and leave them, you'd be better off to do that with girls that have a lousy personality. To me, you have to put this girl in the friendzone unless somehow you can find yourself attracted to her. Otherwise, you'll lose this cool aquaintance for only a notch on your bedpost. Notches can be found fairly easily.