2 cases that make me feel so disconnected from reality

[stormie]

Sorry just one case lol

Anyway, am I disconnected from reality?

I have an online friend - very close. We chat with each other on the telephone, give each other packages, etc etc. She lives in another country but she's like a sister to me. We've been friends for four years now. Anyway, someone blocked me on facebook for discussing religous beliefs and they took offense, and then they proceeded to block my girlfriend as well, because of my views even though she doesn't even hold the same views.

Point is, that my girlfriend started "crying" all over the place, posting her pity me story that she got blocked because of "my internet friend" (me). I don't blame her for "crying" - she was after all blocked for something she didn't do and she did like that person's page.

But, why does the term "internet friend" bug me? It's not like I dont' spend money on this chick when her birthday and christmas come around, and vice versa.

Could I be disconnected from reality?? Because that is after all what she is... we never met, but still I wonder why that term "internet friend" bothers me. Has anyone here felt the same way?

[BlueAfterglow08]

Hang on is she a girlfriend of friend. Im confused here?

[Lucius]

Originally Posted by stormie

but still I wonder why that term "internet friend" bothers me.

It bothers you because she placed a qualifier on "friend". You were sitting there feel like a "friend"; now you discover that she sees you as an "internet friend." You sense a disparity, and feel uneasy about the qualifier "internet". Does that mean she doesn't see me as a "real friend", you wonder? It particularly bothers you because it comes during a rant of sorts - making it seem like a way to distance herself from you. As though, by adding that qualifier, she seemed to say: "and she's not even a REAL friend."

Nah, you're not disconnected from reality. That would bug me too were I you.

[stormie]

Originally Posted by Lucius

It bothers you because she placed a qualifier on "friend". You were sitting there feel like a "friend"; now you discover that she sees you as an "internet friend." You sense a disparity, and feel uneasy about the qualifier "internet". Does that mean she doesn't see me as a "real friend", you wonder? It particularly bothers you because it comes during a rant of sorts - making it seem like a way to distance herself from you. As though, by adding that qualifier, she seemed to say: "and she's not even a REAL friend."

Nah, you're not disconnected from reality. That would bug me too were I you.

Yeah, that's exactly it, and it hurts.

How would you handle this.


Afterglow - she's just a friend. We're both females.

[BlueAfterglow08]

Oh I see! I did wonder if you were in a relationship regardless of gender but I understand it a little better now.

Perhaps she only said it so her friends understand who you are because they might wonder why they've never met you and the best way to explain it is her 'internet friend'

But I agree with the other poster, I totally understand why your feeling what your feeling, it is kind of playing down your friendship and sounding bitter. I'd ask her if she is upset at you over it all.

[stormie]

Originally Posted by BlueAfterglow08

Oh I see! I did wonder if you were in a relationship regardless of gender but I understand it a little better now.

Perhaps she only said it so her friends understand who you are because they might wonder why they've never met you and the best way to explain it is her 'internet friend'

But I agree with the other poster, I totally understand why your feeling what your feeling, it is kind of playing down your friendship and sounding bitter. I'd ask her if she is upset at you over it all.

well, she isn't because she had an argument with the guy that blocked her on my blog.

It's upsetting. Last christmas I gave that girl an expensive gift, and here she is referring to me as an internet friend. Makes me feel like a fool.

[BlueAfterglow08]

Your not a fool. Could you try telling her it upset you. it isnt petty, you might get some assurance from her she didnt mean it like that.

[stormie]

Originally Posted by BlueAfterglow08

Your not a fool. Could you try telling her it upset you. it isnt petty, you might get some assurance from her she didnt mean it like that.

I don't know how to do so without making her defensive. Besides, she's a conflict avoider. She doesn't like confrontations much. What would you say or do?

[BlueAfterglow08]

Im the same as you. I'd be upset and hurt because of the time and money I'd invested in a friendship regardless of it being online ,I wouldnt like to be called an 'internet friend' my online friends I say to people who dont know them I'll be like 'Oh you know X, the one I met online' Rather than 'My internet friend'

I think maybe, if you can't talk to her about it, try and let it go this time, if she says it again i'd ask why she calls you it.

[stormie]

Originally Posted by BlueAfterglow08

Im the same as you. I'd be upset and hurt because of the time and money I'd invested in a friendship regardless of it being online ,I wouldnt like to be called an 'internet friend' my online friends I say to people who dont know them I'll be like 'Oh you know X, the one I met online' Rather than 'My internet friend'

I think maybe, if you can't talk to her about it, try and let it go this time, if she says it again i'd ask why she calls you it.

I think maybe, if you can't talk to her about it, try and let it go this time, if she says it again i'd ask why she calls you it