Advice: Add your thoughts

petnames · 11-03-2009, 08:46 PM

So the last day or so i have written a few posts, one explaining my situation in detail and the others more specific to certain concerns. i have posted in other threads and read a lot of them. i have come to some realizations and i want to explain what seems to be helping me deal and move towards possible reconciliation or moving on.
First, anyone who is seriously struggling, especially recent dumpees, go work out. i know its hard and the last thing you want to do. it was the same for me. But once you go, it will feel good enough that u will want to go back, just to get the good feeling back (the pain doesnt go away but your body feels good). Second, if at all possible, see a psychologist or counselor, someone who you have no guilt opening up to totally and obsessing about your problems with. i have continued to do this, and when i get the urge to call and talk to my ex, i try to look forward to the next appointment as the time that i can release all of those feelings and get professional advice. Finally, in between, this board is great. Read others stories, post your own, and if you are having a crisis, instead of talking to your ex, throw it up on here. i know this is all pretty basic stuff that i bet you have all heard, but writing things out helps me and i want to be able to go back and look at it.

Feel free to add things to do

Tibber · 11-03-2009, 09:03 PM

I can agree with working out. Going to the gym every morning is pretty much the only thing I really look forward to every day. It improves my attitude and I am losing weight which is awesome. An added bonus is you are around a lot of good looking people

If you are a shy person like me, try to force yourself to start conversations with people. I have found talking to people makes me feel a lot better. Even if I'm not talking about my breakup, it helps a lot.

petnames · 11-03-2009, 09:12 PM

actually that is great advice. Talking to new people is a huge boost for me, it is something i can hold onto that wasnt there while i was with my ex. it may only help in the moment of the interaction, but hey, take what you can get

petnames · 11-03-2009, 09:12 PM

also, reading is good as it occupies your mind and gives it something else to think about

11-03-2009, 08:46 PM	#1
petnames Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Los Angeles Gender: Male Posts: 103	Advice: Add your thoughts So the last day or so i have written a few posts, one explaining my situation in detail and the others more specific to certain concerns. i have posted in other threads and read a lot of them. i have come to some realizations and i want to explain what seems to be helping me deal and move towards possible reconciliation or moving on. First, anyone who is seriously struggling, especially recent dumpees, go work out. i know its hard and the last thing you want to do. it was the same for me. But once you go, it will feel good enough that u will want to go back, just to get the good feeling back (the pain doesnt go away but your body feels good). Second, if at all possible, see a psychologist or counselor, someone who you have no guilt opening up to totally and obsessing about your problems with. i have continued to do this, and when i get the urge to call and talk to my ex, i try to look forward to the next appointment as the time that i can release all of those feelings and get professional advice. Finally, in between, this board is great. Read others stories, post your own, and if you are having a crisis, instead of talking to your ex, throw it up on here. i know this is all pretty basic stuff that i bet you have all heard, but writing things out helps me and i want to be able to go back and look at it. Feel free to add things to do

11-03-2009, 09:03 PM	#2
Tibber Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Colorado Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 141	I can agree with working out. Going to the gym every morning is pretty much the only thing I really look forward to every day. It improves my attitude and I am losing weight which is awesome. An added bonus is you are around a lot of good looking people If you are a shy person like me, try to force yourself to start conversations with people. I have found talking to people makes me feel a lot better. Even if I'm not talking about my breakup, it helps a lot.

11-03-2009, 09:12 PM	#3
petnames Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Los Angeles Gender: Male Posts: 103	actually that is great advice. Talking to new people is a huge boost for me, it is something i can hold onto that wasnt there while i was with my ex. it may only help in the moment of the interaction, but hey, take what you can get