Men:How important is your "type"?

limbo101 · 11-03-2009, 08:35 PM

I have mostly found myself to be most attracted to tall, dark, and handsome...well of course...right? I'm not saying drop dead gorgeous, I just have a tendency to find dark hair, dark eyes to be what attracts me the most...however, in looking for the right one, this is not what I seek. In that case, it should simply be someone I'm attracted to with all of the other qualities that make him my soul mate. But for all I know he will end up blond haired and blue-eyed.

If your talking extreme, it isn't as though I will ever go for grossly overweight...that is and always will be, a major turn off for me...so leave the extreme circumstances out...

Say your usually into petite, small framed women. Add long, dark hair to that. Add a good sized chest to that. Add brown eyes to that. Can you see yourself with curvy, blond, smaller sized chest instead?...Assuming you think she's very beautiful still, of course...and your chemistry is pretty deep...OR, when you think about your "type", is that the only kind of woman you will consider being and staying with?

Lucius · 11-03-2009, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by limbo101

Say your usually into petite, small framed women. Add long, dark hair to that. Add a good sized chest to that. Add brown eyes to that. Can you see yourself with curvy, blond, smaller sized chest instead?...Assuming you think she's very beautiful still, of course...and your chemistry is pretty deep...OR, when you think about your "type", is that the only kind of woman you will consider being and staying with?

Actually, your description of one hypothetical man's ideal woman (dark hair, dark eyes, etc,) is almost exactly what I go for. Except that an hour-glass figure is at least as appealing as a petite one. But anyway.

In answer to your question: Yep. I could ABSOLUTELY be happy with a woman, long-term, who didn't reflect my physical ideal. As you say, there can still be plenty of attraction and chemistry without every preferential box being ticked. There's a whole host of things that I find beautiful, and the stuff that really counts is of course not tied up with any physical trait. For me, what I REALLY look for, is an open mind and a happy heart. And that can come wrapped in any number of female forms.

Day_Walker · 11-03-2009, 08:47 PM

That is going to depend on the guy, some of my friends strictly adhere to their "type" while others do not.

Cminor7th · 11-03-2009, 08:49 PM

I don't have a defined list, but I want my girl to be in shape, and educated, that's it for the most part. I often have a tendency to date Asian or Latina women....

That is just a preference, but I am EEO when it comes to dating...

Christiana · 11-03-2009, 08:49 PM

funny uou say that OP. I have always been attracted to tall dark and handome, and I married a blonde with blue eyes!

1MoreChance · 11-03-2009, 08:52 PM

My type changes from relationship to relationship, it depends on the individual. It surprises me every time. It's a matter of chemistry, attraction and interest in the person..

Keyman · 11-03-2009, 09:11 PM

I've had several long term relationship and to be honest, none of them were particularly alike in what they looked like, body shape etc. Yes there are things I am attracted to... pale skin, freckles, smaller breast sized, taller women, long hair etc... But I've been in relationships with tanned, freckless, large breasted shorter haired women too.

Sure there are certain things that catch my eye, but they are surprisingly different. One moment it's the long blonde hair of the blonde lady who just walked past, the next it's the smile of the attractive older lady with shorter brown hair.

The subject isn't so black and white, it's many shades of grey.

mysticdaisy · 11-03-2009, 09:23 PM

The last 5 people I have dated (all women - don't really "date" men per se):

-freckly, medium hair, medium height, white
-tiny, thin, super short dark hair Winona type
-tall, athletic, black, long dark hair
-tiny, but somewhat curvier, Chinese, medium hair
-medium height, white, sort of muscular/broad actual college athlete (sounds gross in writing, but I mean cute swimmer muscular, not weight lifting muscular)

Anyway, all completely and utterly different. I think I have more of a list of negatives than any sort of list of specific positives:
-Frumpiness
-Too much makeup/jewelry, etc.
-Skanky clothes
-Anything approaching unhealthily skinny or overweight
-Bad posture

jonny15 · 11-03-2009, 09:34 PM

It isn't very important.

Granted i'm not for sure what my type is....I like most of them. But even if they didn't fit it, it wouldn't be a big deal.

newsinglegal · 11-05-2009, 01:34 AM

i know i stick to one type...in shape and tall, latino or mix latino and white....thts about it...

11-03-2009, 08:35 PM	#1
limbo101 Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 32	Men:How important is your "type"? I have mostly found myself to be most attracted to tall, dark, and handsome...well of course...right? I'm not saying drop dead gorgeous, I just have a tendency to find dark hair, dark eyes to be what attracts me the most...however, in looking for the right one, this is not what I seek. In that case, it should simply be someone I'm attracted to with all of the other qualities that make him my soul mate. But for all I know he will end up blond haired and blue-eyed. If your talking extreme, it isn't as though I will ever go for grossly overweight...that is and always will be, a major turn off for me...so leave the extreme circumstances out... Say your usually into petite, small framed women. Add long, dark hair to that. Add a good sized chest to that. Add brown eyes to that. Can you see yourself with curvy, blond, smaller sized chest instead?...Assuming you think she's very beautiful still, of course...and your chemistry is pretty deep...OR, when you think about your "type", is that the only kind of woman you will consider being and staying with?

11-03-2009, 08:47 PM	#3
Day_Walker Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: California Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 4,881	That is going to depend on the guy, some of my friends strictly adhere to their "type" while others do not. __________________ "A long habit of not thinking a thing wrong gives it the superficial appearance of being right, and raises at first a formidable outcry in defense of custom. But the tumult soon subsides. Time makes more converts than reason." Thomas Paine "The wise man questions others wisdom because he questions his own, the foolish man because it is different from his own." Leo Stein

11-03-2009, 08:49 PM	#4
Cminor7th Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: 13th Colony Posts: 156	No type :) I don't have a defined list, but I want my girl to be in shape, and educated, that's it for the most part. I often have a tendency to date Asian or Latina women.... That is just a preference, but I am EEO when it comes to dating...

11-03-2009, 08:49 PM	#5
Christiana Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 300	funny uou say that OP. I have always been attracted to tall dark and handome, and I married a blonde with blue eyes! __________________ "All I know is I have a GED and a give em' hell attitude" ~Dean Winchester-Supernatural

11-03-2009, 08:52 PM	#6
1MoreChance Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Gender: Female Age: 37 Posts: 1,358	My type changes from relationship to relationship, it depends on the individual. It surprises me every time. It's a matter of chemistry, attraction and interest in the person.. __________________ Fake it til you make it!

11-03-2009, 09:11 PM	#7
Keyman Offline Gold Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Brisbane, Australia Gender: Male Age: 38 Posts: 971	I've had several long term relationship and to be honest, none of them were particularly alike in what they looked like, body shape etc. Yes there are things I am attracted to... pale skin, freckles, smaller breast sized, taller women, long hair etc... But I've been in relationships with tanned, freckless, large breasted shorter haired women too. Sure there are certain things that catch my eye, but they are surprisingly different. One moment it's the long blonde hair of the blonde lady who just walked past, the next it's the smile of the attractive older lady with shorter brown hair. The subject isn't so black and white, it's many shades of grey. __________________ Now Blogging at: http://www.keymanrelates.wordpress.com

11-03-2009, 09:23 PM	#8
mysticdaisy Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 221	The last 5 people I have dated (all women - don't really "date" men per se): -freckly, medium hair, medium height, white -tiny, thin, super short dark hair Winona type -tall, athletic, black, long dark hair -tiny, but somewhat curvier, Chinese, medium hair -medium height, white, sort of muscular/broad actual college athlete (sounds gross in writing, but I mean cute swimmer muscular, not weight lifting muscular) Anyway, all completely and utterly different. I think I have more of a list of negatives than any sort of list of specific positives: -Frumpiness -Too much makeup/jewelry, etc. -Skanky clothes -Anything approaching unhealthily skinny or overweight -Bad posture

11-03-2009, 09:34 PM	#9
jonny15 Offline Silver Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Memphis, TN. Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 1,189	It isn't very important. Granted i'm not for sure what my type is....I like most of them. But even if they didn't fit it, it wouldn't be a big deal.

11-05-2009, 01:34 AM	#10
newsinglegal Offline Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 111	i know i stick to one type...in shape and tall, latino or mix latino and white....thts about it...