What do women want for their birthday

technophobic · 11-03-2009, 08:29 PM

Help,

I am confused. I and my Fiance are travelling to the United States over Christmas and of of course do not have to much money.

1. First I asked what she wanted for her birthday and she said that she did not want anything just to save the money for the trip.
2. Then she said that she wants a gift voucher
3. Then she said she wants some expensive shampoo.
4. I got to work at thought I lost the list.
5. I emailed her telling her that that and requesting what she wanted
6. I found the list (in my top pocket) and emailed her telling her that,
7. She replied saying that she is very disappointed and hated me for not buying a present!!!????

Presently I am in my Final semester exams (Law) working full time, trying to sell the flat that is being letted out after I moved in with her, struggling to pay the mortgage as well as pay rent and all this considering I earn about $5000 grand less than her (presently). (I have some money in my account but that is from my dead grandmother!!!) Stressed out and then this!!!!

Basically I don't have any money to spend and get into trouble for not spending any.

p.s. I also called up the restaurant she wanted to go to and was told that it was booked out. She called back after work and after I got home after an exam (missing the Melbourne Cup) and was able to book a table.

Can anyone help as I have no Idea what I am doing wrong considering the stress I am under!!

Thanks

livinginsbi · 11-03-2009, 08:38 PM

All I really want is just some recognition that it is a special day for me... doesn't have to be loud and obnoxious. A present would be nice, but again.. nothing dramatic.. the nicest is when the present has a special meaning between me and the giver.

sophie274 · 11-03-2009, 08:44 PM

Is her birthday today, and you e-mailed her today asking her to tell you again what she wanted?

Not sure on what happened when exactly, but I think she probably wanted you to plan something in advance, and is upset that you just tried to buy/organize something at the very last minute. I agree that she gave mixed signals on what she wanted, but I'm guessing that she wanted you to plan something a little special, regardless of how much money you spent on it or not.

yeawutever · 11-03-2009, 10:11 PM

I'm happy with getting a call for my birthday at least and wishing me luck.. If I wasn't in LDR then a call and just him showing up is all I need....

mca1975 · 11-04-2009, 09:06 AM

I would have expected a small present at least, and a card. I am sure you can afford that, it doesn't have to be expensive. I can see that she is angered because you forgot the list/forgot what she wanted and had to ask her again, which indicates that it wasn't on your mind that much.

I know you have been stressed/are stressed, but it's still her birthday and its obvious you mean a lot to her.

What I would do now is just surprise her with some flowers and a card, but make it a surprise along with an apology....

11-03-2009, 08:29 PM	#1
technophobic Offline Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 1	What do women want for their birthday Help, I am confused. I and my Fiance are travelling to the United States over Christmas and of of course do not have to much money. 1. First I asked what she wanted for her birthday and she said that she did not want anything just to save the money for the trip. 2. Then she said that she wants a gift voucher 3. Then she said she wants some expensive shampoo. 4. I got to work at thought I lost the list. 5. I emailed her telling her that that and requesting what she wanted 6. I found the list (in my top pocket) and emailed her telling her that, 7. She replied saying that she is very disappointed and hated me for not buying a present!!!???? Presently I am in my Final semester exams (Law) working full time, trying to sell the flat that is being letted out after I moved in with her, struggling to pay the mortgage as well as pay rent and all this considering I earn about $5000 grand less than her (presently). (I have some money in my account but that is from my dead grandmother!!!) Stressed out and then this!!!! Basically I don't have any money to spend and get into trouble for not spending any. p.s. I also called up the restaurant she wanted to go to and was told that it was booked out. She called back after work and after I got home after an exam (missing the Melbourne Cup) and was able to book a table. Can anyone help as I have no Idea what I am doing wrong considering the stress I am under!! Thanks

11-03-2009, 08:38 PM	#2
livinginsbi Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: oHIo Gender: Female Age: 47 Posts: 1,308	All I really want is just some recognition that it is a special day for me... doesn't have to be loud and obnoxious. A present would be nice, but again.. nothing dramatic.. the nicest is when the present has a special meaning between me and the giver. __________________ << Best QB in the NFL! Colts 9-0.... First of all.. thank you Bill for being the greedy ass you are and going for it on 4th down! lol... You gave Peyton all the opportunity he needed! GO COLTS! I'm not bi... not that there's anything wrong with that..

11-03-2009, 10:11 PM	#4
yeawutever Online Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Age: 22 Posts: 5,673	I'm happy with getting a call for my birthday at least and wishing me luck.. If I wasn't in LDR then a call and just him showing up is all I need.... __________________ Opened-minded to those in need of help. Not everything is black and white as it seems.... If you're gonna do something, think twice and make sure it's something worthy that you don't later on regret!!!!!!!!!!! Still in a LDR with boyfriend.

11-04-2009, 09:06 AM	#5
mca1975 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: London Gender: Female Posts: 2,304	I would have expected a small present at least, and a card. I am sure you can afford that, it doesn't have to be expensive. I can see that she is angered because you forgot the list/forgot what she wanted and had to ask her again, which indicates that it wasn't on your mind that much. I know you have been stressed/are stressed, but it's still her birthday and its obvious you mean a lot to her. What I would do now is just surprise her with some flowers and a card, but make it a surprise along with an apology.... __________________ mca1975 x

11-03-2009, 08:44 PM	#3
sophie274 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 2,062	Is her birthday today, and you e-mailed her today asking her to tell you again what she wanted? Not sure on what happened when exactly, but I think she probably wanted you to plan something in advance, and is upset that you just tried to buy/organize something at the very last minute. I agree that she gave mixed signals on what she wanted, but I'm guessing that she wanted you to plan something a little special, regardless of how much money you spent on it or not.