sex addict or just a man?

Christiana · 11-03-2009, 08:17 PM

how can you tell the difference between a sex addict or just a typical man? my husband wants sex at least a couple times a day every day, he says it's what he thinks about at work when he's bored, and he gets hard even looking at me. But we have just been married 1 year and he only had sex a few times a long time ago with someone he didn't like.

TechResQ · 11-03-2009, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Christiana

how can you tell the difference between a sex addict or ust a typical man? my husband wants sex at least a couple times a day every day, he says it's what he thinks about at work when he's bored, and he gets hard even looking at me. But we have just been married 1 year and he only had sex a few times a long time ago with someone he didn't like.

He is adicted to sex with YOU!!! And that is a very good thing. Go with it! You are a lucky girl!

Christiana · 11-03-2009, 08:24 PM

thanx but how do you know when it's Just you?

_Asti_ · 11-03-2009, 08:26 PM

Sounds like a just normal, healthy sex drive. Not addiction.

An addiction is a habit, something you are dependent on, that you need.

He sounds like my guy. Has been that way for years. Its certainly not an addiction, he just has a very high sex drive.

doyathink · 11-03-2009, 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Christiana

how can you tell the difference between a sex addict or just a typical man?

LMAO! Good question!

Jmant · 11-03-2009, 08:28 PM

Hmm, this is a tough one.

Comming from the perspective of a male with a high sex drive. I too crave it on a daily basis, and it hasn't been a problem in the relationships I've been in cept one.

With the limited info you've given I don't want to make assumptions.

I think an addict would exhibit a few things though:

-intense anger and frustration if you weren't in the mood
-a possible addiction to porn
-forcing sex on you regularly when you don't want it.
-a lack of romance
-expecting sex as a payment for doing nice things for you

-D- · 11-03-2009, 08:29 PM

Sounds healthy to me. Enjoy it!

Christiana · 11-03-2009, 08:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Jmant

Hmm, this is a tough one.

Comming from the perspective of a male with a high sex drive. I too crave it on a daily basis, and it hasn't been a problem in the relationships I've been in cept one.

With the limited info you've given I don't want to make assumptions.

I think an addict would exhibit a few things though:

-intense anger and frustration if you weren't in the mood
-a possible addiction to porn
-forcing sex on you regularly when you don't want it.
-a lack of romance
-expecting sex as a payment for doing nice things for you

he doesn't have any of those! whew...

dragon lady · 11-03-2009, 08:31 PM

Sex addiction is not a recognised disorder by the mental health community, as there are no official criteria. If you want to think of it like an impulse control disorder, then there have been a couple of models proposed.

This is one:

1. Recurrent failure (pattern) to resist impulses to engage in extreme acts of lewd sex.
2. Frequently engaging in those behaviors to a greater extent or over a longer period of time than intended.
3. Persistent desire or unsuccessful efforts to stop, reduce, or control those behaviors.
4. Inordinate amount of time spent in obtaining sex, being sexual, or recovering from sexual experience.
5. Preoccupation with the behavior or preparatory activities.
6. Frequently engaging in violent sexual behavior when expected to fulfill occupational, academic, domestic, or social obligations.
7. Continuation of the behavior despite knowledge of having a persistent or recurrent social, academic, financial, psychological, or physical problem that is caused or exacerbated by the behavior.
8. Need to increase the intensity, frequency, number, or risk of behaviors to achieve the desired effect, or diminished effect with continued behaviors at the same level of intensity, frequency, number, or risk.
9. Giving up or limiting social, occupational, or recreational activities because of the behavior.
10. Resorting to distress, anxiety, restlessness, or violence if unable to engage in the behavior at times relating to SRD (Sexual Rage Disorder).

Does this sound like your husband?

Christiana · 11-03-2009, 08:31 PM

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Originally Posted by dragon lady

Sex addiction is not a recognised disorder by the mental health community, as there are no official criteria. If you want to think of it like an impulse control disorder, then there have been a couple of models proposed.

This is one:

1. Recurrent failure (pattern) to resist impulses to engage in extreme acts of lewd sex.
2. Frequently engaging in those behaviors to a greater extent or over a longer period of time than intended.
3. Persistent desire or unsuccessful efforts to stop, reduce, or control those behaviors.
4. Inordinate amount of time spent in obtaining sex, being sexual, or recovering from sexual experience.
5. Preoccupation with the behavior or preparatory activities.
6. Frequently engaging in violent sexual behavior when expected to fulfill occupational, academic, domestic, or social obligations.
7. Continuation of the behavior despite knowledge of having a persistent or recurrent social, academic, financial, psychological, or physical problem that is caused or exacerbated by the behavior.
8. Need to increase the intensity, frequency, number, or risk of behaviors to achieve the desired effect, or diminished effect with continued behaviors at the same level of intensity, frequency, number, or risk.
9. Giving up or limiting social, occupational, or recreational activities because of the behavior.
10. Resorting to distress, anxiety, restlessness, or violence if unable to engage in the behavior at times relating to SRD (Sexual Rage Disorder).

Does this sound like your husband?

not at all!

11-03-2009, 08:17 PM	#1
Christiana Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 300	sex addict or just a man? how can you tell the difference between a sex addict or just a typical man? my husband wants sex at least a couple times a day every day, he says it's what he thinks about at work when he's bored, and he gets hard even looking at me. But we have just been married 1 year and he only had sex a few times a long time ago with someone he didn't like. __________________ "All I know is I have a GED and a give em' hell attitude" ~Dean Winchester-Supernatural Last edited by Christiana; 11-03-2009 at 08:24 PM.

11-03-2009, 08:24 PM	#3
Christiana Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 300	thanx but how do you know when it's Just you? __________________ "All I know is I have a GED and a give em' hell attitude" ~Dean Winchester-Supernatural

11-03-2009, 08:26 PM	#4
_Asti_ Online Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 2,354	Sounds like a just normal, healthy sex drive. Not addiction. An addiction is a habit, something you are dependent on, that you need. He sounds like my guy. Has been that way for years. Its certainly not an addiction, he just has a very high sex drive. __________________ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ __________________ I got so much love For you darlin' and I, I wanna let you know how I feel And it's true that I love you And it's true your the only one and I do, I adore you And it's true You make me feel alive ___________________

11-03-2009, 08:29 PM	#7
-D- Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 477	Sounds healthy to me. Enjoy it! __________________ Happiness is not a journey, it's a way of life.

11-03-2009, 08:28 PM	#6
Jmant Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: California Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 35	Hmm, this is a tough one. Comming from the perspective of a male with a high sex drive. I too crave it on a daily basis, and it hasn't been a problem in the relationships I've been in cept one. With the limited info you've given I don't want to make assumptions. I think an addict would exhibit a few things though: -intense anger and frustration if you weren't in the mood -a possible addiction to porn -forcing sex on you regularly when you don't want it. -a lack of romance -expecting sex as a payment for doing nice things for you

11-03-2009, 08:31 PM	#9
dragon lady Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 2,614	Sex addiction is not a recognised disorder by the mental health community, as there are no official criteria. If you want to think of it like an impulse control disorder, then there have been a couple of models proposed. This is one: 1. Recurrent failure (pattern) to resist impulses to engage in extreme acts of lewd sex. 2. Frequently engaging in those behaviors to a greater extent or over a longer period of time than intended. 3. Persistent desire or unsuccessful efforts to stop, reduce, or control those behaviors. 4. Inordinate amount of time spent in obtaining sex, being sexual, or recovering from sexual experience. 5. Preoccupation with the behavior or preparatory activities. 6. Frequently engaging in violent sexual behavior when expected to fulfill occupational, academic, domestic, or social obligations. 7. Continuation of the behavior despite knowledge of having a persistent or recurrent social, academic, financial, psychological, or physical problem that is caused or exacerbated by the behavior. 8. Need to increase the intensity, frequency, number, or risk of behaviors to achieve the desired effect, or diminished effect with continued behaviors at the same level of intensity, frequency, number, or risk. 9. Giving up or limiting social, occupational, or recreational activities because of the behavior. 10. Resorting to distress, anxiety, restlessness, or violence if unable to engage in the behavior at times relating to SRD (Sexual Rage Disorder). Does this sound like your husband?