Im 26 (woman), they're 17 (guys)... :s

Ezza · 11-03-2009, 07:55 PM

Ok... I have a bit of a complicated issue (aside from the huge age gap!).

There are two guys at my church, both of whom are 17 and both of whom are best mates and go to the same school. Now guy one we will call M. Guy 2 we will call A.

From the moment I met M I was instantly attracted to him, so much so that I actually thought "wow...pity I have a b/f". My own b/f (now my ex - he split with me) was 19 at the time, so younger doesn't really bother me overly...

Anyway, since my b/f and I split, I have been flirting around with M but i think it's pretty clear that hes not all that interested or has no idea Im into him. Haven't been really pursuing it overly hard anyway because I am wondering if 17 really is too young for me...I mean, he is still at school, can't drive, can't drink/go out, no job etc... what in heck do we really have in common? At least my ex @ 19 could do and had all those things...

Anyway, went to church camp on the weekend and M was busy chasing after younger girls there so I just let it be. However I ended up hanging out (or rather being hung out with) by A. Followed me around everywhere but was quite comfortable etc. Spent time with him outside of church camp too. Was pretty clear he was into me. Now A is a really lovely guy, would make a great b/f, has a lot of respect for women and can be somewhat mature for his age. Was pretty obv A was interested... But I told him I was interested in M. But now I am kinda thinking about A... txted him yesterday for a bit. We do have a bit in common (motorbikes, cars etc)

Im confused because I really like M but def don't think I've got a shot there anyway even if I wanted it but A is really nice too although Im not as attracted to him and think I shouldn't really be entertaining ideas in regards to either anyway because they're both so young...anyway, thoughts would be appreciated. Should I just leave both alone and forget about it? Can't stop thinking about them!

CmplxDame08 · 11-03-2009, 07:56 PM

Those are young boys and you are a woman,you might want to wait until they are legal and or a bit more mature.

Theblueman123 · 11-03-2009, 08:03 PM

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Originally Posted by CmplxDame08

Those are young boys and you are a woman,you might want to wait until they are legal and or a bit more mature.

Legal in Texas, but maturity on the other hand...

solsticefall · 11-03-2009, 08:04 PM

Wow. That's called statutory rape where I live (assuming you'd have sex with either of them before they turned 1

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solsticefall · 11-03-2009, 08:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Theblueman123

Legal in Texas, but maturity on the other hand...

Really? What exactly is age of consent in Texas?

MD Geist · 11-03-2009, 08:05 PM

You might wanna wait on this one not only for them to become legal but also for maturty reasons.

I know if I had a 26 year old trying to get with me when I hit 18 I wouldn't have taken it serious and it would have been more sexual than anything.

Dinka · 11-03-2009, 08:06 PM

Although there isn't a HUGE year difference between 17 and 26, there is a big AGE difference.

These "boys" are still "kids" (apologies to all the teenagers on this board, but trust me when I say that you'll agree with me in about five or six years). I would say that even at 19 years old, like your ex, they are still too young for you. This is the age when people just BEGIN to figure out who they are. This is a part of the "growing up" process, and it's something that you have likely already gone through.

I don't think it's healthy to entertain being in relationships with either of them. Might I ask why you're inclined to seek out younger men?

At any rate, 17 is too young for a 26 year-old, whether it's the lady or the fellow who is older.

Victoria66 · 11-03-2009, 08:06 PM

There is an enormous difference in maturity between 26 and 17.

solsticefall · 11-03-2009, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by MD Geist

You might wanna wait on this one not only for them to become legal but also for maturty reasons.

I know if I had a 26 year old trying to get with me when I hit 18 I wouldn't have taken it serious and it would have been more sexual than anything.

Haha. As horny as I was when I was 18, I can't imagine how old would've been too old given the opportunity.

Dinka · 11-03-2009, 08:13 PM

When I was 17, I would have considered a 26 year-old to be OLD.

Now that I'm 25, I'm like, "Awww, man. I'm not old." lol

But, yeah. Age difference = wayyyyy too big.

11-03-2009, 07:55 PM	#1
Ezza Offline Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 2	Im 26 (woman), they're 17 (guys)... :s Ok... I have a bit of a complicated issue (aside from the huge age gap!). There are two guys at my church, both of whom are 17 and both of whom are best mates and go to the same school. Now guy one we will call M. Guy 2 we will call A. From the moment I met M I was instantly attracted to him, so much so that I actually thought "wow...pity I have a b/f". My own b/f (now my ex - he split with me) was 19 at the time, so younger doesn't really bother me overly... Anyway, since my b/f and I split, I have been flirting around with M but i think it's pretty clear that hes not all that interested or has no idea Im into him. Haven't been really pursuing it overly hard anyway because I am wondering if 17 really is too young for me...I mean, he is still at school, can't drive, can't drink/go out, no job etc... what in heck do we really have in common? At least my ex @ 19 could do and had all those things... Anyway, went to church camp on the weekend and M was busy chasing after younger girls there so I just let it be. However I ended up hanging out (or rather being hung out with) by A. Followed me around everywhere but was quite comfortable etc. Spent time with him outside of church camp too. Was pretty clear he was into me. Now A is a really lovely guy, would make a great b/f, has a lot of respect for women and can be somewhat mature for his age. Was pretty obv A was interested... But I told him I was interested in M. But now I am kinda thinking about A... txted him yesterday for a bit. We do have a bit in common (motorbikes, cars etc) Im confused because I really like M but def don't think I've got a shot there anyway even if I wanted it but A is really nice too although Im not as attracted to him and think I shouldn't really be entertaining ideas in regards to either anyway because they're both so young...anyway, thoughts would be appreciated. Should I just leave both alone and forget about it? Can't stop thinking about them!

11-03-2009, 08:04 PM	#4
solsticefall Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Alone in the Superunknown Gender: Male Posts: 131	Wow. That's called statutory rape where I live (assuming you'd have sex with either of them before they turned 1.

11-03-2009, 08:05 PM	#6
MD Geist Offline Silver Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: CO Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,203	You might wanna wait on this one not only for them to become legal but also for maturty reasons. I know if I had a 26 year old trying to get with me when I hit 18 I wouldn't have taken it serious and it would have been more sexual than anything. __________________ Formerly known as Madoc

11-03-2009, 08:06 PM	#7
Dinka Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 402	Although there isn't a HUGE year difference between 17 and 26, there is a big AGE difference. These "boys" are still "kids" (apologies to all the teenagers on this board, but trust me when I say that you'll agree with me in about five or six years). I would say that even at 19 years old, like your ex, they are still too young for you. This is the age when people just BEGIN to figure out who they are. This is a part of the "growing up" process, and it's something that you have likely already gone through. I don't think it's healthy to entertain being in relationships with either of them. Might I ask why you're inclined to seek out younger men? At any rate, 17 is too young for a 26 year-old, whether it's the lady or the fellow who is older. __________________ "I'd like to introduce you to the long lost sister of Debbie Downer and Negative Nancy.... Petulant Patty!" "This is starting to sound like Rainbow Brite on way too many barbiturates."

11-03-2009, 08:06 PM	#8
Victoria66 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: for now where the CF sends us Gender: Female Age: 43 Posts: 4,602	There is an enormous difference in maturity between 26 and 17. __________________ ADHD= Attention Dialed into a Higher Dimension. For my Indigo son. Know how to suffer and how to laugh. Mother Teresa If you judge people you have no time to love them. Mother Teresa Run amok empath= the end of little miss nice girl. Tomorrow IS another day. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5EM7FaOc3Zk What Child Is This.

11-03-2009, 07:56 PM	#2
CmplxDame08 Online Gold Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Gender: None Specified Posts: 742	Those are young boys and you are a woman,you might want to wait until they are legal and or a bit more mature.

11-03-2009, 08:13 PM	#10
Dinka Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 402	When I was 17, I would have considered a 26 year-old to be OLD. Now that I'm 25, I'm like, "Awww, man. I'm not old." lol But, yeah. Age difference = wayyyyy too big. __________________ "I'd like to introduce you to the long lost sister of Debbie Downer and Negative Nancy.... Petulant Patty!" "This is starting to sound like Rainbow Brite on way too many barbiturates."