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Today I was stopping by my dad's house to get my mail (I've moved out recently), and was talking to him in his office. All the sudden, windows media player pops up on his computer screen, which was in clear view. It was definitely a porn clip, with sound too. My dad kind of chuckled and said "Dad porn! You caught me!" and then closed the window.

 

I was mortified. I just looked away and didn't say anything as he was closing the window, but I had to hold back my tears. We continued talking for another 10 minutes probably, and managed to have a relatively normal conversation, although I felt like I was going to puke and scream and cry.

 

This wouldn't be such a big deal, but I am a girl, and my dad and I have never, ever had any discussion about sex, pornography, birth control, or anything in that domain. When we see movies with sex scenes, I get uncomfortable, just because my family NEVER, EVER talks about sex. I'm freaked out. I feel like I'll never be able to see him without thinking of this. I'm embarrassed, for myself, and for him. He must feel completely mortified as well, that his daughter caught him.

 

Maybe this feeling will pass in a day or two, but right now I'm ridiculously preoccupied with it. I'm trying to keep one thing in mind though: I could have caught him masturbating, and I didn't. It could have been A LOT worse.

 

So, anyone caught their parents with porn? Did you get over it or do you still think about it every time you see them?

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I dont live at home and one day i talked to my mom and she said something was at the house for me.... the car was gone i thought they weren't home and (shutter) i walked in on my dad masturbating while watching porn on his computer......i just said... "oops i caught you at a bad time"...lol

 

I never mentioned it to him and he never mentioned it to me. It is extremely disturbing ..but it fades.

 

Dads are human - they masturbate....

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I caught my dad countless times when I lived at home. The most memorable, and embarrassing, was when I was responsible for brining a floppy disk to school for a group presentation (I didn't think to check them prior) they all had very graphic images saved onto them. I understand how awkward you must have felt, but a very important point that has been made is just to remember he's a man, after all.

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Once I was doing computer maintenance on my aunt's computer, including deleting unneeded files to make more room on her hard drive.

 

The problem is that my aunt is a semi-computer-literate fuss budget who must view every file before I'm allowed to delete it. She also has a son who was in his late teens or early 20s at the time.

 

You can see what's coming can't you?

 

I start seeing jpg files with filenames like "babysitter" and "naughty" and I'm avoiding all jpg files now because I can guess those are her son's pics and my imagination is running wild. I avoided those files until they were the only ones left. In an hour's time, the woman never went to bathroom or got a coffee, or even blinked because she's a fuss budget who has to watch everything, even though I'm a computer professional. So, I had no opportunity to delete them while she wasn't looking.

 

Finally, an hour into the job, I was now sweating bullets when I opened the "babysitter" jpg.

 

The "babysitter" was a young woman who appeared to be about 18 to 22 who was engaged in... I'm not even going to say what she was doing or where she was receiving it.

 

Anyway, my aunt gasps, moans, hyperventilates, and I'm waiting for her to pass out, but then she recovers and manages to suck in a long breath and then says, "Boys will be boys. OK, you can finish deleting the files without me." She got up and walked away. We never talked about it again.

 

What kind of idiot would save that stuff on his mom's computer? Can I really be related to a guy that stupid?

 

I share the pain of your OP moment. I got a taste of that. Her embarrassment was tangible. I wasn't so shocked because I'd already been suspecting what it was for an hour before opening the file. But her embarrassment and humiliation was not easy for me.

 

However, times heals all. I hadn't even thought about it in years, until I read your OP. You'll get over it.

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I had the same experience while cleaning up a friend's PC. His son had downloaded many gigs of porn, with all the usual spyware and adware that comes with it.

I hid it from his dad, and told 13 y/o junior to knock it off. His eyes were huge.

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I don't think you should hold your father on any different regards than you did the day before you found this out..

 

It's a natural thing, and while porn, certainly isn't "natural", it's a normal thing, and nothing out of bounds I don't think.

 

Your more preoccupied with it because your family didn't consider sex an open subject... Mine didn't when I was younger.. But by the time I turned 18, and then on, it was.

 

My family, save for my father is open about sex. My mom openly asks me and my brother about our sex lives. She warns us, and acts motherly, but also laughs with us, and jokes. She knows I have sex, she even knows at one point I was sleeping with several girls.. She knows my brother does too. My younger sister once, years back, asked what a blow job was. My mom laughed, and asked me to explain to her.

 

Talk about mortified!!

 

 

Just let it pass, it's normal, and I don't think you should love or hold your father in any different state than you did before.

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I'm going through a similar problem too, except I didn't really catch my dad in the act. It was just about a week ago when I just found outmy dad doesn't know I know. I can totally understand you. My family doesn't talk about sex either and I also get uncomfortable when watching love scenes on a movie. Point is, I think you should give it some time so your mind can clear up. Don't confront him about it just yet because I was about to but I didn't. And after waiting for one week, I'm happy that I didn't confront him. The difference is, your dad knows that you know. Still, I suggest giving it some time, because waiting has really helped me.

 

Also, I haven't been talking to my dad lately and I'm still disappointed in him. I'll be honest. Every time I see him, I can't help but avoid him. I suddenly felt like I didn't know what my father was like anymore. But don't let it kill your relationship like it's killing mine, cause I'm certainly not happy with what's going on with my relationship to my dad right now. It's just something that I can't help. I wish I wasn't angry at my dad, but I just am. Some people may find that fathers looking at porn normal but my father was viewing teen porn. I myself am a teenage girl so it was pretty disturbing. If I had caught him masturbating, I really don't know what I would think.

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Teen Porn, Mature Porn, Black-White-Green Porn..

 

The basis is, that it's porn. Your 14 years old, hardly the mid-twenties that those girls are on the websites.

 

I'd get over it and realize that people will be people and that being surprised by this doesn't mean it hasn't been going on before you were even around...

 

I've looked at teen porn and I have a teenage sister? Is that sick? Certainly not... Your dad has parents and grandparents.. If he looked a mature porn, would that be just as bad?

 

Think about it.

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yes, i realize that sexuality is human and normal, even for parents. and yes, i'll admit that i look at porn now and again myself. most people do look at porn, from what i understand.

 

the real issue for me was that I CAUGHT MY DAD IN PERSON, when he was intending to hide it. if i had just found it on his computer, yes, i would be a little disturbed, but it's the fact that it accidentally popped up while i was there with him in person, just having a normal conversation. WE BOTH KNOW that i saw his porn. i had to watch him be embarrassed and struggle to make the window close and the porn stop playing. i'm more embarrassed for him than anything... i just know he is humiliated because i without a doubt saw and heard it on his computer. and he admitted to it.

 

if parents were just open about sex with their kids, the world would be such a better place. that's all.

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