Anxiety attack again....read on.

KG · 11-07-2009, 01:24 PM

TYhis morning, out of blue, again. Nothing to be anxious about....got work, got $$, son and I are getting along great, see my G/F tomorrow.

So I called a good female friend, who listened, and offered up this idea.

That since it's been 2 1/2 years since my wife died, I have known the depths of despair. That I had to raise my son well, to her standards and mine, I've known struggle. And because I lost 1/2 of our income, I've known financial hardship.

Fast forward to now....all is going well. But some bit in my brain recalls the tough times, and hasn't quite gone away. So when it pops up, my world seems to go astray, and my logical brain accepts this, thus throwing me into a very quick panic attack, as if fearing I might have to re-live those bad times.

Looking for input....
KG

renaissancewoman101 · 11-07-2009, 01:34 PM

Sometimes people who have gone through tough times and embraced it, are afraid that it can happen again and will subconsciously worry about that potential, esp when their life seems to be doing well and/or getting better.

I used to always worry about being rejected and/or hated by people, partly due to the criticism I have always gotten from my mom for being so small. That fear hangs around in my subconscious and when I do get in a relationship, that fear gnaws at me and makes me fear that I will lose the relationship or wonder why the guy is with me esp since I am so small and not good-looking.

Best way to deal with this is to acknowledge it and then tell yourself you have nothing to fear and that life is great. Then go on living. If you let the fear take over you, you will live a self-fulfilling prophecy.

LightbulbSun · 11-07-2009, 01:38 PM

The brain is a funny thing. Sometimes, something that you felt that you had moved on from and accepted comes back later and gives you anxiety. You might not even be thinking about what's giving you anxiety, but some deep part of your mind is.

Have you tried meditation or yoga? When I get panic attacks, I close my eyes, empty my mind, and take deep breaths and try to relax my body. Believe it or not, it actually does seem to work.

KG · 11-07-2009, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by LightbulbSun

The brain is a funny thing. Sometimes, something that you felt that you had moved on from and accepted comes back later and gives you anxiety. You might not even be thinking about what's giving you anxiety, but some deep part of your mind is.

Have you tried meditation or yoga? When I get panic attacks, I close my eyes, empty my mind, and take deep breaths and try to relax my body. Believe it or not, it actually does seem to work.

If it comes on slowly, I can do that. But today, BAM, it was right on me, so it increases my panic, where I can't think rationally. Then I get the Xanax.

15 Storeys High · 11-07-2009, 01:43 PM

I think your friend is probably onto something....the unconscious mind can do some funny things...it's a murky place deep in the depths of a person's mind. Everybody has different triggers...triggers that they don't even know about.

KG · 11-07-2009, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by 15 Storeys High

I think your friend is probably onto something....the unconscious mind can do some funny things...it's a murky place deep in the depths of a person's mind. Everybody has different triggers...triggers that they don't even know about.

Yeah, that's she was trying to say, that my happiness set off a trigger buried deep in the brain.

11-07-2009, 01:24 PM	#1
KG Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: 2 miles east of Hicksville Gender: Male Posts: 4,902	Anxiety attack again....read on. TYhis morning, out of blue, again. Nothing to be anxious about....got work, got $$, son and I are getting along great, see my G/F tomorrow. So I called a good female friend, who listened, and offered up this idea. That since it's been 2 1/2 years since my wife died, I have known the depths of despair. That I had to raise my son well, to her standards and mine, I've known struggle. And because I lost 1/2 of our income, I've known financial hardship. Fast forward to now....all is going well. But some bit in my brain recalls the tough times, and hasn't quite gone away. So when it pops up, my world seems to go astray, and my logical brain accepts this, thus throwing me into a very quick panic attack, as if fearing I might have to re-live those bad times. Looking for input.... KG __________________ Life is just a word until you go through it. I've got the scars to prove it.

11-07-2009, 01:38 PM	#3
LightbulbSun Offline Gold Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: USA Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 1,053	The brain is a funny thing. Sometimes, something that you felt that you had moved on from and accepted comes back later and gives you anxiety. You might not even be thinking about what's giving you anxiety, but some deep part of your mind is. Have you tried meditation or yoga? When I get panic attacks, I close my eyes, empty my mind, and take deep breaths and try to relax my body. Believe it or not, it actually does seem to work. __________________ "Reality is the mirror of your thoughts. Choose well what you put in front of the mirror." - Unknown "It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live." - Albus Dumbledore

11-07-2009, 01:43 PM	#5
15 Storeys High Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: UK Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 1,291	I think your friend is probably onto something....the unconscious mind can do some funny things...it's a murky place deep in the depths of a person's mind. Everybody has different triggers...triggers that they don't even know about. __________________ You cannot do a kindness too soon for you'll never know how soon it will be too late. - Emerson

11-07-2009, 01:34 PM	#2
renaissancewoman101 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: the land by the sea Gender: Female Age: 36 Posts: 8,563	Sometimes people who have gone through tough times and embraced it, are afraid that it can happen again and will subconsciously worry about that potential, esp when their life seems to be doing well and/or getting better. I used to always worry about being rejected and/or hated by people, partly due to the criticism I have always gotten from my mom for being so small. That fear hangs around in my subconscious and when I do get in a relationship, that fear gnaws at me and makes me fear that I will lose the relationship or wonder why the guy is with me esp since I am so small and not good-looking. Best way to deal with this is to acknowledge it and then tell yourself you have nothing to fear and that life is great. Then go on living. If you let the fear take over you, you will live a self-fulfilling prophecy.