Should I feel bad about lube?

kristenann · 11-07-2009, 11:47 AM

Here's the situation:
I orgasm really quickly, and it does not matter what position or speed we are going at, it is always quickly. My fiancee on the other hand lasts really long. Sometimes I just can't stay wet enough for long enough so I have two options:
1) Suffer through it (and he gives up)
2) Bring out the lube.
I'll admit that sometimes it is because I get bored (which makes me feel so selfish) but sometimes it honestly just goes away...
In general we have a fairly good sex life and talk about things as they come up- he won't really give me an answer on this one though.

I 'm wondering what other guys think of this- would you be offended or upset if you couldn't keep your partner wet the whole time?

KG · 11-07-2009, 11:51 AM

We're only human....it's OK to bring out the lube.

agent · 11-07-2009, 11:52 AM

Lube exists for a reason.

But if you want to suffer through it, go for it. I mean, sex shouldn't be nice, right?

**BlueAfterglow08** · 11-07-2009, 11:52 AM

I dont see why he should be offended. Thats what lube is for. You can't help orgasiming quickly.

Cognitive_Canine · 11-07-2009, 12:30 PM

You shouldn't feel bad about the lube. He won't be offended that he made you orgasm so quickly and you're body is getting worn out from the love making. He, hopefully, doesn't want you to suffer through sex so that he can finish.

I'd start using lube and try to practice lasting longer.

ResonanceTheory · 11-07-2009, 12:50 PM

IF you like lube, that's totally fine. Unless your boyfriend has indicated to you that it offends him, I wouldn't worry.

I had the same problem, though, too (orgasming too quickly). MY solution was teaching myself how to hold off from orgasming. It took a while, but now I'm able to hold off until my partner is close as well. Maybe that's an option as well?

thebluest · 11-07-2009, 12:56 PM

Since my boyfriend and I haven't had sex with each other or anyone else before, I've always wondered about this! I get very wet, but I don't seem to 'dry up' at all. Where does all the natural lube go when you have sex?! It just can't be all evaporation, but after his penis gets coated, the rest just stays there mostly doesn't it?!

...oh I sound like such a newbie, but I'm mighty curious if someone could fill me in on this!

KG · 11-07-2009, 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by thebluest

Since my boyfriend and I haven't had sex with each other or anyone else before, I've always wondered about this! I get very wet, but I don't seem to 'dry up' at all. Where does all the natural lube go when you have sex?! It just can't be all evaporation, but after his penis gets coated, the rest just stays there mostly doesn't it?!

...oh I sound like such a newbie, but I'm mighty curious if someone could fill me in on this!

Paper towels or tissues. Your body stops producing it when the sex is over.

thebluest · 11-07-2009, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by KG

Paper towels or tissues. Your body stops producing it when the sex is over.

LOL, thanks. What I mean is once you start producing it, and start having sex, why do you need to produce more to keep up? Where does it all go, thus requiring the need for lube?

Nidania · 11-07-2009, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by thebluest

LOL, thanks. What I mean is once you start producing it, and start having sex, why do you need to produce more to keep up? Where does it all go, thus requiring the need for lube?

If you're anything like me, it goes on the mattress beneath me <blushes> I do well with a towel underneath, I get really... uh... well lubricated

11-07-2009, 11:47 AM	#1
kristenann Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 36	Should I feel bad about lube? Here's the situation: I orgasm really quickly, and it does not matter what position or speed we are going at, it is always quickly. My fiancee on the other hand lasts really long. Sometimes I just can't stay wet enough for long enough so I have two options: 1) Suffer through it (and he gives up) 2) Bring out the lube. I'll admit that sometimes it is because I get bored (which makes me feel so selfish) but sometimes it honestly just goes away... In general we have a fairly good sex life and talk about things as they come up- he won't really give me an answer on this one though. I 'm wondering what other guys think of this- would you be offended or upset if you couldn't keep your partner wet the whole time?

11-07-2009, 11:51 AM	#2
KG Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: 2 miles east of Hicksville Gender: Male Posts: 4,902	We're only human....it's OK to bring out the lube. __________________ Life is just a word until you go through it. I've got the scars to prove it.

11-07-2009, 11:52 AM	#3
agent Online Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 3,893	Lube exists for a reason. But if you want to suffer through it, go for it. I mean, sex shouldn't be nice, right? __________________ "You have a right to experiment with your life. You will make mistakes. And they are right too." - Anais Nin "Come now, don't make such a funeral face. It isn't dying that's sad; it's living when you're not happy." -Octave Mirbeau "Don't be sad, don't be angry, if life deceives you! Submit to your grief; your time for joy will come, believe me." -Aleksandr Pushkin

11-07-2009, 11:52 AM	#4
BlueAfterglow08 Online Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: UK Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 5,248	I dont see why he should be offended. Thats what lube is for. You can't help orgasiming quickly. __________________ Please see the forum rules before posting http://www.enotalone.com/forum/forum-rules.php ''Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.' -Mahatma Gandhi'

11-07-2009, 12:50 PM	#6
ResonanceTheory Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Florida Gender: Female Posts: 872	IF you like lube, that's totally fine. Unless your boyfriend has indicated to you that it offends him, I wouldn't worry. I had the same problem, though, too (orgasming too quickly). MY solution was teaching myself how to hold off from orgasming. It took a while, but now I'm able to hold off until my partner is close as well. Maybe that's an option as well? __________________ "The Ghost made a sound something between a sob and a snarl. " I wish I'd never been born" it said. "What are we born for?" "For infinite happiness," said the spirit. "You can step out into it at any moment...." -C.S. Lewis, "The Great Divorce"

11-07-2009, 12:30 PM	#5
Cognitive_Canine Online Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow Gender: Female Posts: 11,326	You shouldn't feel bad about the lube. He won't be offended that he made you orgasm so quickly and you're body is getting worn out from the love making. He, hopefully, doesn't want you to suffer through sex so that he can finish. I'd start using lube and try to practice lasting longer.

11-07-2009, 12:56 PM	#7
thebluest Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Australia Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 189	Since my boyfriend and I haven't had sex with each other or anyone else before, I've always wondered about this! I get very wet, but I don't seem to 'dry up' at all. Where does all the natural lube go when you have sex?! It just can't be all evaporation, but after his penis gets coated, the rest just stays there mostly doesn't it?! ...oh I sound like such a newbie, but I'm mighty curious if someone could fill me in on this! __________________ "People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within." - Elisabeth Kübler-Ross