seriously, I need an opinion or I'll do something stupid...

Nucca · 11-07-2009, 07:21 AM

Hi,
I'm about to beat the hell out of my friend. I need to clear my mind and get your opinion before I do something I might regret later.

My friend was at my house the other day, we were having a good time. My mom comes down and tells him about my uncle almost dying from a horrible accident. My friend starts to ask stupid <> like "why didn't he do this and that instead of that and this", it sounded like he was interrogating her for lying about the situation... if I think about it, I shouldn't even be writing this, I should be at his house breaking his <>jaw for doubting my mom!

Anyway. When he left, my mom confronted me like "it seemed like your friend doubted me when I told him about your uncle

". I asked her "why didn't you ask him if he thought you where lying?" she answered "because I know what happened, I don't have to proove anything to him and I'm self satisfied."

His doubt is getting under my skin. Should I confront him about the situation or should I jsut beat that motha <>?

Greedy Toad · 11-07-2009, 07:27 AM

Uh, how about you just let it go.

You would beat someone up for doubting your mum?

15 Storeys High · 11-07-2009, 07:30 AM

You have no idea if he was actually doubting her. He may actually have been interested in why and how it happened. He may have been trying to figure out how it could have happened and asked questions to help him do that. Or, he could just have been being a smart arse. The point is you don't actually know. By all means, confront him and ask him to explain why he acted like that but what is beating him up going to achieve? If he thinks she was lying he'll still think that regardless of whether you hit him or not.

I would suggest that you avoid him for a day or two and allow yourself to calm down.

KG · 11-07-2009, 07:40 AM

^^I agree, give it a day or two to calm down, then approach him. Calmly ask him what he was thinking, you can resolve this without violence.

Nucca · 11-07-2009, 07:46 AM

the way he said it, it sounded like he was doubting her. I'll try to calm down but its still disrespectful of him..

Nucca · 11-07-2009, 07:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Greedy Toad

Uh, how about you just let it go.

You would beat someone up for doubting your mum?

because its disrespectful

Quote:

Originally Posted by KG

^^I agree, give it a day or two to calm down, then approach him. Calmly ask him what he was thinking, you can resolve this without violence.

I can't avoid him a day or two, I'm going out with some friends tonight and he will also be there..

15 Storeys High · 11-07-2009, 07:48 AM

In what way did it "sound" like he was doubting her? Was it his tone of voice? Was it his expression? Was it the actual words he said?

Greedy Toad · 11-07-2009, 07:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Nucca

because its disrespectful

Beating someone up? C'mon, even if he was doubting your mother, surely you're smarter than that.

gsxr104 · 11-07-2009, 08:24 AM

You could tell him that you thought the way he was talking to your mom was unacceptable and that you didn't appreciate it and ask him not to do that again.
So he knows where you're coming from.

Nucca · 11-07-2009, 09:00 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 15 Storeys High

In what way did it "sound" like he was doubting her? Was it his tone of voice? Was it his expression? Was it the actual words he said?

Yes, it was his tone.

Quote:

Originally Posted by gsxr104

You could tell him that you thought the way he was talking to your mom was unacceptable and that you didn't appreciate it and ask him not to do that again.
So he knows where you're coming from.

Yeah I'll probably have to talk to him

11-07-2009, 07:21 AM	#1
Nucca Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 38	seriously, I need an opinion or I'll do something stupid... Hi, I'm about to beat the hell out of my friend. I need to clear my mind and get your opinion before I do something I might regret later. My friend was at my house the other day, we were having a good time. My mom comes down and tells him about my uncle almost dying from a horrible accident. My friend starts to ask stupid <> like "why didn't he do this and that instead of that and this", it sounded like he was interrogating her for lying about the situation... if I think about it, I shouldn't even be writing this, I should be at his house breaking his <>jaw for doubting my mom! Anyway. When he left, my mom confronted me like "it seemed like your friend doubted me when I told him about your uncle ". I asked her "why didn't you ask him if he thought you where lying?" she answered "because I know what happened, I don't have to proove anything to him and I'm self satisfied." His doubt is getting under my skin. Should I confront him about the situation or should I jsut beat that motha <>? Last edited by avman; 11-07-2009 at 08:24 AM. Reason: Profanity

11-07-2009, 07:27 AM	#2
Greedy Toad Offline Gold Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Melbourne Posts: 504	Uh, how about you just let it go. You would beat someone up for doubting your mum? __________________ The road to hell is paved with good intentions

11-07-2009, 07:30 AM	#3
15 Storeys High Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: UK Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 1,291	You have no idea if he was actually doubting her. He may actually have been interested in why and how it happened. He may have been trying to figure out how it could have happened and asked questions to help him do that. Or, he could just have been being a smart arse. The point is you don't actually know. By all means, confront him and ask him to explain why he acted like that but what is beating him up going to achieve? If he thinks she was lying he'll still think that regardless of whether you hit him or not. I would suggest that you avoid him for a day or two and allow yourself to calm down. __________________ You cannot do a kindness too soon for you'll never know how soon it will be too late. - Emerson

11-07-2009, 07:40 AM	#4
KG Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: 2 miles east of Hicksville Gender: Male Posts: 4,902	^^I agree, give it a day or two to calm down, then approach him. Calmly ask him what he was thinking, you can resolve this without violence. __________________ Life is just a word until you go through it. I've got the scars to prove it.

11-07-2009, 07:48 AM	#7
15 Storeys High Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: UK Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 1,291	In what way did it "sound" like he was doubting her? Was it his tone of voice? Was it his expression? Was it the actual words he said? __________________ You cannot do a kindness too soon for you'll never know how soon it will be too late. - Emerson

11-07-2009, 07:46 AM	#5
Nucca Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 38	the way he said it, it sounded like he was doubting her. I'll try to calm down but its still disrespectful of him..

11-07-2009, 08:24 AM	#9
gsxr104 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Texas Gender: Male Posts: 650	You could tell him that you thought the way he was talking to your mom was unacceptable and that you didn't appreciate it and ask him not to do that again. So he knows where you're coming from.