Still hurting

Shattered91 · 11-07-2009, 05:58 AM

I'm about 2 weeks into NC..
I saw her last night at a football game in my hometown.
We didn't make any contact, i just glanced and noticed she was there.
I don't want to sound like a emotional wreck...but that's honestly how I feel.
I seem to be strong around my friends, but im dying on the inside.
I laid in bed last night and a song came on from my iPod.
It was Vanilla Twilight by Owl City...which I don't recommend for anyone who is going through a break up...
You will end up crying and remembering every little moment that you miss and want to have back, which is exactly what i did last night.

I just want to not hurt anymore.
I really am trying to stay strong, but i feel so empty.

123skyscraper · 11-08-2009, 10:10 PM

read the posts about the NC and follow it through everyday.
dont go to any event where she is there. the feelings (good or bad) will come rushing back and this will put you back in square one.
trust me, i work with my ex. after the break up i avoided him like the plague. he was always trying to check up on me despite being with a girl he met while we were together and trying to contact me. everytime i saw him it was hell because everything came back to me. so dont go anywhere she is unless you have no choice.
occupy your time with friends and family. they are your support system.
learn the reasons why the relationship ended and move on. there are reasons why you two arent together.
it takes time to heal the pain. be strong. the feelings you are experiencing is just normal break up feelings. dont get into any rebound relationship as it will only shield the pain and will not teach you the lessons why the relationship ended. take time out now for yourself to heal and pamper yourself. be your best at work or school and look your best. it will boost your self esteem!
there is a light at the end of the tunnel. soon enough you will be over her and she is just another ex on your list!

arcadefire · 11-08-2009, 11:35 PM

You've got to stop listening to break up / love songs. Those give me nothing but tears after my first major break up.

Keep yourself busy. Watch movies (not romance movies), hang with friends, talk if you need to, and try to avoid places that you think she will be at.

Above all, do not contact her. No calls, emails, texts, etc. You're strong, you can do this.

Nickk · 11-12-2009, 06:01 AM

i know the pain, and its only been two days for me! Why does it have to hurt so damn bad! She was perfect and now she's gone, how do you get over that? Dont know if i can.

11-07-2009, 05:58 AM	#1
Shattered91 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 35	Still hurting I'm about 2 weeks into NC.. I saw her last night at a football game in my hometown. We didn't make any contact, i just glanced and noticed she was there. I don't want to sound like a emotional wreck...but that's honestly how I feel. I seem to be strong around my friends, but im dying on the inside. I laid in bed last night and a song came on from my iPod. It was Vanilla Twilight by Owl City...which I don't recommend for anyone who is going through a break up... You will end up crying and remembering every little moment that you miss and want to have back, which is exactly what i did last night. I just want to not hurt anymore. I really am trying to stay strong, but i feel so empty.

11-08-2009, 11:35 PM	#3
arcadefire Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 1,288	You've got to stop listening to break up / love songs. Those give me nothing but tears after my first major break up. Keep yourself busy. Watch movies (not romance movies), hang with friends, talk if you need to, and try to avoid places that you think she will be at. Above all, do not contact her. No calls, emails, texts, etc. You're strong, you can do this. __________________ I've been searching for a heart of gold... - Neil Young

11-08-2009, 10:10 PM	#2
123skyscraper Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 31	read the posts about the NC and follow it through everyday. dont go to any event where she is there. the feelings (good or bad) will come rushing back and this will put you back in square one. trust me, i work with my ex. after the break up i avoided him like the plague. he was always trying to check up on me despite being with a girl he met while we were together and trying to contact me. everytime i saw him it was hell because everything came back to me. so dont go anywhere she is unless you have no choice. occupy your time with friends and family. they are your support system. learn the reasons why the relationship ended and move on. there are reasons why you two arent together. it takes time to heal the pain. be strong. the feelings you are experiencing is just normal break up feelings. dont get into any rebound relationship as it will only shield the pain and will not teach you the lessons why the relationship ended. take time out now for yourself to heal and pamper yourself. be your best at work or school and look your best. it will boost your self esteem! there is a light at the end of the tunnel. soon enough you will be over her and she is just another ex on your list!

11-12-2009, 06:01 AM	#4
Nickk Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 60	i know the pain, and its only been two days for me! Why does it have to hurt so damn bad! She was perfect and now she's gone, how do you get over that? Dont know if i can.