Too much from New Boyfriend?

Muddled_777 · 11-03-2009, 11:31 PM

I am a highschool student in a new relationship.
I have recently started going out with a new guy. He is cute, nice and funny, just my type.
We have not been together long, a month at most, but enough to start to notice those little things. He has slightly protective qualities and has been saying he loves me.
I like him an incredible amount but feel love is a bit much considering we're still getting to know each other.
He is a year younger and can't help but wonder if i've been sending signals to he could be intrepreting wrong.
In short, I'm worried this could be leading into a smothered relationship, and I am a person who likes my personal time. He's a great guy, and would like this relationship to work, and hope to head this off before it ends up in that direction.
Should I explain my boundaries now before its too late? Or hope this irons over?
I am normally quite honest with people, and would otherwise try to fix this with a simple sit-down, but my boyfriend has a slight history of depression, nothing major, but it does bring him down occasionally.
I would like to fix this in the least messy way possible, and hopefully, the way that will offend/hurt him the least.

papaya · 11-03-2009, 11:46 PM

the mature thing to do is to talk to him about it. You don't want to get too deep into the relationship...get smothered, and then want out when it's too late. If he's a good guy, which is what you deserve, then he should listen and be understanding.

DadaJones · 11-04-2009, 01:38 AM

I got the feeling he's sticking with you no matter what...set boundaries...young guys are like dogs...if they are not trained they just get into everything and make a mess...i was like that once too.

11-03-2009, 11:31 PM	#1
Muddled_777 Offline Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 1	Too much from New Boyfriend? I am a highschool student in a new relationship. I have recently started going out with a new guy. He is cute, nice and funny, just my type. We have not been together long, a month at most, but enough to start to notice those little things. He has slightly protective qualities and has been saying he loves me. I like him an incredible amount but feel love is a bit much considering we're still getting to know each other. He is a year younger and can't help but wonder if i've been sending signals to he could be intrepreting wrong. In short, I'm worried this could be leading into a smothered relationship, and I am a person who likes my personal time. He's a great guy, and would like this relationship to work, and hope to head this off before it ends up in that direction. Should I explain my boundaries now before its too late? Or hope this irons over? I am normally quite honest with people, and would otherwise try to fix this with a simple sit-down, but my boyfriend has a slight history of depression, nothing major, but it does bring him down occasionally. I would like to fix this in the least messy way possible, and hopefully, the way that will offend/hurt him the least.

11-03-2009, 11:46 PM	#2
papaya Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 56	the mature thing to do is to talk to him about it. You don't want to get too deep into the relationship...get smothered, and then want out when it's too late. If he's a good guy, which is what you deserve, then he should listen and be understanding.

11-04-2009, 01:38 AM	#3
DadaJones Offline Silver Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: nyc Gender: Male Posts: 340	I got the feeling he's sticking with you no matter what...set boundaries...young guys are like dogs...if they are not trained they just get into everything and make a mess...i was like that once too.