I think my ex has psychic powers... now I'm scared!

Hopeless1234 · 11-03-2009, 11:23 PM

Ex kicked me to the curb about a month or so ago. Been in NC for about 2-3 weeks. I still deeply care/love my ex, but I've come to terms that unless God uses his powers, I don't see a reconciliation. Since God has so much better things to do then worry over my relationships, I've decided that I need to learn to move on.

Met this really nice girl a few days ago and decided to go out for drinks tonight. As soon as I sat down at the bar, I get a text from the ex that I had not heard from in 2-3 weeks that she'd like to come over and pick some stuff up from my place. I texted her back that I'm out, but she's got the key so feel free to do what she needed to do.

I finally got home several hours later and she was at my place. She asked me if I could help her load stuff into her car and if I wanted to get a bite to eat. I thought about saying no, but I like to eat so why not.

Dinner was ok. She said that she didn't think that we could be best buddies for like 5 years (I didn't bring up anything about being buddies). She sure does like the 5 year mark. When I had made the mistake of begging her to come back when we first broke up, she told me maybe in 5 years.

Anyway, I definitely didn't feel the urgency to beg and beg like I did when we first broke up. She started talking about the relationship and I told her that I definitely made my share of mistakes. I told her that I still feel like things could be wonderful between her and I, but I've accepted her decision. I'm not hoping for anything. I told her if we just became friends... cool... if we never talked again... cool... if we got back together... cool. Bottom line... I was happy before her... I know I can be happy after her.

For those who are in NC, it works. It's tough, but it works. Whether you reconcile or not, NC definitely helps so stay strong.

I have to admit it was nice to look into her eyes and notice that her eyes were a bit teary at times during the course of the night. I know I'm mean, but after all those nights of crying that I went through... It's good to see that this isn't so easy on her either.

DN · 11-03-2009, 11:36 PM

Surely she doesn't expect you to wait five years for her?

Triplell · 11-04-2009, 12:15 AM

She'll have highs and lows. Just like you will/did. My ex told me less than a week ago that she never wants to see me again and that she could never love me again.

Today she calls telling me she is unsure of what she wants but she thinks she wants me back in her life and she will always love me no matter what.

Bottom line: she's insecure. She has to have things going her way, and when they don't she grabs on to all the security and love I gave her.

Seems like you are heading in the right direction. Pray the rest of us do as well...

DadaJones · 11-04-2009, 12:51 AM

There is something almost cosmic about NC...man it just reverses everything...

we had some good times
but now there gone
the winters coming on
summers almost gone
-the doors

11-03-2009, 11:23 PM	#1
Hopeless1234 Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 53	I think my ex has psychic powers... now I'm scared! Ex kicked me to the curb about a month or so ago. Been in NC for about 2-3 weeks. I still deeply care/love my ex, but I've come to terms that unless God uses his powers, I don't see a reconciliation. Since God has so much better things to do then worry over my relationships, I've decided that I need to learn to move on. Met this really nice girl a few days ago and decided to go out for drinks tonight. As soon as I sat down at the bar, I get a text from the ex that I had not heard from in 2-3 weeks that she'd like to come over and pick some stuff up from my place. I texted her back that I'm out, but she's got the key so feel free to do what she needed to do. I finally got home several hours later and she was at my place. She asked me if I could help her load stuff into her car and if I wanted to get a bite to eat. I thought about saying no, but I like to eat so why not. Dinner was ok. She said that she didn't think that we could be best buddies for like 5 years (I didn't bring up anything about being buddies). She sure does like the 5 year mark. When I had made the mistake of begging her to come back when we first broke up, she told me maybe in 5 years. Anyway, I definitely didn't feel the urgency to beg and beg like I did when we first broke up. She started talking about the relationship and I told her that I definitely made my share of mistakes. I told her that I still feel like things could be wonderful between her and I, but I've accepted her decision. I'm not hoping for anything. I told her if we just became friends... cool... if we never talked again... cool... if we got back together... cool. Bottom line... I was happy before her... I know I can be happy after her. For those who are in NC, it works. It's tough, but it works. Whether you reconcile or not, NC definitely helps so stay strong. I have to admit it was nice to look into her eyes and notice that her eyes were a bit teary at times during the course of the night. I know I'm mean, but after all those nights of crying that I went through... It's good to see that this isn't so easy on her either.

11-03-2009, 11:36 PM	#2
DN Online Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 23,439	Surely she doesn't expect you to wait five years for her? __________________ Immaturity is not defined by him not doing what you want him to do. Hartman's Law of Prescriptivist Retaliation: "any article or statement about correct grammar, punctuation, or spelling is bound to contain at least one eror".

11-04-2009, 12:15 AM	#3
Triplell Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Omaha Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 80	She'll have highs and lows. Just like you will/did. My ex told me less than a week ago that she never wants to see me again and that she could never love me again. Today she calls telling me she is unsure of what she wants but she thinks she wants me back in her life and she will always love me no matter what. Bottom line: she's insecure. She has to have things going her way, and when they don't she grabs on to all the security and love I gave her. Seems like you are heading in the right direction. Pray the rest of us do as well...

11-04-2009, 12:51 AM	#4
DadaJones Online Silver Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: nyc Gender: Male Posts: 340	There is something almost cosmic about NC...man it just reverses everything... we had some good times but now there gone the winters coming on summers almost gone -the doors