Ex's best friend might be snooping via FB (female insight appreciated...)

takiniteasy · 11-03-2009, 10:55 PM

Hey.. so something pretty random happened a couple of days ago, so here goes:

BACKGROUND:
Dated my ex for a couple of months around the beginning of the year. Things were great but then she went by the way of GIGS and went out with another guy, while dumping me in the process (karma proceeded to bite her in the rear end as the guy dumped her a little later).
Needless to say, I applied NC for a good 2-3 months. We have bumped into each other a couple of times and talked for a little bit (although talks were light hearted). But I had not heard anything from her in the last 2 months, (no FB comments, emails, nada). so I'm thinking she either got a new guy and/or is 100% over me.

CURRENT:
Lo and behold I get a FB friend request from her best friend. While I was dating my ex, I got to hang out and talk with her a few times, but that was pretty much it. I decided to accept her as: A) I don't have anything revealing on my page and B) I don't wanna give the impression that I'm bitter or resentful if I didn't add her.

I get the feeling that someone wants to do some snooping on me. I mean, after all this time, she finally decides she wants to add me on FB? Also, my ex already has me added on FB, so she knows what I have been up to, if she decided to go into my page. Any insight as to what's the deal and if I did the right thing???

Thanks!

IGlareOften · 11-03-2009, 11:19 PM

If your ex is a friend on facebook...why would she need HER friend to spy on you? That doesn't make sense to me.

Rosselin · 11-03-2009, 11:59 PM

IGlareOften has a good point. She already knows anything that pops up on stalkerbook. To that end, you did do the right thing.

It is altogether possible that her friend wanted to befriend you from the begginning. If I am reading her friend right, she probably got all the updates she needed on you during the relationship (i know how BFFs work (= ) and didnt feel comfortable befriending you during the break up. now, with a little bit of time that has passed, she might feel more comfortable with the idea.

Now, let me tell you that i cannot comment either way on whether or not your ex is over you. it is altogether possible that she simply doesnt think you'd go for her again (note that she is probably right). Also, if she is over you enough, it is possible she could have told her best friend to 'go for it' with you if she had already liked you. PLEASE note that i said possibly/probably, not definitely. I just know that this is what has happened in the past with my friends.

takiniteasy · 11-04-2009, 02:40 AM

Thanks for the replies!!!

Never thought about the "maybe she digs you" spin...

I'd be flattered if it was true, but it would be a little too weird for my taste.

I guess time will tell if there were any intentions, it's just that it was so random, it kinda struck me as odd...

11-03-2009, 10:55 PM	#1
takiniteasy Offline Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 11	Ex's best friend might be snooping via FB (female insight appreciated...) Hey.. so something pretty random happened a couple of days ago, so here goes: BACKGROUND: Dated my ex for a couple of months around the beginning of the year. Things were great but then she went by the way of GIGS and went out with another guy, while dumping me in the process (karma proceeded to bite her in the rear end as the guy dumped her a little later). Needless to say, I applied NC for a good 2-3 months. We have bumped into each other a couple of times and talked for a little bit (although talks were light hearted). But I had not heard anything from her in the last 2 months, (no FB comments, emails, nada). so I'm thinking she either got a new guy and/or is 100% over me. CURRENT: Lo and behold I get a FB friend request from her best friend. While I was dating my ex, I got to hang out and talk with her a few times, but that was pretty much it. I decided to accept her as: A) I don't have anything revealing on my page and B) I don't wanna give the impression that I'm bitter or resentful if I didn't add her. I get the feeling that someone wants to do some snooping on me. I mean, after all this time, she finally decides she wants to add me on FB? Also, my ex already has me added on FB, so she knows what I have been up to, if she decided to go into my page. Any insight as to what's the deal and if I did the right thing??? Thanks!

11-03-2009, 11:19 PM	#2
IGlareOften Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Texas Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 246	If your ex is a friend on facebook...why would she need HER friend to spy on you? That doesn't make sense to me.

11-03-2009, 11:59 PM	#3
Rosselin Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Houghton Lake, MI Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 9	IGlareOften has a good point. She already knows anything that pops up on stalkerbook. To that end, you did do the right thing. It is altogether possible that her friend wanted to befriend you from the begginning. If I am reading her friend right, she probably got all the updates she needed on you during the relationship (i know how BFFs work (= ) and didnt feel comfortable befriending you during the break up. now, with a little bit of time that has passed, she might feel more comfortable with the idea. Now, let me tell you that i cannot comment either way on whether or not your ex is over you. it is altogether possible that she simply doesnt think you'd go for her again (note that she is probably right). Also, if she is over you enough, it is possible she could have told her best friend to 'go for it' with you if she had already liked you. PLEASE note that i said possibly/probably, not definitely. I just know that this is what has happened in the past with my friends.

11-04-2009, 02:40 AM	#4
takiniteasy Offline Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 11	Thanks for the replies!!! Never thought about the "maybe she digs you" spin... I'd be flattered if it was true, but it would be a little too weird for my taste. I guess time will tell if there were any intentions, it's just that it was so random, it kinda struck me as odd...