Would a gay guy......

renaissancewoman101 · 11-03-2009, 10:28 PM

Hold a woman's hand when showing her around somewhere?

kiss her on the forehead when saying good night?

tuck her into bed and give her a good night kiss on the forehead?

enjoy talking to her, make her a drink and some food, etc?

but then avoid looking at her when talking to her and chatting with her? But still appear to enjoy her company.

I am confused about how someone acted around me recently? I know this guy is gay, but I was surprised about some of the actions. No, this is not T, but someone I know from elsewhere.

A lot of times I bring him treats and give it to him. I am a nice person. He has invited me to a few things with some of our friends and I have gone.

He has dated women before from what he has told me.

He appears to like my company but when he talks to me, he always avoids looking at me. He'll look at others or just away.

IGlareOften · 11-03-2009, 10:37 PM

YEAH. A gay guy would DEFINITELY do ALL of that. They're very gray in the affection department. I think gay men, as a whole, are very affectionate people. All of those things you described are LOVING actions, not romantic. Don't read too much into it. Unless he says.."Hey. I want to..bleep bleep bleep you." I wouldn't take it as anything more than affection from someone who is your friend.

renaissancewoman101 · 11-03-2009, 10:40 PM

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Originally Posted by IGlareOften

YEAH. A gay guy would DEFINITELY do ALL of that. They're very gray in the affection department. I think gay men, as a whole, are very affectionate people. All of those things you described are LOVING actions, not romantic. Don't read too much into it. Unless he says.."Hey. I want to..bleep bleep bleep you." I wouldn't take it as anything more than affection from someone who is your friend.

Thanks for clarifying this for me. Now I have a better understanding of some things.

My best friend is gay but he is NOT at all affectionate like that. He is very masculine in many ways hence why I fell for him long ago and dated him (before he came out of the closet).

His bf is femmy in many ways but not like that (and we don't get along most of the time).

MrWallFlower · 11-03-2009, 10:48 PM

I'm guessing that you want to know if a gay man that does these things could possibly be doing them because he is actually attracted to you.

I'm not gay so I apologize if I'm totally wrong. My guess is that these things are not an indication that he is attracted to you but he simply does them because he cares for you as a friend.

I could see a hetero woman doing all of these things with a hetero woman (or a parent to a child for that matter) and it not be anthing other than friendship. None of the things you mentioned would make me think anything more than friend.

renaissancewoman101 · 11-03-2009, 10:52 PM

MrWallFlower, I assumed what you said, that he was doing this because he saw me as a friend and NOT because he was attracted to me.

I just needed to have some unbiased opinions about the actions of gay guys.

Thanks for the advice.

ceez · 11-03-2009, 11:01 PM

it just sounds like he's a good friend, I could see myself doing the same things. How long ago were the girlfriends of his, most gay guys date girls before coming out of the closet.

renaissancewoman101 · 11-03-2009, 11:05 PM

Ceez, I'm not sure. I haven't known him for that long of a time so never went and asked him about that stuff or how long ago was it.

I don't like to pry.

Leighton · 11-03-2009, 11:13 PM

Wow.. what an awesome guy.

lukeb · 11-03-2009, 11:19 PM

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Originally Posted by IGlareOften

YEAH. A gay guy would DEFINITELY do ALL of that. They're very gray in the affection department. I think gay men, as a whole, are very affectionate people. All of those things you described are LOVING actions, not romantic. Don't read too much into it. Unless he says.."Hey. I want to..bleep bleep bleep you." I wouldn't take it as anything more than affection from someone who is your friend.

What a generalization, but a nice generalization.

pinkrobot · 11-03-2009, 11:43 PM

I have LOTS of gay guy friends, and most (not all, but most) of them would definitely do these things. I guess it's the same way women will hold hands with their friends sometimes, and take care of each other in ways similar to what you mentioned.

11-03-2009, 10:28 PM	#1
renaissancewoman101 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: the land by the sea Gender: Female Age: 36 Posts: 8,563	Would a gay guy...... Hold a woman's hand when showing her around somewhere? kiss her on the forehead when saying good night? tuck her into bed and give her a good night kiss on the forehead? enjoy talking to her, make her a drink and some food, etc? but then avoid looking at her when talking to her and chatting with her? But still appear to enjoy her company. I am confused about how someone acted around me recently? I know this guy is gay, but I was surprised about some of the actions. No, this is not T, but someone I know from elsewhere. A lot of times I bring him treats and give it to him. I am a nice person. He has invited me to a few things with some of our friends and I have gone. He has dated women before from what he has told me. He appears to like my company but when he talks to me, he always avoids looking at me. He'll look at others or just away.

11-03-2009, 11:43 PM	#10
pinkrobot Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: where the wild things are Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 1,718	I have LOTS of gay guy friends, and most (not all, but most) of them would definitely do these things. I guess it's the same way women will hold hands with their friends sometimes, and take care of each other in ways similar to what you mentioned. __________________ All that we see or seem, is but a dream within a dream. [blog:] http://scribblingsofhope.blogspot.com

11-03-2009, 10:37 PM	#2
IGlareOften Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Texas Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 246	YEAH. A gay guy would DEFINITELY do ALL of that. They're very gray in the affection department. I think gay men, as a whole, are very affectionate people. All of those things you described are LOVING actions, not romantic. Don't read too much into it. Unless he says.."Hey. I want to..bleep bleep bleep you." I wouldn't take it as anything more than affection from someone who is your friend.

11-03-2009, 10:48 PM	#4
MrWallFlower Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Ohio, USA Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 46	I'm guessing that you want to know if a gay man that does these things could possibly be doing them because he is actually attracted to you. I'm not gay so I apologize if I'm totally wrong. My guess is that these things are not an indication that he is attracted to you but he simply does them because he cares for you as a friend. I could see a hetero woman doing all of these things with a hetero woman (or a parent to a child for that matter) and it not be anthing other than friendship. None of the things you mentioned would make me think anything more than friend.

11-03-2009, 10:52 PM	#5
renaissancewoman101 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: the land by the sea Gender: Female Age: 36 Posts: 8,563	MrWallFlower, I assumed what you said, that he was doing this because he saw me as a friend and NOT because he was attracted to me. I just needed to have some unbiased opinions about the actions of gay guys. Thanks for the advice.

11-03-2009, 11:01 PM	#6
ceez Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: VA Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 122	it just sounds like he's a good friend, I could see myself doing the same things. How long ago were the girlfriends of his, most gay guys date girls before coming out of the closet.

11-03-2009, 11:05 PM	#7
renaissancewoman101 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: the land by the sea Gender: Female Age: 36 Posts: 8,563	Ceez, I'm not sure. I haven't known him for that long of a time so never went and asked him about that stuff or how long ago was it. I don't like to pry.

11-03-2009, 11:13 PM	#8
Leighton Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 87	Wow.. what an awesome guy.