Toxic ex girlfriend (1st time poster )

seanl7532 · 11-03-2009, 09:25 PM

hey guys, First time poster on this board and would appreciate any advice any one has !!!!

my ex girlfriend will not stop calling and interfering with my life since we parted ways, i get the feeling she is constantly trying to manipulate me still even after the break up, i feel im goin insane !!!

its like she has double standards : she sneaks around behind my back, yet it was always projected that i was the "sneaky or slevene" one, when there was never any given reason to warrant this !!

she puts other guys on the phone to me even though we are broken up, i ussually just hang up, i get "random" txt messages that where not apparently meant for me to my phone from her, i get the told that she has much better than me now, yet she feels the need to rub it in my face...i get called a waster and ugly, even though i have a focused head on my shoulder and not to sound too cocky but im not a bad looking bloke either......P.S not sure if this in the right thread, if a mod wants to move it, no probs

recently i was in hospital, i recently found out i have a cyst on my brain and go for regular check ups (she knows about this ) i get told by her that i am lying i am goin to hospital and she cruelly laughs at me along with her friends sayinh " has it gotten bigger " i mean * * * !! any gesture of kindness made on my part in the past was what seemed to be percieved as giving her the upper hand and she has some sort of hold on me now...

recently found out she has cheated with an ex friend of mine too, dosnt suprise me with her but it still hurts !! i say do never contact me again i get phone calls the next week like nothing has ever happend, i reinforce that i will NOT be friends with her....i get threatend with getting beaten up when i speak my mind or defen my point after her tirade of abuse, ie: ur ugly, your a waster, you could have wrote more on my birthday card, she says.

im just really startin to lose my cool, and she is starting to contact aquantances of mine, bad mouthing me....its starting to wear on my self esteem where as before it would not of botherd me...and im kicking myself for lowering to that level....my last txt msg to her was : "ok, will you delete my number aswell and get out of my life you toxic cancerous * * * * " never got a reply (tank god ) any input would be great guys...im startin to lose sleep over this now and feel slightly lower esteemed, its getting to me and im starting to belive the hurtfull things shes saying, when i know i shouldnt....thanks guys, sorry its long !!

**BlueAfterglow08** · 11-03-2009, 09:44 PM

Welcome to ENA

You basically need to cut her off, for good. As in dont answer her calls or texts, change her number if you have too, block her off things. You need to stay away.

She sounds truly horrible. You deserve a lot better.

In the Dark · 11-03-2009, 10:17 PM

Hey welcome to ENA

Thats horrible behaviour from your ex.
Quite reminicent of my ex.
Was so nice to her but somehow she wouldturn everything around so I was the one with the issues.
I wouldn't beonhere if I wasn't hurting and knowing I didn't do a thing wrong.

You REALLY have to cut her off in all ways you can.
I went tothe extent of cutting off associated friends although that is extreme.

She is continuing to hurt you without a thought of how much what she does hurts you.
Maybeshe hasn't been in your shoes before.
Maybe she thinks this is what will "help" (as my ex said) "build a bridge and ****ing get over it!"

So if I were in your shoes I would call it quits, as much as your heart may not want this.
She has done far too much damage.

IGlareOften · 11-03-2009, 10:22 PM

Welcome. Hope we can help.

I agree with the person above. She sounds horrible and definitely someone who could go "Single white female" on you at any moment. I know it's a hassle, but perhaps you should change your number. Definitely cutting ALL contact is best. I know ti's hard when someone is slandering you, but it's best to completely ignore anything she says. It's not right of her to say such things about your medical condition. That's truly hateful and she needs to be smacked. You can do better all around...and you don't deserve what she is giving you. That being said...

I LOVE Irish boys. Regardless of what you look like..your accent makes you hot. Come to America..you'd be VERY popular. HA. (I know that was way off topic..but I had to say it.)

seanl7532 · 11-03-2009, 11:07 PM

thanks for the replys guys, ive already changed my number and gotten a new one, but i do have to turn on my old phone occasionly as i have work contacts voicemails on it that i have to listen too, i dont want to leave a message minder saying my new number either, coz well id be more or less shooting my self in the foot then, however this is wen the calls and txts start, when she recieves a dilevery report from the prior txts shes sent,

im not sure what "white singal female" is glare......us irish are kind of a lingo onto are own, but will deffo consider the states lol

i really just want to be shot of this girl, as it is sucking the life out of me at this stage, its like it dosnt matter what typeof reaction she gets from me weather it be good or negative !!! she persistently says she dosnt want me, but yet is the only one to innite contact with me ALL the time......most things get twisted back on me, and when i am still tryin to defend my point, its like she goes off on another tangent......the girls behaviour kinda freaks and scares me though, like shes capable of anything

IGlareOften · 11-03-2009, 11:54 PM

That's it. There's a movie from back in the 80's- early 90's. This woman was flat mates with another woman. The flat mate fell in love and started to go psycho on this poor woman. So...we call it being a "single white female" It's just a term for a psychotic woman who will end up chopping you in your sleep. Nothing to fret about. LOL

11-03-2009, 09:25 PM	#1
seanl7532 Offline Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: ireland Gender: Male Posts: 2	Toxic ex girlfriend (1st time poster ) hey guys, First time poster on this board and would appreciate any advice any one has !!!! my ex girlfriend will not stop calling and interfering with my life since we parted ways, i get the feeling she is constantly trying to manipulate me still even after the break up, i feel im goin insane !!! its like she has double standards : she sneaks around behind my back, yet it was always projected that i was the "sneaky or slevene" one, when there was never any given reason to warrant this !! she puts other guys on the phone to me even though we are broken up, i ussually just hang up, i get "random" txt messages that where not apparently meant for me to my phone from her, i get the told that she has much better than me now, yet she feels the need to rub it in my face...i get called a waster and ugly, even though i have a focused head on my shoulder and not to sound too cocky but im not a bad looking bloke either......P.S not sure if this in the right thread, if a mod wants to move it, no probs recently i was in hospital, i recently found out i have a cyst on my brain and go for regular check ups (she knows about this ) i get told by her that i am lying i am goin to hospital and she cruelly laughs at me along with her friends sayinh " has it gotten bigger " i mean * * * !! any gesture of kindness made on my part in the past was what seemed to be percieved as giving her the upper hand and she has some sort of hold on me now... recently found out she has cheated with an ex friend of mine too, dosnt suprise me with her but it still hurts !! i say do never contact me again i get phone calls the next week like nothing has ever happend, i reinforce that i will NOT be friends with her....i get threatend with getting beaten up when i speak my mind or defen my point after her tirade of abuse, ie: ur ugly, your a waster, you could have wrote more on my birthday card, she says. im just really startin to lose my cool, and she is starting to contact aquantances of mine, bad mouthing me....its starting to wear on my self esteem where as before it would not of botherd me...and im kicking myself for lowering to that level....my last txt msg to her was : "ok, will you delete my number aswell and get out of my life you toxic cancerous * * * * " never got a reply (tank god ) any input would be great guys...im startin to lose sleep over this now and feel slightly lower esteemed, its getting to me and im starting to belive the hurtfull things shes saying, when i know i shouldnt....thanks guys, sorry its long !! Last edited by seanl7532; 11-03-2009 at 09:31 PM.

11-03-2009, 09:44 PM	#2
BlueAfterglow08 Online Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: UK Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 5,248	Welcome to ENA You basically need to cut her off, for good. As in dont answer her calls or texts, change her number if you have too, block her off things. You need to stay away. She sounds truly horrible. You deserve a lot better. __________________ Please see the forum rules before posting http://www.enotalone.com/forum/forum-rules.php ''Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.' -Mahatma Gandhi'

11-03-2009, 10:17 PM	#3
In the Dark Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: New Zealand Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 868	Hey welcome to ENA Thats horrible behaviour from your ex. Quite reminicent of my ex. Was so nice to her but somehow she wouldturn everything around so I was the one with the issues. I wouldn't beonhere if I wasn't hurting and knowing I didn't do a thing wrong. You REALLY have to cut her off in all ways you can. I went tothe extent of cutting off associated friends although that is extreme. She is continuing to hurt you without a thought of how much what she does hurts you. Maybeshe hasn't been in your shoes before. Maybe she thinks this is what will "help" (as my ex said) "build a bridge and ****ing get over it!" So if I were in your shoes I would call it quits, as much as your heart may not want this. She has done far too much damage. __________________ Shhhh......

11-03-2009, 10:22 PM	#4
IGlareOften Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Texas Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 246	Welcome. Hope we can help. I agree with the person above. She sounds horrible and definitely someone who could go "Single white female" on you at any moment. I know it's a hassle, but perhaps you should change your number. Definitely cutting ALL contact is best. I know ti's hard when someone is slandering you, but it's best to completely ignore anything she says. It's not right of her to say such things about your medical condition. That's truly hateful and she needs to be smacked. You can do better all around...and you don't deserve what she is giving you. That being said... I LOVE Irish boys. Regardless of what you look like..your accent makes you hot. Come to America..you'd be VERY popular. HA. (I know that was way off topic..but I had to say it.)

11-03-2009, 11:07 PM	#5
seanl7532 Offline Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: ireland Gender: Male Posts: 2	thanks for the replys guys, ive already changed my number and gotten a new one, but i do have to turn on my old phone occasionly as i have work contacts voicemails on it that i have to listen too, i dont want to leave a message minder saying my new number either, coz well id be more or less shooting my self in the foot then, however this is wen the calls and txts start, when she recieves a dilevery report from the prior txts shes sent, im not sure what "white singal female" is glare......us irish are kind of a lingo onto are own, but will deffo consider the states lol i really just want to be shot of this girl, as it is sucking the life out of me at this stage, its like it dosnt matter what typeof reaction she gets from me weather it be good or negative !!! she persistently says she dosnt want me, but yet is the only one to innite contact with me ALL the time......most things get twisted back on me, and when i am still tryin to defend my point, its like she goes off on another tangent......the girls behaviour kinda freaks and scares me though, like shes capable of anything

11-03-2009, 11:54 PM	#6
IGlareOften Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Texas Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 246	That's it. There's a movie from back in the 80's- early 90's. This woman was flat mates with another woman. The flat mate fell in love and started to go psycho on this poor woman. So...we call it being a "single white female" It's just a term for a psychotic woman who will end up chopping you in your sleep. Nothing to fret about. LOL