When is enough ENOUGH?!?!?!? - Page 2

FreedomRing · 07-29-2010, 01:49 PM

^^^^ sorry for the double post. There really is a happy medium on the spectrum of assertiveness...there's being abusive, and totally lacking any sort of balls. Not saying you need to go around the house, beating on your chest every night and morning, but we DO appreciate our men re-defining their boundaries, whether it be regarding children, or your relationship. I think it's not jsut true for men, but for women too. Who doesn't respect a person who can calmly, and firmly, state how they are feeling, and what they will/will not tolerate. It's absolutely necessary.

wihus69 · 08-25-2010, 10:58 AM

Hey all,

Well, the situation has reached it's conclusion and the wife finally admitted that she wants out, and that even though she 'loves me' and thinks I'm a great guy, she's done.

When I first posted this thread less than a month ago, I knew it was probably going to end up this way, but I so desperately wanted it to work.

I wanted my family, my wife, my life that I had spent over 6 yrs building.

I went through the whole 'woe-is-me' phase over the past few weeks, and there are, quite literally, no more tears left.

I dated my wife for TWO YEARS before we got married, and a part of me still thinks that the last 8 years of my life were 'wasted'.

I would be so much better off financially, etc, if I had just stayed single.

Here's the funny part of it, though:

The little 'side' internet business I started a few years back that I mentioned in my original post has FINALLY picked up steam (yes, it's protected and not in my name - I made sure of that when I started, so no worries there

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I'm sorta glad it took this long, because if I had started making the big bucks earlier it might have 'masked over' our problems and then I would REALLY be in the hurt locker, with alimony, etc.

I already told my wife that I will fight alimony tooth and nail if she is stupid enough to pursue it (she's already told me she won't), so I'm not worried there either.

It's so strange to even be writing this, but I guess at least now there is closure, and that in itself is helping me focus on my business and helping others, instead of having to be so me-centric because of my personal problems.

Thanks for the ear folks, and I wish all of you the best.

07-29-2010, 01:49 PM	#11
FreedomRing Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 1,144	^^^^ sorry for the double post. There really is a happy medium on the spectrum of assertiveness...there's being abusive, and totally lacking any sort of balls. Not saying you need to go around the house, beating on your chest every night and morning, but we DO appreciate our men re-defining their boundaries, whether it be regarding children, or your relationship. I think it's not jsut true for men, but for women too. Who doesn't respect a person who can calmly, and firmly, state how they are feeling, and what they will/will not tolerate. It's absolutely necessary. __________________ Recognize your worth!!!

08-25-2010, 10:58 AM	#12
wihus69 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 5	Hey all, Well, the situation has reached it's conclusion and the wife finally admitted that she wants out, and that even though she 'loves me' and thinks I'm a great guy, she's done. When I first posted this thread less than a month ago, I knew it was probably going to end up this way, but I so desperately wanted it to work. I wanted my family, my wife, my life that I had spent over 6 yrs building. I went through the whole 'woe-is-me' phase over the past few weeks, and there are, quite literally, no more tears left. I dated my wife for TWO YEARS before we got married, and a part of me still thinks that the last 8 years of my life were 'wasted'. I would be so much better off financially, etc, if I had just stayed single. Here's the funny part of it, though: The little 'side' internet business I started a few years back that I mentioned in my original post has FINALLY picked up steam (yes, it's protected and not in my name - I made sure of that when I started, so no worries there. I'm sorta glad it took this long, because if I had started making the big bucks earlier it might have 'masked over' our problems and then I would REALLY be in the hurt locker, with alimony, etc. I already told my wife that I will fight alimony tooth and nail if she is stupid enough to pursue it (she's already told me she won't), so I'm not worried there either. It's so strange to even be writing this, but I guess at least now there is closure, and that in itself is helping me focus on my business and helping others, instead of having to be so me-centric because of my personal problems. Thanks for the ear folks, and I wish all of you the best.