Should I marry a girl who just wants to be a housewife?

[lostnscared]

Originally Posted by Batya33

Well, if she gets full custody of the child then my guess is that he would have to support her decision to be a full time mother - it certainly would not need to be a mutual decisio. It also depends what is best for the child - if the childcare options are not good enough then what is best for the child might be to have the mother be the full time caregiver.

I agree that being a housewife should be a mutual decision if there are no children yet - but taking care of a child full time is not "being a housewife".

Why wouldn't they do a joint custody? And even if she had full custody, the child support would be for the child NOT for her to stay at home with the child. Though I'm sure if she could do that she would arrange for it to happen. Obviously the best interest of the child is the MOST important thing here. But I still think this was intentional.
And obviously she would be a stay at home mom if she had this baby, was awarded full custody, and was supplied with the money for her to stay at home. This is what she wanted and it's not what he wanted. Which is a bit unfair to him, but he made the decision to have sex with someone who had completely different goals than he did.

[Batya33]

Originally Posted by lostnscared

Why wouldn't they do a joint custody? And even if she had full custody, the child support would be for the child NOT for her to stay at home with the child. Though I'm sure if she could do that she would arrange for it to happen. Obviously the best interest of the child is the MOST important thing here. But I still think this was intentional.
And obviously she would be a stay at home mom if she had this baby, was awarded full custody, and was supplied with the money for her to stay at home. This is what she wanted and it's not what he wanted. Which is a bit unfair to him, but he made the decision to have sex with someone who had completely different goals than he did.

Yes, it's a tough one, for sure. I'm not so sure he should be risking pregnancy with someone he lacks compatible values and goals wth.