What are the benefits of having children?

[FarthestEdge]

Originally Posted by fantastic

I asked a similar question on another site a few months ago and someone there made a similar type of response. I don't get it really. I saw my brother and sister grow as a baby, remember it well. Was great for the first 3 months then got boring for me. I can imagine it being the same if I had a kid. I guess I may just lack empathy, because a few have said this now and I'm like " so what? if a kid tells me it loves me, how will that improve my life?"



Maybe, just remember when they stop looking cute and less smelly, they start turning into hormonal teens. You got all that to come, good luck.



And for every one like him, there's another who ends up not caring for the kid and neglecting it. It over complicates life. By yourself all you need it to eat healthy, look good, keep to yourself and get as much money as possible. Having a kid seems like unnecessary baggage. A kid would do nothing for me emotionally other then stress me out. I'd be forced to concentarte on that kid rather then myself, and to me that is not a good thing.

You know, no one is telling you you HAVE to have kids, quite the contrary. So I am confused as to the purpose of your post. You ask why we have kids, we share our perspective, and then you try to tear down our points as if it's some kind of right/wrong scenario.

If you want to understand, then read, and try to comprehend that other people have different values than you do.

If you want to justify your own decision to remain child-free, then realize that it's your life, and you don't need to justify it to anyone else. But trying to debate our values to prove we are wrong/stupid for having kids is pointless. You don't get it, you don't get it. There's nothing wrong with that. But there is ALSO nothing wrong with those of us who DO get it.

Different values, different choices. Live your life according to your values, you don't need to rip ours apart to justify yours.

Just remember, it's a good thing YOUR parents didn't have the same values as you do, or you wouldn't be here to enjoy all the things a child-free life has to offer.....

[Victoria66]

Originally Posted by FarthestEdge

You know, no one is telling you you HAVE to have kids, quite the contrary. So I am confused as to the purpose of your post. You ask why we have kids, we share our perspective, and then you try to tear down our points as if it's some kind of right/wrong scenario.

If you want to understand, then read, and try to comprehend that other people have different values than you do.

If you want to justify your own decision to remain child-free, then realize that it's your life, and you don't need to justify it to anyone else. But trying to debate our values to prove we are wrong/stupid for having kids is pointless. You don't get it, you don't get it. There's nothing wrong with that. But there is ALSO nothing wrong with those of us who DO get it.

Different values, different choices. Live your life according to your values, you don't need to rip ours apart to justify yours.

Just remember, it's a good thing YOUR parents didn't have the same values as you do, or you wouldn't be here to enjoy all the things a child-free life has to offer.....

Love this post. Different strokes for different folks. We will never understand you and you will never understand us, but at least support the right of the other to live as they chose.

[fantastic]

Originally Posted by Victoria66

Ok, you know that about yourself...so why refute people who find they DO enjoy it?

I was just bored and curious. Don't take it personally

Originally Posted by BellaDonna

I'm ready.

We were ALL hormonal teenagers once.



Oh I am the oldest of 3 and I did not find my siblings to be very enjoyable when I was a child. They wanted to share my toys and were annoying in general. It's different if the child is your own and you are an adult.

Just use reliable birth control and you will be all set. There's no rule that says you have to have children. There are many like-minded people out there who do not want them, and that is fine.

I'm using the best method of birth control possible right now. Been celibate for a couple of years. Getting bored of that now.

[fantastic]

Originally Posted by FarthestEdge

You know, no one is telling you you HAVE to have kids, quite the contrary. So I am confused as to the purpose of your post. You ask why we have kids, we share our perspective, and then you try to tear down our points as if it's some kind of right/wrong scenario.

If you want to understand, then read, and try to comprehend that other people have different values than you do.

If you want to justify your own decision to remain child-free, then realize that it's your life, and you don't need to justify it to anyone else. But trying to debate our values to prove we are wrong/stupid for having kids is pointless. You don't get it, you don't get it. There's nothing wrong with that. But there is ALSO nothing wrong with those of us who DO get it.

Different values, different choices. Live your life according to your values, you don't need to rip ours apart to justify yours.

Just remember, it's a good thing YOUR parents didn't have the same values as you do, or you wouldn't be here to enjoy all the things a child-free life has to offer.....

Another one. Bored and curious, BORED AND CURIOUS.

I don't care how many kids you have. Have a 1000 for all I care.

This thread was more about me trying to figure out why I feel and think the way I do.

[Victoria66]

Well, that is more about you and not about kids themselves, I am sure the answer is inside yourself and probably in your own childhood.

[BellaDonna]

This thread had run its course.