Teen Pregnancy? - Page 3

~Unknown~ · 03-09-2010, 04:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Cognitive_Canine

Show me a teen who can. I really doubt any teenager can support a child.

It just ends up being the parents.

I think it's a great way to screw up your life and potential harm another human being.

See if I had a daughter who got pregnant I would sit her down and tell her that while I'll support her with whatever choice she makes, if she keeps the baby then she cannot at all expect me to raise it for her while she lives her life like a normal teenager. I would do stuff like babysit every now and then but she would be the one who'd have to take care of the baby every day and get up with it in the night when it cries. Being a parent isn't easy and if she made that choice then she has to accept that she can't just leave the baby with parents whenever she wants to go out with friends.

My mum was my age (21) when she had me and even that feels too young in my eyes. I don't want kids myself but I know that *If* I ever changed my mind I wouldn't have them till I was 30! That way I'd still have my 20's to be young and free.

babii doll · 03-09-2010, 04:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Cognitive_Canine

Show me a teen who can. I really doubt any teenager can support a child.

It just ends up being the parents.

I think it's a great way to screw up your life and potential harm another human being.

wow. guess i screwed up my life, got pregnant at 16. the father left, got a job after the baby was born and managed to support my son financially with the help of childcare assistance, stayed in school and finished, even went to college. its not always left on the parents.

jadenrain · 03-09-2010, 04:54 AM

I wish I would have been it would have been better to be a teen mother then to not have children at all.

kerri_nicole · 03-09-2010, 05:17 AM

I had my first son at 17, not planned obviously and no I was not having u protected s*x either!
I had to grow up very very quickly! I had jsut started college so deferred it for a year then went back when he was 8 months. Studied at night when he was asleep beside me and went to college full time during the day. Did not have much of a life nor got to travel but I did 7 years in college have a very godo job now (he is 10 in June) jsut bought my own house. I will say it was tough being a single young mum is very tough and there were days when I really struggled, financially and emotionally but I could not think of myself my baby had to come first. he is the best thing that ever happened to me and I can say that now.
I now have another little boy he is 10 months and my first son is fantastic with him. I would not change anything but I still think sometimes of what I went through and what I would liked to of done etc.
Your very young to be thinking of having a baby, it changes everything, not necessarily ina bad way, as I said I would never change it but that was my personal situation!
Also I have great family and friends who were there for me to allow me to study etc...

Hope75 · 03-09-2010, 08:35 AM

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Originally Posted by car_or_me

what do you think of these shows coming on tv?

like teen mom or 16 & pregnant

I think if anything they should be a shining beacon as to why you should wait to become pregnant until you are older, married or in a long term committed relationship, educated, financially stable, and ready to be parents.

Hope75 · 03-09-2010, 08:38 AM

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Originally Posted by car_or_me

Also for people telling me 18 is to young, im also very sick don't know if i will be able to have kids in the future.

i've been dating the same guy for 8 years. and we were hoping to have kids of our own.

but we are trying to wait to see about my health

Sick with what? Is this something progressive and fatal, that would leave your child without a mother? That is something to really think about- because you wanted a child knowing that he or she will lose their mother at a young age is selfish IMO.

Pinnsvini · 03-09-2010, 09:15 AM

I do not agree with teen pregnancy at all, you are not financially or emotionally ready and you need to do a hell of a lot of growing up in those 9 months before you have a baby.
The fact you want to have a baby while you have terminal cancer shocks me. You realise when you die your child will not have a mother? You will be leaving your child behind, and most likely it will be far too young to go through that. I would never force a child that young to deal with bereavement, especially of a parent. I do understand the urge to pass on life is strong, but I think it is extremely selfish to have a child when you know you're not going to be around to see it grow up.
Sorry to be harsh, but it is reality.

Bella20 · 03-09-2010, 10:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Hope75

Sick with what? Is this something progressive and fatal, that would leave your child without a mother? That is something to really think about- because you wanted a child knowing that he or she will lose their mother at a young age is selfish IMO.

She said she has cancer and won't live long

**avman** · 03-09-2010, 10:21 AM

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03-09-2010, 04:54 AM	#23
jadenrain Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: USA Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 107	I wish I would have been it would have been better to be a teen mother then to not have children at all.

03-09-2010, 05:17 AM	#24
kerri_nicole Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Ireland Gender: Female Posts: 77	I had my first son at 17, not planned obviously and no I was not having u protected s*x either! I had to grow up very very quickly! I had jsut started college so deferred it for a year then went back when he was 8 months. Studied at night when he was asleep beside me and went to college full time during the day. Did not have much of a life nor got to travel but I did 7 years in college have a very godo job now (he is 10 in June) jsut bought my own house. I will say it was tough being a single young mum is very tough and there were days when I really struggled, financially and emotionally but I could not think of myself my baby had to come first. he is the best thing that ever happened to me and I can say that now. I now have another little boy he is 10 months and my first son is fantastic with him. I would not change anything but I still think sometimes of what I went through and what I would liked to of done etc. Your very young to be thinking of having a baby, it changes everything, not necessarily ina bad way, as I said I would never change it but that was my personal situation! Also I have great family and friends who were there for me to allow me to study etc...

03-09-2010, 09:15 AM	#27
Pinnsvini Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Scotland Gender: Female Posts: 283	I do not agree with teen pregnancy at all, you are not financially or emotionally ready and you need to do a hell of a lot of growing up in those 9 months before you have a baby. The fact you want to have a baby while you have terminal cancer shocks me. You realise when you die your child will not have a mother? You will be leaving your child behind, and most likely it will be far too young to go through that. I would never force a child that young to deal with bereavement, especially of a parent. I do understand the urge to pass on life is strong, but I think it is extremely selfish to have a child when you know you're not going to be around to see it grow up. Sorry to be harsh, but it is reality.