family gossip

babii doll · 03-06-2010, 11:17 PM

my immediate family is notorious for this. im the only one who thinks its tacky and disrespectful, even moreso if family confides in me and i spread the info to all of our relatives i would think it breaks a bond/trust.

whenever something happens more than likely it becomes the late breaking news. the main 2 who do this are my older sister and our mom. they are very close and share just about every bit of news that comes along with eachother.

lately i havent had many friends to confide in, im down to 1 i rarely speak to so i made the crucial mistake of talking to my sister about my life and relationship issues that have been going on. she gave me some good advice on certain things that were helpful.

a month later my mom and i got into an argument over something that happened at a unofficial family reunion and she took this as an oppurtunity to bring up what i shared with my sister not too long ago. this came out of left field and i was a bit speechless at 1st. then i collected my thoughts and told her it was none of her business. but apparently my business became everyones business. this was a lesson learned to never share anything again.

sadly i cant even confide in family about private matters without it turning into a public discussion

i think my mom and sister really have no business/life of their own so they soak up every little detail that comes up with relatives and spread the word. my dad and brother gossip right along with them but not as bad as them.

whenever there are family get togethers theres always a playback afterwards of whose fallen on hard times and whose been in jail, whose been cheating on their wife, you get the picture. its all just toxic to me and it makes me want to distance myself from them. but as said before i have 1 friend at the moment, not many others to talk to.

the funny thing is when my mom and sister arent around eachother they talk crap about eachother! no one is safe from the venom.

anya · 03-07-2010, 04:41 AM

I feel for you, I have family members like this. It's a good thing to learn who you can trust, and who most definitely cannot. Breathe a sigh of relief that from now on you won't be caught in such an awful predicament with them.

There's a fine line between concern and interference, I try to forgive their ignorance by remembering this point.

babii doll · 03-08-2010, 04:35 PM

thanks, sometimes it frustrates me knowing i cant confide in them, but ive learned my lesson from all of this and will move forward.

03-06-2010, 11:17 PM	#1
babii doll Offline Silver Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Texas Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 780	family gossip my immediate family is notorious for this. im the only one who thinks its tacky and disrespectful, even moreso if family confides in me and i spread the info to all of our relatives i would think it breaks a bond/trust. whenever something happens more than likely it becomes the late breaking news. the main 2 who do this are my older sister and our mom. they are very close and share just about every bit of news that comes along with eachother. lately i havent had many friends to confide in, im down to 1 i rarely speak to so i made the crucial mistake of talking to my sister about my life and relationship issues that have been going on. she gave me some good advice on certain things that were helpful. a month later my mom and i got into an argument over something that happened at a unofficial family reunion and she took this as an oppurtunity to bring up what i shared with my sister not too long ago. this came out of left field and i was a bit speechless at 1st. then i collected my thoughts and told her it was none of her business. but apparently my business became everyones business. this was a lesson learned to never share anything again. sadly i cant even confide in family about private matters without it turning into a public discussion i think my mom and sister really have no business/life of their own so they soak up every little detail that comes up with relatives and spread the word. my dad and brother gossip right along with them but not as bad as them. whenever there are family get togethers theres always a playback afterwards of whose fallen on hard times and whose been in jail, whose been cheating on their wife, you get the picture. its all just toxic to me and it makes me want to distance myself from them. but as said before i have 1 friend at the moment, not many others to talk to. the funny thing is when my mom and sister arent around eachother they talk crap about eachother! no one is safe from the venom.

03-07-2010, 04:41 AM	#2
anya Offline Gold Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: uk Gender: None Specified Posts: 568	I feel for you, I have family members like this. It's a good thing to learn who you can trust, and who most definitely cannot. Breathe a sigh of relief that from now on you won't be caught in such an awful predicament with them. There's a fine line between concern and interference, I try to forgive their ignorance by remembering this point.

03-08-2010, 04:35 PM	#3
babii doll Offline Silver Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Texas Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 780	thanks, sometimes it frustrates me knowing i cant confide in them, but ive learned my lesson from all of this and will move forward.