would he believe that I could be pregnant?? - Page 2

edfnd · 03-06-2010, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by butterflylove

I dont understand... I gavehim the most precious thing I have, my virginity! why on earth would he even make me have these thoughts in my head, the thoughts that he would doubt what I say about such a thing...

Men don't care about the fact you lost your virginity for him... the only thing we care about most is the fact that we scored a jackpot and that is all it matter to us.

Woman don't go out there with their friends and say that she lost her virginity and not get gossiped. On the other hand, when men go out there and tell their friends he got laid / just lost his virginity trophy... hes the gangsta... the man of all man... an idol who deserves a red carpet. Sadly enough that is the truth... almost every single men has trophies for losing their virginity.

Hope75 · 03-06-2010, 12:14 PM

I'm sorry you are going through this, but honestly I think you are creating more drama than this is worth. If this guy wanted to talk to you, he would. If he wanted a relationship with you, he would do it. By not taking the test and dragging out the drama you are simply looking for attention from someone you care about who does not reciprocate your feelings. It's sad, I know you are hurting, but you aren't going to force feelings from this guy.

Take the test, get your answer, and decide what your next move is from there.

lavenderdove · 03-06-2010, 01:45 PM

There are a whole lot of 'should's' in this world (as in he should care about your feelings), but whether he does or not is a different story.

And if he pushed you into something like having sex with him before you were ready, then he really wasn't thinking about your feelings then, and so may not be caring about them now either.

I'd focus on the main problem here, whether you are pregnant or not. If you are early on in the pregnancy, you can probably do Plan B medication to end the pregnancy, which is much less traumatic than a later abortion. So don't delay in determining whether you are pregnant or not if you already know how you will react to a pregnancy.

Also, take home pregnancy tests are extremely accurate, especially if you have already missed your period by 12 days. The results you get now have an extremely high probability of being accurate, so you should take one ASAP.

Hope75 · 03-06-2010, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by lavenderdove

There are a whole lot of 'should's' in this world (as in he should care about your feelings), but whether he does or not is a different story.

And if he pushed you into something like having sex with him before you were ready, then he really wasn't thinking about your feelings then, and so may not be caring about them now either.

I'd focus on the main problem here, whether you are pregnant or not. If you are early on in the pregnancy, you can probably do Plan B medication to end the pregnancy, which is much less traumatic than a later abortion. So don't delay in determining whether you are pregnant or not if you already know how you will react to a pregnancy.

Also, take home pregnancy tests are extremely accurate, especially if you have already missed your period by 12 days. The results you get now have an extremely high probability of being accurate, so you should take one ASAP.

Plan B is emergency contraception and can only be taken up to 72 hours after the sexual encounter but not after you are pregnant. I think you might be confusing this with the abortion pill, RU486?

lavenderdove · 03-06-2010, 02:29 PM

^^
Oh sorry, yes... I meant RU486. I know there is another name for it too...

03-06-2010, 12:14 PM	#12
Hope75 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: kitteh ville Gender: Female Age: 34 Posts: 12,832	I'm sorry you are going through this, but honestly I think you are creating more drama than this is worth. If this guy wanted to talk to you, he would. If he wanted a relationship with you, he would do it. By not taking the test and dragging out the drama you are simply looking for attention from someone you care about who does not reciprocate your feelings. It's sad, I know you are hurting, but you aren't going to force feelings from this guy. Take the test, get your answer, and decide what your next move is from there. __________________ Mama to a beautiful baby girl born 6-25-09. :) Baby # 2 forever missed lost 6-3-10. "An angel in the book of life wrote down my baby's birth. Then whispered as she closed the book "too beautiful for earth". ~author unknown "Victory is sweetest when you have known defeat" ~ Malcolm Forbes

03-06-2010, 01:45 PM	#13
lavenderdove Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 3,466	There are a whole lot of 'should's' in this world (as in he should care about your feelings), but whether he does or not is a different story. And if he pushed you into something like having sex with him before you were ready, then he really wasn't thinking about your feelings then, and so may not be caring about them now either. I'd focus on the main problem here, whether you are pregnant or not. If you are early on in the pregnancy, you can probably do Plan B medication to end the pregnancy, which is much less traumatic than a later abortion. So don't delay in determining whether you are pregnant or not if you already know how you will react to a pregnancy. Also, take home pregnancy tests are extremely accurate, especially if you have already missed your period by 12 days. The results you get now have an extremely high probability of being accurate, so you should take one ASAP.

03-06-2010, 02:29 PM	#15
lavenderdove Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 3,466	^^ Oh sorry, yes... I meant RU486. I know there is another name for it too...