How did you meet your new potential bf?

Chloe03 · 12-29-2009, 06:28 PM

My question is how do you meet random potential guys? I don’t know any single guys and am wondering how you make yourself seem approachable to someone you dont know. Do you do the prolonged eye contact when passing someone? I’m not sure what else there is, also does that make me seem uninterested if I look away?

How did you meet your bf if it wasnt someone you already know or a friend of a friend? What did you do and where was it?

Any input helps!!

HouseKitten · 12-29-2009, 06:34 PM

Internet dating

It felt a bit like window shopping to me. You can see a little about the person, check out a couple of pictures in your own time, maybe chat to them a bit and then decide if you want to meet up following that.

It's not for everyone but it can certainly work perfectly well

catwalk · 12-29-2009, 06:36 PM

before I met my current bf through a friend, the only place I went was online.

online dating can be fun and you can meet some great guys! Just don't get discouraged if you meet a jerk (or two)

pof
okcupid
casualkiss

all great sites that are free

duke · 12-29-2009, 06:38 PM

volunteer. go to meetup.com and find a group that shares some of your interests. Or maybe you should just approach someone you find attractive. You need to realize that you are a woman and that they have the power to attract men. You can approach guys anywhere as a woman and it's not considered "wrong." And odds are that as a woman you won't be as rejected as a man. Your rejection factor is a lot lower so take advantage of that.

Maya_A · 12-29-2009, 06:39 PM

Any place that you frequent would be a good place. You will always meet others that frequent there also. That continued shared vicinity or contact is an excellent potential ground for getting to know someone more deeply.

For instance, I met my bf at the gym. I worked there, worked out there, & he worked out there. Now, he also works there part-time as a group fitness instructor & we did all of our instructor certifications together. Point is that you know you both share a common interest that is part of a lifestyle if you are always at the same event, group, whatever...

What is also good about that, is that you have an instant topic to discuss. At the very beginning of talking, my bf & I discussed work outs (& would show each other things), eating habits, etc. That then bridged the gap to talk about other topics also.

Another advantage is where sometimes things are awkward in terms of asking someone out, if you share an interest in an event it will make it easier. Example again-- My bf asked me if I was going to a popular fitness conference & when I said yes, he said maybe we could go together. So that shared interest is kind of a "safe" way to ask someone to do something together.

WomanWriter · 12-29-2009, 07:05 PM

Internet, work, school, church, friend's party, neighborhood

Blue Skittles · 12-29-2009, 07:21 PM

These are a list of places that i've met boyfriends/potential boyfriends

Internet dating sites

Through friends - like at a party

Taking a course

At a church group

At work

The possibilities are endless. Internet dating is a good place to start if you are busy and don't have time to do different activities. If you have time you can join an activity or a club you are interested in, like a dance class or a church group. Maybe one of your friends can throw a party and invite some cute single guys. Go out dancing on New Years eve and check out the scenery there!

arcadefire · 12-29-2009, 07:39 PM

I met my current bf through a mutual friend. I honestly can't give much advice on where to meet people... it's just coincidence and luck really. I've met random men at clubs before, but all of them never worked out because of a lack of commonality. Joining clubs, groups, organizations, etc. where people do share a common interest and hobby would be a good place to start.

Misskitty16 · 12-29-2009, 08:09 PM

I have only met bf's on-line, at work or through friends. I have never in my entire life met a bf through a club/organization, group or hobby (although everyone suggests it), or church.

sweet_kisses · 12-30-2009, 09:32 AM

I actually met every boyfriend (except for one who I knew from highschool from before) at a nightclub. Unlike the stereotype, there decent guys who go out and like to party mixed in with the jerks, just like everywhere else. The last one was serious..I really though we were going to move in together in the future and maybe get married...and yup, met him at a nightclub.

12-29-2009, 06:28 PM	#1
Chloe03 Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 73	How did you meet your new potential bf? My question is how do you meet random potential guys? I don’t know any single guys and am wondering how you make yourself seem approachable to someone you dont know. Do you do the prolonged eye contact when passing someone? I’m not sure what else there is, also does that make me seem uninterested if I look away? How did you meet your bf if it wasnt someone you already know or a friend of a friend? What did you do and where was it? Any input helps!!

12-29-2009, 07:39 PM	#8
arcadefire Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 1,950	I met my current bf through a mutual friend. I honestly can't give much advice on where to meet people... it's just coincidence and luck really. I've met random men at clubs before, but all of them never worked out because of a lack of commonality. Joining clubs, groups, organizations, etc. where people do share a common interest and hobby would be a good place to start. __________________ I've been searching for a heart of gold... - Neil Young

12-29-2009, 06:34 PM	#2
HouseKitten Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 2,535	Internet dating It felt a bit like window shopping to me. You can see a little about the person, check out a couple of pictures in your own time, maybe chat to them a bit and then decide if you want to meet up following that. It's not for everyone but it can certainly work perfectly well

12-29-2009, 06:36 PM	#3
catwalk Offline Gold Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: North America! Gender: Female Age: 31 Posts: 538	before I met my current bf through a friend, the only place I went was online. online dating can be fun and you can meet some great guys! Just don't get discouraged if you meet a jerk (or two) pof okcupid casualkiss all great sites that are free

12-29-2009, 06:38 PM	#4
duke Offline Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 1	volunteer. go to meetup.com and find a group that shares some of your interests. Or maybe you should just approach someone you find attractive. You need to realize that you are a woman and that they have the power to attract men. You can approach guys anywhere as a woman and it's not considered "wrong." And odds are that as a woman you won't be as rejected as a man. Your rejection factor is a lot lower so take advantage of that.

12-29-2009, 06:39 PM	#5
Maya_A Offline Gold Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Ontario_Canada Gender: Female Posts: 974	Any place that you frequent would be a good place. You will always meet others that frequent there also. That continued shared vicinity or contact is an excellent potential ground for getting to know someone more deeply. For instance, I met my bf at the gym. I worked there, worked out there, & he worked out there. Now, he also works there part-time as a group fitness instructor & we did all of our instructor certifications together. Point is that you know you both share a common interest that is part of a lifestyle if you are always at the same event, group, whatever... What is also good about that, is that you have an instant topic to discuss. At the very beginning of talking, my bf & I discussed work outs (& would show each other things), eating habits, etc. That then bridged the gap to talk about other topics also. Another advantage is where sometimes things are awkward in terms of asking someone out, if you share an interest in an event it will make it easier. Example again-- My bf asked me if I was going to a popular fitness conference & when I said yes, he said maybe we could go together. So that shared interest is kind of a "safe" way to ask someone to do something together.

12-29-2009, 07:05 PM	#6
WomanWriter Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: New York Gender: Female Posts: 2,869	Internet, work, school, church, friend's party, neighborhood

12-29-2009, 07:21 PM	#7
Blue Skittles Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Canada Age: 27 Posts: 1,466	These are a list of places that i've met boyfriends/potential boyfriends Internet dating sites Through friends - like at a party Taking a course At a church group At work The possibilities are endless. Internet dating is a good place to start if you are busy and don't have time to do different activities. If you have time you can join an activity or a club you are interested in, like a dance class or a church group. Maybe one of your friends can throw a party and invite some cute single guys. Go out dancing on New Years eve and check out the scenery there!

12-29-2009, 08:09 PM	#9
Misskitty16 Offline Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Whisker City Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 4,565	I have only met bf's on-line, at work or through friends. I have never in my entire life met a bf through a club/organization, group or hobby (although everyone suggests it), or church.

12-30-2009, 09:32 AM	#10
sweet_kisses Offline Silver Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 515	I actually met every boyfriend (except for one who I knew from highschool from before) at a nightclub. Unlike the stereotype, there decent guys who go out and like to party mixed in with the jerks, just like everywhere else. The last one was serious..I really though we were going to move in together in the future and maybe get married...and yup, met him at a nightclub.