Person I like smokes weed, making me anxious - Page 5

AnxiousThought · 11-07-2009, 11:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Nidania

Just take it nice and easy with this fellow though, okay? You sound like a really nice, caring person, and I'd hate to see you wind up in another bad relationship, like the previous 5 year one you mentioned earlier.

Try a friendship first, and just be careful

Thanks, your posts have been pretty encouraging =)

Revolution · 11-07-2009, 11:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Cminor7th

Yeah, drop the pothead, doesn't matter if it is medicinal or not, no good can come from it...

Next thing you know, you'll be on A+E's "Intervention"...

You can do much better OP....

I call troll.

RideOn · 11-07-2009, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Nidania

This sounds like your friend merely substituted one addiction for another. That's rarely going to have a happy ending.

You're exactly right Nidania.

I'm not sure this is the right thing to say, and I'm sure some won't think it is, but I wish he just stayed with the drinking. I know that may sound wrong but at least he would do stuff with the guys and go out with us when we would go to the bar for a couple cold ones.

Cminor7th · 11-07-2009, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by AnxiousThought

Aww come one, you have to be a little sympathetic towards him. Maybe that's why I'm starting to care and like about him so much, but anyone with that kind of background deserves a chance at love, and isn't a bad person, like someone said.

Life offers no quarter and spares no one. Your empathy is good, but it could be used towards better candidates...

I don't see an unfortunate upbringing as a crutch....

AnxiousThought · 11-07-2009, 11:26 PM

He lives in his van, and plans to for a while, but is by no means a bum. First thing he did when he got here was enroll into school next semester and get a job. He's not home (or in his van, however you want to look at it) from pretty much morning until night when he gets off work. He doesn't strike me as a lazy, throw-his-life-away kind of person at all. I'm just specifically concerned with the future, and which to sadly, I can only speculate on, and that is making me anxious.

Cminor7th · 11-07-2009, 11:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Revolution

I call troll.

I'm just speaking the truth, deal with it.

Revolution · 11-07-2009, 11:28 PM

I make almost 30,000 a year, I just turned 19, and I smoke.

AnxiousThought · 11-07-2009, 11:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Cminor7th

I'm just speaking the truth, deal with it.

I appreciated your input.

Southern · 11-07-2009, 11:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Cminor7th

Life offers no quarter and spares no one. Your empathy is good, but it could be used towards better candidates...

I don't see an unfortunate upbringing as a crutch....

Ok this is a good example of what I was trying to say. You have to decide how important the weed thing is to you. Obviously, to Cminor, weed is out of the question when it comes to finding a partner. That's perfectly ok. Everyone prioritizes differently. You need to decide for yourself exactly how much this bothers you. If he never changes this habit, are you okay with that? If so, give him a chance. If not, dump him, because you shouldn't be with someone that you're waiting to change.

Nidania · 11-07-2009, 11:30 PM

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Originally Posted by RideOn

You're exactly right Nidania.

I'm not sure this is the right thing to say, and I'm sure some won't think it is, but I wish he just stayed with the drinking. I know that may sound wrong but at least he would do stuff with the guys and go out with us when we would go to the bar for a couple cold ones.

From the experience I've had with alcoholics (my ex-husband was one) your friend would likely have ended in a similar situation to the one he is in now. Not necessarily that he'd stop going out, but he would stop being the person he was when you were friends.

I am sorry you're going through this with your friend, and I hope he does come to his senses.

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Originally Posted by Cminor7th

Life offers no quarter and spares no one. Your empathy is good, but it could be used towards better candidates...

I don't see an unfortunate upbringing as a crutch....

Goodness... judge much? The fellow is enrolled in school, and he has a job. He's taking steps to improve his life. I don't see him using his upbringing as a crutch in any way.

11-07-2009, 11:26 PM	#45
AnxiousThought Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 30	He lives in his van, and plans to for a while, but is by no means a bum. First thing he did when he got here was enroll into school next semester and get a job. He's not home (or in his van, however you want to look at it) from pretty much morning until night when he gets off work. He doesn't strike me as a lazy, throw-his-life-away kind of person at all. I'm just specifically concerned with the future, and which to sadly, I can only speculate on, and that is making me anxious. Last edited by AnxiousThought; 11-08-2009 at 05:25 PM.

11-07-2009, 11:28 PM	#47
Revolution Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: San Francisco CA, AKA the 415 Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 49	I make almost 30,000 a year, I just turned 19, and I smoke. Last edited by avman; 11-08-2009 at 06:00 PM.