gee, dont I feel ever si happy (sarcasim people)

second_opinion · 11-04-2009, 09:43 AM

I dont hear from him all day until he sends me a louseey text message at 2am saying he misses me and that he has called me twice and texted me 4 times which I didnt recieve. The thing is, I get everyone elses texts and calls. I feel he doesnt have time for me, I mean during the weekends I feel he doesnt know I exists, even after telling him how i feel and he aplogises, its still ends up the same after 1 wk. Its not how a boyfriend should be, he calls and gets back to his friends and his ex (mother of his kids) which ive seen 1st hand (yes, he stopped during a makeout session to check his messages) but I feel he doesnt do the same with me. Maybe he just uses me for sex...

Greedy Toad · 11-04-2009, 09:45 AM

well, if you feel that way, maybe you should stop having sex with him and see what happens.

norsewoman · 11-04-2009, 09:53 AM

He doesn't see you on weekends? He stops during make-out sessions to check his messages? His "ex" is probably not his "ex"...she's his "right now".

second_opinion · 11-04-2009, 09:55 AM

and what would I say? whats my reason not to have sex with him when he asks?

Greedy Toad · 11-04-2009, 09:56 AM

Tell him parts of what you have said here.

Tell him what it is you are looking for in a boyfriend. Be honest.

free2Bme · 11-04-2009, 09:56 AM

Er, that you're not in the mood. Don't have sex with him just because he wants it.

Tell him you don't just want to be his bootie call.

second_opinion · 11-04-2009, 09:57 AM

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Originally Posted by norsewoman

He doesn't see you on weekends? He stops during make-out sessions to check his messages? His "ex" is probably not his "ex"...she's his "right now".

and how do I find if this is true? Ive asked him about her, he says he only talks to her coz of his kids and that they are friends and couldnt ever be in a relationship because it hasnt worked out in the past...

second_opinion · 11-04-2009, 09:59 AM

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Originally Posted by free2Bme

Er, that you're not in the mood. Don't have sex with him just because he wants it.

Tell him you don't just want to be his bootie call.

lol thats hard because im always in the mood for sex :P

free2Bme · 11-04-2009, 10:10 AM

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Originally Posted by second_opinion

and how do I find if this is true? Ive asked him about her, he says he only talks to her coz of his kids and that they are friends and couldnt ever be in a relationship because it hasnt worked out in the past...

Actions speak louder than words. And at the moment, his actions say that he is more concerned at checking his messages, than spending quality time with you. You're not his number 1 priority when you're with him, or when you're apart. When he's out doing other things, it does not sound like he goes out of his way to contact you, but when he's with you, he contacts other people rather than spending the time 'with' you.

You have said in the past he is a liar....how can you trust someone who lies?

norsewoman · 11-04-2009, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by second_opinion

and how do I find if this is true? Ive asked him about her, he says he only talks to her coz of his kids and that they are friends and couldnt ever be in a relationship because it hasnt worked out in the past...

Well, your first post indicated that he's not around on weekends. Where is he? How often do you see him? How often does he spend the night? Does he live with you? Where does he live? Have you been to his place?

You also mentioned that he will stop in the middle of making out to look at his texts. Somebody else is a bit more important than you!

Somebody who is not really away from their ex may spend the odd night at your place, but will mostly be at the home of the supposed ex.

11-04-2009, 09:43 AM	#1
second_opinion Offline Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 308	gee, dont I feel ever si happy (sarcasim people) I dont hear from him all day until he sends me a louseey text message at 2am saying he misses me and that he has called me twice and texted me 4 times which I didnt recieve. The thing is, I get everyone elses texts and calls. I feel he doesnt have time for me, I mean during the weekends I feel he doesnt know I exists, even after telling him how i feel and he aplogises, its still ends up the same after 1 wk. Its not how a boyfriend should be, he calls and gets back to his friends and his ex (mother of his kids) which ive seen 1st hand (yes, he stopped during a makeout session to check his messages) but I feel he doesnt do the same with me. Maybe he just uses me for sex... __________________ No more!

11-04-2009, 09:45 AM	#2
Greedy Toad Offline Gold Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Melbourne Posts: 504	well, if you feel that way, maybe you should stop having sex with him and see what happens. __________________ The road to hell is paved with good intentions

11-04-2009, 09:55 AM	#4
second_opinion Offline Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 308	and what would I say? whats my reason not to have sex with him when he asks? __________________ No more!

11-04-2009, 09:56 AM	#5
Greedy Toad Offline Gold Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Melbourne Posts: 504	Tell him parts of what you have said here. Tell him what it is you are looking for in a boyfriend. Be honest. __________________ The road to hell is paved with good intentions

11-04-2009, 09:53 AM	#3
norsewoman Online Bronze Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: The frozen north Gender: Female Posts: 153	He doesn't see you on weekends? He stops during make-out sessions to check his messages? His "ex" is probably not his "ex"...she's his "right now".

11-04-2009, 09:56 AM	#6
free2Bme Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: UK Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 761	Er, that you're not in the mood. Don't have sex with him just because he wants it. Tell him you don't just want to be his bootie call.