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Theblueman123

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  1. Yeah just be chill and go with it. Don't follow the whole 3 day rule or something, people who follow "swingers" advice aren't really getting the whole picture. Anyway just move on and find someone else, it really isn't that difficult.
  2. I never thought that I would be posting in here again. Oh well, nostalgia haha. Anyway day 1 NC, from now until I die.
  3. Good luck here, LC is an entirely different monster to deal with. It's like playing high stakes poker and you've just gone all in.. I wish you well HeavyD, I'm doing LC right now to see what's gonna happen. I guess it's a bit like playing chess, and slow decisive moves are the key to our "victory"
  4. You can only do it when you're comfortable with her rejecting you, or if she has moved on and is happy with someone else doing with them what they did with you. When you don't care anymore, then you can break NC.
  5. Good luck, and congratulations. The purpose of this is to live without your ex. From 30 to forever if necessary. Oh, and also this is a victory over your ex. She didn't conquer you, but you overcame her. You won, and now it's time for the next act in your life to begin
  6. Yep. Silence is defeaning in your situation, and trust me, your ex will come snooping around or you'll heal. Don't talk to him first though.
  7. Send her a message stating that you don't want her to contact you. Don't give a timestamp or a date for how long it will last. You're doing this for your own healing, you come first. Send her that message and keep doing NC, but don't start over (Just send her that message, don't reply or respond to anything else). NC is for healing, and when you have healed and changed, then you can intiate contact, but for now your ex deserves nothing from you.
  8. Ignoring should only be used as a last resort. You want to heal from the break-up, it's too early for reconciliation. Ask him to not contact you again, and when you're ready you can contact him if you so choose. Don't just cut him off randomly, this will only lead to confusion and more misery. If you really want to do NC, ask him to leave you be. If he then contacts you after that, you should ignore him until you have healed. A goal without a plan is just a wish.
  9. Oh the avatar isn't me lol, but in real life I am extremely attractive and very muscular. Thanks for the comment
  10. Day 30/Finish My healing is complete, I see everything for exactly how it is, and I'm safely removed from everything. Today I broke NC by responding to an IM from my ex, we bantered about some casual stuff and it was good catch-up. I don't expect anything from her and I could tell she was shocked that I didn't worship the ground she walked on. I'm indifferent It started out as a wish, and then a goal, and now it's a reality.
  11. It feels really good actually. In the end you realize that it's not so much about the "Goal" of 30 days but how much you have progressed during that time. I'm done with everything and have moved on, it's a really good feeling to have. Though the best thing about it in my opinion would be the fact that I now have all of the power. I couldn't care less about my ex and I'm living my life as it is, it's truly a wonderful feeling. And what's the funniest part about all of this is how she keeps posting on her status about how "Things just keep getting better" and how "completely amazing her life is" now. Lol, I'm just waiting for her to start snooping around again, there's a saying that applies "Only from a distance can the mountain be seen."
  12. Day 29 Only today and tomorrow left... I had a setback yesterday due to a friends request, and I've spent today deciding on what to do. I unblocked her from facebook and accepted her myspace friends request (funny how she posted a "I can't live without you" song the day she sent it to me. I'll still wait until after my challenge is complete to contact her, but at this point I'm healed and I'm okay with her being there. I'm okay because I feel indifferent, I don't care and I don't have any expectations, so I believe that that's a sign that I've moved on. It's weird befriending her because I cut her off emotionally a while ago, I gues NC has run it's course though. I guess it feels good to finally have all of the power.
  13. LC = Light Contact, and NC is for healing purposes. It's a hard road, but you need to not talk to her ever again (unless it's about business). If you want to reconcile, then wait until you're healed and the problems (reasons you broke up) are fixed on both sides. It's a win-win sitaution because you heal and you move on either way (with or without her).
  14. Day 28 Only two days from a month--and never lookig back, but today something unusual happened. My ex who "never wanted to contact me again" sent me a friend request. I've changed and I know that I am different now and that things are different, but I can't help asking myself what to do. Should I start talking to her again and see what might happen (without getting my hopes up), or just blindly ignore her? What a very unnerving dilemma, I'll be spending the day with friends so hopefully that'll help. What's funny is that I don't want to get back with the person that she was, but if she changed (like I did), then I might give it a shot, and if I ignore her then I will be wondering "What If?"...
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