Nate

I'd say you're doing too many sets. Anything above 8 - 10 sets and you're not gonna build mass as well as going 4 to 6 HEAVY sets. I would advise you to read about the Max-OT training program. link removed

Cut down on the tuna. Eat more chicken breasts, eggs, and veggies for protien. I'd suggest you buy some whey protien, Nlarge II is good. Check out link removed - the fitness section for some overall info on good diet and training.

My girlfriend was doing the same thing about one month before she broke up with me. Telling me how nice one of her guy friends was, comparing me to him etc. Yelling at me for small stupid sh*t. Im going to give you some advice I wish someone would have given me. Break up with her, before she breaks up with you. Doing this might just be what she needs to be shocked back into the relationship, and even if it doesn't work it puts YOU back in control. She doesn't respect you. Telling you that you have no life? Don't take that crap. Im guessing that when you first got with her she always wanted to be with you and got mad if you didn't pay her any attention, well now that shes bored with you she can't figure out why you have no friends when you had been used to being with her 24/7 - Thats how my girlfriend was, calling me 2 - 3 times a day, getting mad if I was hanging out with friends. And then after they get you for themselves for a while they can't figure out why you don't have a life away from them... gee lets think.... Break up with her before she breaks up with you. She sees you as weak and fragile. You are the man. Take back control. And NEVER let the woman gain control of the relationship, eventually they get bored with someone they see as weak. Regain your self confidence - lift weights or whatever, become happy with youself and everything else will fall into place.

There is no such thing as genes that will keep someone from bulking up - everyone can gain weight as long as they use the right diet and are determined. You need to be getting 3500+ cals a day - for some people 4500+ You've got to eat more then your body burns. This usually means eating 6+ meals a day. I wouldn't listen to the people telling you to eat ANYTHING you still want to eat healthy, no fast food. The 6+ meals are usually smaller in size, you normally eat every 2 - 3 hours, a couple of the meals normally include a whey protien shake. You want to make sure you're eating a variety of healthy foods - pasta - apples+peanut butter - PB'js - fruits/veggies etc. Ideally you want to gain 2 lbs a week. Check out this thread for some good inspiration on going from skinny to buff: link removed With the right diet and motivation you CAN get bigger. Follow these 3 simple rules: Lift BIG - Eat BIG - Sleep BIG

Speaking for myself the one time my girlfriend (x-gf now) ejaculated it REALLY turned me on. I had always wanted it to happen and it did after a really long sex session. She was really embarrassed though, she didnt understand that it was a turn on for me I guess, or she thought I was lying when I said that its no big deal. She never let it happen again Either way Im sure most guys will get turned on by it.

Think of it this way - you are still young be thankful she ended it now instead of 10 years from now when you are married with kids. You were way too dependant on one another - I made the same mistake with my girlfriend of 1.5 years that broke up with me a few weeks ago. Make a list of all the good things that will come from the breakup - everyone has pet peeves about their boyfriend/girlfriend. Try and look at all the good things that come from breaking up. For me I'm happy that I can now voice my opinion to others if I am not happy about something (like at a resturant or somewhere) my girlfriend hated any type of confrontation and would never let me complain about anything, I really hated that because I wasn't able to stand up for myself because she was afraid of confrontations with other people. About a month before we broke up I was driving her home and some kids threw an egg at my car hitting my drivers side window - at first I didn't know what it was but let me tell you I was so close to turning around to follow them and I would have had she not been in the car but by then she had me "trained" so well that I didn't do anything. Eventually she became ok with trying to get their liscense plate number but it was too late to find them. Use this breakup as your fuel to make YOU stronger. Read that again. Start eating right, lift weights, exercise - do any thing you can to improve yourself. You'd be surpised how much running helps - I run 3 miles every other night and I use the breakup as my fuel.. it also helps, for me at least, to picture a drill sergeant yelling at me as Im pushing myself to run since Im going into the military - something I never would had done were we still together, why?, DEPENDANCY. My girlfriend started out really needy and insecure but at the end of the relationship she had changed into a strong confident young woman while I had lost a lot of confidence and became very dependant on her I actually remember at one point - probably a year or so into our relationship - saying "I need you" when we were talking about something. It seemed to bother her a bit and it threw me off guard too as I didn't even realize I had said it until it was too late. The point I am trying to make is relationships where one person or both are needy don't seem to work as one person usually grows with time while the other does not. Girls want someone that has confidence and they absolutely do NOT want someone that is needy. A few weeks from now you will be feeling much better. I'm not saying you might not get back together - just prepare youself for the worst. Work on YOU - dont call her, dont try to contact her. If you call her, write her or whatever you will come off as even MORE needy and you will push her away forever. Take this time to take control of your life. Good luck

From the sounds of things I would say you guys need to breakup. Your snooping and spying is so unhealthy for you - you SHOULD NOT be driving around to see where she is or checking HER bank account. If I were you I would end this relationship before she does, at least you'll get out with some dignity. Cut your losses now otherwise your snooping and spying could raise to physical violence - you already said you were smashing things like the incredible hulk. Break up now and take a serious look at yourself as a person and what you want from life. Your girl was hugging on some guy(s) and doing god knows what. I only wish I had followed my own advice when my girlfriend told me some guy at work was grabbing her ass and she kinda had a crush on him - but I just tried to ignore it and hoped it would go away - it didn't and we just grew more distant.. until we finally broke up - don't make the same mistake I did. End it now.

It sounds to me like your husband is suffering from computer addiction syndrome - link removed

You could always say, hey did you hear? ..so and so (name of person she cheated on you with) has HIV - see how white you can get her face to turn Sorry but Im in my 'be mean to girls phase' as mine just broke up with me. And there nothing wrong with messing with girls that cheat. Have the respect to break up if you think you might cheat, cause cheating is a lot more painful then just a breakup.

Im wondering if any of you knew your break-up was coming. I know I did - I could just sense it somehow, like a day before it happened... in both of my breakups with my girlfriend. I just had this uneasy feeling most of the day and then the phone rang and I knew just from the tone of her voice. And the loving joking voice I'd come to know was a sad and upset voice... and now Im on day 2 of the breakup and I want nothing more then to walk into her class tomorrow wearing a tuxedo, hand her some roses and ask her to marry me - but I know I can't do that I just have to give her time and hope she realizes that she still wants to be with me. I wish I had a time machine so I could see where I will be 10 years from now, this sucks.

Well the reason she broke up with me the first time, according to her was because she had been talking to her cousin who I guess is pretty slutty. Her cousin was telling her how much fun it was to be dating all the time and that kind of made her crave it I guess. But the next day she called me crying telling me she made the biggest mistake of her life and that she wanted to be with me and never lose me again. And how she was up all night thinking about everything we had done/planned for and how she didnt want to lose all that. That was it for the first time. Now the second time (which is the current) is the Not enough time thing. I called up a girl that works with her, apparently after breaking up with me she called this girl up crying. I don't know exactly what my gf said to her but I guess she told this girl that she "thinks Im mad at her now" I just told her to let her know that Im not mad just hurt. My gf also told this girl that I always want to be with her and that I get mad when she has to work late - which from my point of view is totally not true, but maybe shes seeing something different. Honestly though - SHES usually the one calling me - SHES the one coming over to my house on Mon/Wed before tennis practice and then I'd go over for a couple hours after class on Tues and Thurs and we'd go out Fri OR Sat. So I don't see how I could be smoothering her. As far as Im concerned we spent a normal amount of time together and I dont think Im wrong. Im thinking shes just very confused and maybe has the grass is always greener thing going on. I can accept the fact that she might want to expirience new things and meet/date new people, but what I don't want to accept is that we may not get married and spend the rest of our lives together like we had planned - thats what hurts so much. She was my first true love and its so damn painful As far as the military goes I wont be joining until I finish up this semester that will have given me plenty of time to make sure Im doing it for the right reasons. I want to thank you all for your responses, I usually read them over twice as they make me feel so much better, thanks guys. Nate

I am so numb right now. My girlfriend of 1 year 7 months just called and broke up with me giving me the "I dont have time for a relationship / I need space routine" Im 24 and she is 19 we met working at a resturant together, she was very needy and clinging when we first met, due to being raped in a previous relationship. She was almost annoying with some of her jokes and slightly nerdy. But I loved the fact that someone NEEDED me so much. She ended up telling me she loved me after 3 weeks of going out, I told her I needed more time to be able to say it and actually mean it. About a month later I was able to say it and mean it. - Now shoot to the present and she is no longer needy and clingy but a strong young woman and Im the one whos all "clingy" and emotional. I cant help but feel used slightly. However being in this relationship has taught me several things and I wouldn't even be in school right now if it wasn't for her, so Im thankful for that. What upsets me so much is she never attempted to talk to me about any of this - I saw her a couple days ago. After I got out of class I would usually go over to her house at night where she'd 'make' me watch girlie movies on lifetime, the whole time we'd be playing around, wrestling etc, and now she calls me up and says this? Prior to this breakup she had broken up with me about 4 months prior - but promptly called me back the next day telling me she made the biggest mistake of her life. I took her back because honestly she is my only friend, and my best friend which makes it so much harder and because I still love her. Im not counting on her calling me back this time as she told me that shes "not afraid to be alone" which I guess was why she called me after the previous breakup - basically she was just using me I guess. One good thing about this though, is that since that first time she broke up with me I kind of learned what breaking up with someone you truly love felt like, so maybe when the numbness wears off and I come to grasp with the fact that I am no longer with this girl I wont hurt as much, god I hope so. Anyways I told myself after the first breakup that if it ever happened again I would do something for ME - and Im going to stick to it, Im going to join the military even though Im already 24, you only live once, right? So thats it I need something to fill this emptyness and make the pain go away, I guess I'll make myself a better person in the long run. I am going to send her one letter stating that I still care about her and respect her need for space and that will be it. Im not counting on getting out of the military 4 years from now and having her there waiting for me, but that wouldnt be bad at all Nate