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  1. I would like to thank all of you for replying..this post alone has helped me calm down some and be less apprehensive. My father's alcoholism has led to an immense fear of alcohol within myself, and I'm in the process of ridding myself of this. My girlfriend has promised me that she won't get drunk, and she will tell me when she does drink, so that way I won't worry about her. Sometimes it just gets hard when I know that she may be doing the same thing that has caused me so much pain, even though she is not drinking to the extent that he ever did. At times I even want to break up with her because it stresses me out a great deal that she drinks at all, but I do love her and really its all I can do is to trust her and hope that this is a passing phase. Thank you all for helping me get through this.
  2. This is something I've just never understood... My girlfriend drinks socially at college (which I hate), and I've just never been able to comprehend the point of consuming alcohol when there are no positive effects of it. I understand that it can cause people to relax, but if someone is at college and with friends that they already know, what do they need to alcohol to relax for. My father was an alcoholic, so I've always promised myself that I would never drink, but I would like to know what the motivation is for drinking, when the intent is not to get drunk.
  3. Basically the way we resolved this is that she said that she wouldn't drink anymore because she knew that it hurt me. At first she wanted me to compromise on how I felt, and although I definitely do believe that compromise is one of the most important aspects in a relationship, I told her that I was not willing to be hurt because she wanted to drink, and even though she said I was being somewhat controlling (and I totally agree with her about that, I am being controlling), she understood where I was coming from and she didn't want me to be hurt because of her. We came really really really close to breaking up this past week, but we didnt and if anything now I think we have a better understanding of each other and though everything isn't terribly great now, I think that we will have a stronger relationship because we have overcome this adversity. Thank you to everyone who posted. -Justin
  4. This September my gf went off to college (two hours away)..and confided in me the other day that she had tried cigarettes and pot...something I didn't think she would ever do. She said she wouldn't do it again, and I believe her, yet something within me isn't sitting right. I mean understand how now she has newfound freedoms and doesn't have the same restrictions as before and now she can live a little reckless without fear of getting caught, but when we had first started going out back in January we were both very clear that neither of us would do anything like that. I'm definitely going to stay with her because I really think that she just needed to try it and fulfill her curiosity, I guess more than anything I'm just posting this to try and get over it myself. Cuz I feel like I knew her better than that so the fact that she did that is upsetting to me. Any ideas on what I can do to get over it? Thanks, Justin
  5. i agree that she has a right to do what she wants, and my fear really isnt that she'll become an alcoholic, its more or less just the fact that i dont want her to hurt herself or our relationship. and its not like she feels compelled to drink all the time, it was just the one time and she told me that now even if i didnt have a problem with drinking she wouldnt do it anyway.. me: i jus dont want to see you hurt yourself me: or hurt me either for that matter her: i don't wanna do either...you're lucky you already have this fear of alcohol without even trying it...i'm not capable of drinkin anymore b/c i'm scared that it would happen again her: even if i'm careful it's not possible so really i'm not that worried about it anymore..the fact that she broke a promise bothers me much more than her drinking actually..but i don't think we're gonna have a problem bringing that trust back.
  6. yea she's def. not an alcoholic...and i dont expect her to never drink again in her life.. i'm just saying this is also a long distance relationship (she's in college two hours away) and i would be extremely hard for me to cope if i knew she was out there drinking..especially when i know how that can ruin a persons life. and she'll be 18 in december..so i know the alcohol comes with the territory of college and all that..right now i just kinda see it as she made a mistake and hopefully shes learned from it, cuz like kaotic said, if it was just a few drinks and maybe a little buzz i wouldnt be worried..but she got drunk.. and two of the people in the dorm went to the hospital for alcohol poisoning that night..and i just never wanna see her get to that point.
  7. OK so she promised me that she wouldn't drink..which she knew was basically a prerequisite to us dating cuz I can't have that ish in my life (pops was an alcoholic)..and she ended up getting piss drunk a couple weeks ago...i'm too worn out at the moment to type it all out so i'm just going to copy and paste the story i type to my friend in AIM..i dont even know if i want advice or if i just want you to wish me luck or words of wisdom or whatever..idk i just needed to get this out.. Me: like 5 months ago jackie promised me Me: that she wouldnt drink Me: cuz i had told her my whole whole lifes story about how my dads an alcoholic and that if she were to drink it would really hurt me and blah blah blah Me: and she promised me that she would never drink because she knew it would really hurt me Me: and i was talking to her on the phone last night and she told me that like 2 weeks ago she got * * * *-faced drunk Me: so now im just like * * * Me: cuz she broke her promise to me Me: so we were on the phone for like 4 hours last night Me: and she was crying alot and she said that she only did it because of peer pressure and she really didnt mean to hurt me Me: and she promised that she would never ever do it again Me: and i believe that because she was really crying and i could tell in her voice that she was being real Me: but its like we've had 8 months worth of trust built up Me: and now its back to square one Me: i understand that she's a human and all humans make mistakes Me: she i told her that i forgave her and shes only getting one other chance Me: and if she does anything remotely similar to this again then we're over Me: and she promised me that she would never drink again Me: but now its like i really want to believe her but she already broke one promise so now its hard for me to believe this one Me: its not like she drinks all the time or anything, cuz this was the first time she's drank in like the past 5 months Me: but its just like damn
  8. I've been dating my gf for 6 months now, and it seems that I have no problem getting an erection, but I haven't orgasmed with her yet. I have no problem getting myself off, but she's tried blowjobs and handjobs but nothing seems to work. We're not having sex yet, and I don't really want to until I know I can at least get off with foreplay. I don't know if she thinks it's normal, or if she knows that I'm having trouble..I'm only worried cuz I can reach orgasm from masturbating in under 3 minutes if I try, yet she could suck me off for 10 minutes and nothing.. Any help?
  9. i already use 10% BP in the mornings, and differin gel (i forget the rx) in the evenings...the sunburn idea sounded good but then it got shot down lol..any other ideas? i used to be on accutane, which got rid of all my acne for a period of time, but obviously it's come back.
  10. my gfs prom is on friday..and i have more acne than i'd like to have. i just want it gone asap, any body got any ideas?
  11. ...and im excited lol. me and my gf have been going out for 5 months now (we have a great relationship), and we both talked about it earlier this week and decided that we want to lose our virginity to each other next week, after her prom. (yea i kno its cliche but its a good oppurtunity lol). we already know to use protection..im really not even worried about looking a fool, cuz with two virgins of course theres gonna be some..mistakes lmao. i obviously want to make her senior prom the best night of her entire life, so i want the sex to be at least somewhat good..what i was planning to do is start off slow and pretty much hit all the bases before actually doing it (including cunnilingus), basically i just want her to be turned on as much as possible, even if that means putting her sexual needs before my own. basically what i want to know is if that sounds like a good approach to it, and if theres any other tips anyone has. (Besides 'be safe' lol, i kno to be safe and we've definitely got that covered...no pun intended lmao). thanks guys
  12. ok my girlfriends gonna be here in an hour. i have some nasty pimples on my forehead...and i think theyre cystic. any help??? thanks in advance
  13. Baby, I love the way our inner minds intertwine Like the ivy vines that drip lust-laden wine down the sides of Love's temple Where our thoughts become engaged With a princess-cut canary diamond metaphor Binding our minds together. Your tongue is a ball-point pen and I am a blank page And I want you to write all over me. Scribble above me, below me, love me, draw in the margins - Do you take this diary to be your spiritually wedded emotional supporter Throughout this neverending circle we call eternity? I do. Yes, I do love, always have loved, and I always will love the way I can hear the unspoken thoughts that haven't left your lips yet. I know what you're thinking because you think of me when I think of you and thinking of you is all I do. I know it's love because as soon as we hang up the phone a part of me dies inside and I hope you'll call me back on the off-chance that you forgot something to say because I know that's another three-hour long conversation. When we're apart, I can't stop this twitchin' You are my rock - I am addicted. When I look into your eyes I don't even see your eyes; I see my eye's reflection Because we're both doing the same thing - Connecting. Whenever we step in a separate direction we always end up at the same place - each other. The temperature of our love rises in radial degrees until it reaches heat's circumference Culminating in an explosion of mental ecstasy. I do. I do wear those rose-colored, diamond-studded glasses meaning That I view you without flaws. The laws of physics cannot deny our physical dictions Eight-lettered mandates comprising of more emotion Than grains of salt that reside in the ocean Only to surround your body and soul, lifting you Up. The three syllables that fall from the sky Brighter than meteorites that fly by Venus A meaningful message sent by Aphrodite directly into your spine. Allowing Kundalini's warmth to open your mind Relaxing the spirit, delivering an ethereal massage. Baby, allow me to astral project into your third eye Only to blind you with the raw, unadulterated, shining emotion I have that Glistens, listen Not with your ears, but listen with the belief that you can fall backwards On a mattress made of the fibers of my heart And roll over on a pillow woven with the notes of singing doves And have your insecurites evaporate as you pull a blanket of unrequited love Up and over your body. A body that is nothing but a mere vessel through which an angel Lives and dies to synchronize the rhythmic beating of our hearts Beating of our hearts Beating of our hearts. The only metronome that matters. The only sound I've ever heard The only thing I've ever understood The only metronome that matters. The beating of our hearts. any feedback?
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