Maybe the problem does lie more with me than him, I've been kind of messed up emotionally and mentally because of the guy I was with before him. He's much nicer than my ex and while he does have a bit of an anger problem, it's not anywhere near as bad as someone who's calling you names and yelling at you all the time.
I used to watch porn myself once in awhile, so I can't say people who do that are wrong of course hehe. I just get disgusted when I think of him doing it now, because of my bad experience with that I guess. I was used to someone who would get up earlier than me in the morning just to sneak in the computer room to watch it or do it when I'm in the shower, etc. I had to rattle my keys before coming in the apartment just so he'd have enough warning that I didn't have to walk in on it. And no, I don't think all guys are like that, I know most are very normal and don't have that much of an obsession with it.
You guys wouldn't believe the stupid things my ex would do. He bought a webcam which he never used when I was around. I thought it was weird, but not as weird as when I'd come home from class and that thing (which was sitting on a shelf next to his monitor) would always be pointing to the seat of his chair. And then there are the times I'd walk in and either actually see him frantically closing video windows, or the computer would be in the process of rebooting, dog barking because of him rushing around, and he'd have just ran into the bathroom and shut the door. I mean, wow, how stupid can one guy be? It wasn't like I was keeping a secret about when I'd be home from class.
With the new guy, I just can't seem to get this out of my head. I can't see myself leaving him over it, it's just something that bothers me. I would probably have this problem with most guys. I keep trying to tell myself to just get over it, but I haven't made any progress. I don't consider watching porn videos cheating either, only if you're masturbating to a live person, then that is going a little far.
I thank you all for your responses, it does help to talk about it with others.