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  1. What i don't understand is that i post a topic needing some advice, hoping to find some insight into my situation. when i come back to check on my topic , i see that 70 some people have read it and only two have bothered to reply. i don't understand, i thought we were here to help one another and give advice? why do so many of you guys read my post and don't offer anything to help? why even bother reading it? and it's not just me, i see where it says views 60 and reply 0. why even bother to read it if you won't reply? isn't this site all about offering advice? i don't get it. #-o
  2. you don't ask, it's rude and will offend your girl. if she feels comfortable doing that she will without you saying anything. try hinting around or fooling around, if she wants to she will . no girl likes pressure on that subject believe me .
  3. I am a female, and I have this huge crush on this lovely girl. She knows how I feel about her and she has never really responded to them other than playful flirting. That disappoints me because I was hoping to have something happen between us. Well we were at a party last night, and she kissed another girl! she has never kissed me and she knows that i would like that. She said I want to kiss ..'that other girl' and she said i want to just because i know you'd slap me, and the other girl said actually no i wouldn't . so they puckered up. it wasn't really intimate kiss, it was closed lips, and they were laughing, they did it in front of everyone there, and the guys even took a picture. i'm just standing there dumbfounded i couldn't believe what i was seeing. my feelings were hurt and i just left and went outside. she knows how i feel why wouldn' t she kiss me if she wanted to kiss a girl? why her? i'm confused and hurt. i don't know what to do or say. i am thinking is she just showing me that she is willing to do that or is she just not interested in me? i'm feeling so sad , any advice would make me feel better. and as much advice as i could get i'd appreciate. i mean that's what this whole site is for is advice right? thank you.
  4. geez, i feel for you. i really do, i've dated guys my parents hated before as well, of course my situation was different because my parents were divorced and i just left to go live with my mom. it sounds like that isn't an option for you. i guess you know that running away isn't really a safe option and believe me i know it sucks to fight with your family. but have you tried not arguing, but sitting down and having a talk about this with your parents? i mean from what you're telling me i can't understand why they would have any good reason to not like the guy. try sitting down and having an adult conversation with them. tell them the way you feel about this guy, how he feels about you, emphasize his good characteristics , say if he's real responsible or he takes good care of you, et cetera. also remind them you are out of high school, you are an adult, with adult feelings, you are twenty years old. maybe it's sex they're afraid of. if you aren't into sex before marriage, bring that up to help with your parents. it sounds like they either don't trust him, or you. tell them if that is how you feel, that you aren't going to have sex until you guys tie the knot, you know it's chancey, and it would hurt their feelings. tell them how much it is hurting you for them to be treating your bf this way. ask them to try to understand, if they had any troubles when they first got together long before you.if they don't trust him, ask why. or if they don't trust you, see if there is anything you can do to instill their trust in you once again. or if you are financially able, and all else fails, get a place of your own. there is really nothing anyone can do if you are twenty and paying your own rent. i think if you are paying the bills, you are the boss you know? just try being open and honest and tell your bf that you will try and talk to them, ask him just to try and be patient, although it sounds like he really has been for a long time. if your love for each other is strong, i think it can survive the test. good luck hon.
  5. 1 yes i believe that there are people who when they are in love all they think about is that other person, they kind of swell up and cover your whole world. 2 my current bf used to be my friend, and i had a guy dump me for my best friend and his reason was because he just couldn't live with himself if he didn't know. the missed opportunity thing. well as my bf put it to me so long ago, people like that, no offense, people like that are always looking at the road ahead of them instead of what's right under their feet, people like that will never find happiness, because they're always looking. the question is, why are you not satisfied? are you not happy? where is your relationship laking? maybe your bf isn't really into talking about chick flicks, but this other guy watches them! if there is an issue, talk to your bf about it, he at least deserves a chance to try and fix what it is that you feel is lacking. give him that, especailly if you love him. 3 I don't think it means you don't love your bf, i think it means somewhere you aren't happy or satisfied. 4 hon, i don't know why you do this. but i would say try and evaluate your surroundings, look at what you have, imagine how things would be if they were different, such as, what would you miss if your current bf wasnt' around. if it's really love, you'll work through it. don't worry, people are never satisfied. when it's winter they want summer and when it's summer they want snow. just really take some time to think about you and your bf, don't rush into anything. good luck!
  6. lately i have found myself attracted to this beautiful girl. attracted, not getting feelings for. i do not want commitment on her part, or even a relationship beyond the one we have now, a friendship. i only want to have a romantic evening with her. she is not easily offended, but i am afraid this would do it. i don't want to lose her as a friend. i don't know how to ask her if she'd spend the night with me. i'm not asking her to leave her bf, he's all for it in fact. but how do i ask her? i only want to fulfill this fantasy of mine, with another girl. and i really like her as a friend and she's so sweet, so i thought she'd be great. i don't see anything wrong with two close friends sharing an intimate night. but what do i say? should i flirt and see what happens? offer her a massage? if she wasn't interested wouldn't she say no, i don't want a girl massaging me? i just wish i could find out how she feels.
  7. ok..first of all, just ask her. do you have any other classes with her? walk her to class, or after class to her locker. i'm sure you see her more than just in german class. there you go, say can i walk with you to class? or just walk with her anyways without asking. you're both going there right? chat with her and then ask her straight out, say it nicely, say can i ask you a personal question...are you seeing anyone? if she says yes, leave it at that, you've made a friend. if she says no, pursue it, gently. find out when she has lunch, sit by her, write her a short note and pass it to her, girls aren't aliens. but show confidence, you don't have to be a whiz, just be yourself. girls need a man with some confidence though. especially at your age, girls don't want a man with baggage or issues, no offense , she's just young.
  8. I'm not going to leave my boyfriend. i love him dearly. i just wanted to explore my intimate options, and she is a great gal in my opinion to try that with. her bf makes comments when we had to cancel plans 'i guess you won't be getting her alone again for a while huh?' but its true it could just be girl play, but the last girl i knew who played like that was bi. i guess that is where i'm getting my ideas from too, past experiences. i guess the only way to know is to ask, but how do you bring up such a touchy subject? is the direct approach best or maybe a game of truth or dare? i just need advice on how to break the ice. how do i ask her guys?
  9. I am girl and I have a friend who is just adorable. i find myself very interested in her. I have a boyfriend and he knows how i feel. i love him very much, i would just like to have an intimate night with her. and he is ok with that. he and i joke around together about it. I love to hang out with her and when i ask her out with me to see a movie, whatever she is glad to go. The problem is i don't know if she has lesbian tendencies. I play flirt with her, like saying, guess i'm not getting to first base tonight huh? and she giggles and says nope not tonight girl! maybe she just thinks i'm joking but i dunno. My bf and hers are friends and he told me they have talked about either having a intimate night with her, her bf and another girl, or her and another girl. she said she wants to try that-according to the guys-and i trust these guys. but i don't know if she's shy or if she was fibbing or what. but i'm scared to say something and offend her and lose her friendship. i tell her i'm going to buy her flowers, and she says that is sweet, we go out to dinner and she calls it 'a date'. i'm getting mixed signals. i just want to know if it's possible for her and i to have an intimate relationship or not. what do i do? do i just ask her have you ever thought about it? wink wink nudge nudge. she touches my face and does little things that make me think she is into it, just nervous or shy. maybe i should just kiss her and see what her reaction is
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