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  1. parlae
    i dont know about everyone else, but with my ex contacting me..it definitely didnt happen overnight. at first, i couldnt bring myself to keep NC for more than a week. and when i'd contact him, he'd just ignore me. call me crazy, but i kept trying every few days lol i just couldnt leave it the way we left things. so i had sent him one last message saying how i thought it was really childish that we couldnt even be friends after being together for almost 3 years;he finally text me back and said that he had no problems being friends with me. he just knew that i wanted more than to just be his friend. so i told him all i wanted was to keep his friendship and to still have him in my life if at all possible. so we decided to be friends. and i guess that gave me some confidence, or even a bit of closure i guess you could call it,and after that...NC was easy.and ever since then, i havent initiated any contact.he texts/calls almost every day now. we're still "just friends" but we both know it's more than that. just taking things slow. but it's back to the way it was when we first started "dating/talking". he's leaving in march to go to afghanistan for 5-6 months, so we're gonna still just keep in touch and see how things go for that time period, and once he gets back from his deployment..if we still both want it, we can be together again. and that's totally fine with me. just keep your head up,brazilgirl. what's meant to be, will be. you gotta remember that and trust in it. best of luck and to everyone else as well.
  2. parlae
    from that 'conversation', how could you get that? (that he's mad and never wants to talk to you again) all he said was ok. and why do you think NC is childish? it really helps. the first few days are just very hard. you can do it though! be strong.
  3. parlae
    i agree! if my ex ever told me they were going NC for a month (or for whatever time period) i'd just be like "ok. talk to you in a month". lol it totally defeats the purpose of going NC, in my opinion. because then they wont ever have to stop and think, "hmm..why is he/she not trying to communicate with me anymore?"... they'll already know your plan. a better alternative may be to tell THEM not to contact you anymore.
  4. parlae
    it gives both of you time to re-evaluate the relationship and also time/space away from each other, to make him miss you....which thereforee will put into perspective whether the break up was a mistake or if it was for the best. (that probably wasnt put into the best words, but it's the best i could do lol )
  5. parlae
    what you need to remember is, NOBODY is perfect. i'm sure he was a great guy. but no matter how good he was, he is NOT perfect. and neither are you. if we were all perfect, this forum probably wouldnt even exist lol.
  6. parlae
    exactly! if you're the dumpee, it's really not your place to ask for them back. ya know? they made the decision to not be with you anymore, they'd have to make the decision to come back.
  7. parlae
    day 2 for me. my challenge is kinda different now. since me & my ex have became "friends" and started talking again (every now & then) my challenge is that, on the days when he doesn't initiate contact, i'll be NC. thereforee, everything is all up to him. it's all in his hands. if he wants to contact me, he knows my email, my house phone number, my cell number, etc... and the fact that we've been making slight communication, does make it harder on me to NOT initiate contact on the days when i don't hear from him. but i've been doing good so far. and i'm feeling very optimistic about the possibility that we could be together again in the future to stay positive. i hope it only goes up from here.
  8. parlae
    that's great. i'm happy for you.
  9. parlae
    congratulations redreine i could tell your situation was going in the right direction keep us posted!
  10. parlae
    he's been "dating" but not exclusively, and i dont know how that's going... i don't really wanna know lol
  11. parlae
    well, guess what everyone?!... i was wrong. he did contact me today and say happy valentine's day it really surprised me. i kept double checking to make sure it was real lol. he also asked if i had a date.. lol today has just gotten better.
  12. parlae
    VALENTINE'S DAY.... my favorite holiday, until this year... i really thought i'd take it better than this. but when i woke up, i realized it's harder on me than i had thought. i had to get up early to go see my nephew play basketball and my niece cheerleading.. i always play music while i get dressed, so just like any other day...i turned on the radio and i had totally forgot, it's valentine's day so they're gonna be playing love songs all day.. it sucked. as soon as i turned on the radio, i started crying. i've been strong for the past week or so. but today just hit me really hard. i can't help but think of him and who/what he'll be doing tonight.. but on the other hand, i'm proud of everyone else on here who has said valentine's day hasnt bothered them too much. i'm happy for you guys.
  13. parlae
    lmao that was so random and i definitely did not expect to read that just now. but thanks for lightening the mood. lol. sounds great to me. the way you handled it, and everything you said to him in the message, was perfect. i'm proud of you and like someone else already said, i'm sure you'll have a good chance of being with him again. best of luck with everything. i hope it works out.
  14. parlae
    exactly! i'm still in the early stages of the break up (it's only been about two months) but i still understand that statement. what do you gain from pretending that you're not hurt? nothing. whether you want a reconciliation or not, healing is key.
  15. parlae
    brazilgirl-- how do you think the meeting will go? like, how are you expecting this to change anything?
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