sprkal
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Thanks for all your very thoughtful advice Well tonight's the night - I am just going to play things by ear and see how it all goes 'test the waters' so to speak. I think its a bit wrong to let him think he's going to get sex if I know he isnt so I will make sure he knows where I stand. I'm pretty sure he'll be cool with it. Well, wish me luck and thanks for all your advice - I'll let you know how I go! As quite a few people have said I think its important to take things slow, as the mystery of a new relationship gets a bit lost after sex... its all so much fun being with a new person isnt it! Have a great weekend everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! luv sprkal
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WOW thanks for your plentiful and speedy replies! That has made me feel so much more confident about it. I think I will spend the night, but only if he asks and I will let him know my boundaries beforehand! CHEERS!
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Is it wrong for me to stay over a guy I'm dating's house, sleep in his bed with him, but not have sex with him? I don't want to rush things with him too much, as I'm not quite comfortable enough yet for sex, but I would love to spend the night with him. I'm just thinking if he asks me to crash on the weekend I might say yes... but I don't want it to go as far as sex. Any opinions?
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I don't think you are going to go to jail. You didn't have sex with her, so you havent violated any laws that I am aware of. She was consentual and you are both very young. I wouldnt worry too much.
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Thanks guys - I'm guessing if there's no sharp bits there'll be no sore bits!
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I was just wondering what its like to have sex with a guy who has his penis peirced? Does it hurt at all? Does it increase pleasure? Would it break a condom? lovely, thanks
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So I kissed a friend of a friend at a club a couple of weeks ago and he asked me to dinner. I said yes, but was a bit unsure as his appearance is not of the clean cut variety of guys I normally go for. I had a great time on our date and afterwards he kissed me on the lips just once, which I thought was very sweet. I spent some time with him again last night at a club with mutual friends and we had a great time dancing and kissing every now and then. The kissing thing confuses me however, as he doesnt seem keen on long kisses - its always just one kiss on the lips, no tongues, barely any wettness at all... I'm not sure what to make of this! I go in for a bit of a longer kiss and he pulls back... I have no idea why! I don't think its that I'm a bad kisser or anything like that... could it be that he's trying not to rush the sexual side of things (he sees me as a 'good girl' as opposed to him being a 'bad boy') or what?? Any ideas?
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I replied about 12 hours later (he sent the text at about 12noon and I texted him back at about midnight) My reply was: 'Oh well your loss then! You shoulda seen me TEEHEE!! Maybe you'll see me tonight!'
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Sounds like you're on the right track. I'd say she's interested in you. Just play things slowly for a little while and see what happens!
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I think calling a woman high maintenance is a way for a guy who is intimidated by her (for whatever reason - maybe she's too beautiful, maybe too educated, maybe from a different background) to feel better about his intimidation. I don't try to intimidate men but the fact is I've never dated a real 'man' before - they've usually just been little boys pretending to be men! I think that is the problem!
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thanks ducky and DN! Yesterday he texted me out of the blue. He said 'hey I heard you were out (at a club) last night. I didnt see you there'. Now after a week of NOTHING what is that meant to mean! A friend suggested he's trying to play me, but he really doesnt seem like that kind of guy - he's more relationship focussed I think. I just wonder if I'm trying to see too much into it!
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Help please!!!!!!anyone before i go nuts
sprkal replied to pickdaisies's topic in Getting Back Together
I know you won't want to hear this right now, but don't contact him, don't take his calls and don't do stuff with him and your kids. Let him see his daughter of course, but don't go with him - you need to move on. He is using you. He doesn't love you anymore but he enjoys the attention he gets from you and your love. it's an ego boost for him whilst an ego deflator for you. The longer this goes on the harder it will be to let go. He will eventually find someone new - you are just the woman in the middle. Let go. good luck -
Thanks DN, yeah that could be it. DAMMIT! #-o The thing is they aren't close friends anymore - they move in different circles these days. I did speak to my ex a couple of days ago however and he mentioned that this guy had told him about us going out to talk about my degree and had asked him if he minded. My ex told me that he said he was cool with it...but maybe something else went down there. Usually I would be able to brush it off, but I can't get the fact that we had such an indepth, interesting conversation and that I felt completely at ease talking with him. He's also very good looking...
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Sadly I think too much too soon causes them to back off. I am KICKING myself! I flirted a little too much with a male friend of mine and now he seems to want nothing to do with me! Even though he asked me out in the first place - I'm a little confused! Anyway - I think flirting is great, but you need to have a limit - when your head says okay, time to leave now (keep him wanting more) or time to go and talk to another person now, it's a good idea to do so, regardless of the fantastic conversation you are having! (it just doesnt make sense!!) FCTex where are all the men like you?? the only guys I know lable my effort to remain feminine and groomed (I think its referred to as 'high maintenance'??) or I'm a prude for not going home with the first guy who buys me several drinks at a bar?! UGH!
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lets discuss this one...flirting is not as easy as it seems!
sprkal replied to shellie12345's topic in Dating Advice
Hey! A smile is always the best way to flirt in my experience. Look into the other persons eyes and smile like you really mean it! Joking around and lightly touching them on the arm is another winner! Don't be too forceful however, or you might frighten them off!! (I think I've done this recently - not good!) Ignoring them is also a method - but only try this once you've flirted with them enough to show them you're interested. Then back off and watch them climb over people to get to you!