nakedbutterfly

I would like to hear from those men who have got caught cheating. Did they stay and work it out with their wives or did they end up with a divorce? If you are one of these men - why did you cheat? Is it possible to be in love with two woman? Or do men just cheat for sex? I am having an affair with a married man, and I know its wrong.... I don't understand, if he feels he needs to cheat on his wife why doesn't he just leave her. My belief was that if he was sleeping with me that his marriage must be over and he would be leaving soon... but this is not the case... confused. naked butterfly

Genesis, You are a very angry judgemental person. That's ok I can deal with that. As for your Religious views - well I am not religious so they mean nothing to me. To make a long story short. I have just got off the phone with my "married man" and I put everything on the table. And yes he honestly told me that he will probably never leave his wife. So where does that leave me - It leaves me with the knkowledge that I will not win him over, and that if I continue to see him it will be nothing more than sex. And you know what, unlike the views of SarCareBear who thinks I am his whipped B*ch, I can tell you that I am as selfish as he because I enjoy the sex tremendously also. We both agree to that. Ha, maybe we deserve each other after all..... nakedbutterfly

Well I know that having an affair with a married man is wrong!!!!!!! My heart has gotten in the way of my rational thinking. We, or most of us, have all done crazy things for love. And perhaps I am living in a fairytale.... But people get divorced, things don't always work out. I am not the cause of this marriage falling apart - I just happened to be there for him when things fell apart. and you know he may never leave because of the money, and I am probably waisting my time.....but I ask myself, what if..... nakedbutterfly

Oh I know what we are doing is wrong... No they have no children. She can not have kids. There is something wrong with her medically, I believe this may also be affecting her sex drive. (She is very thin, pale, and according to a friend of mine she does a lot of cocaine.) Just because he cheats, he is not a bad person. He just wants to be happy. He wants to feel good about himself. And he want to feel desire. Yes I agree he should pick, me or her. And I should put my foot down, but I worry that I haven't given him enough time to make that decision. I know it will come though.... He is careless about hiding our relationship, he keeps my letters I write him, and almost all of his friends, my friends know. The sh*t will hit the fan and he will have to choose. And yes money is an issue - he will have to give up his life style and he may not be able to set himself up in his own place with out doing some saving. But let me clarify, he does also care about this woman he's not using her for money she just happens to have it (inheritance) - he has been with her half his life - he does feel guilty....but he is very unhappy. Nakedbutterfly

I am having an affair with a married man. It has been 5 months since we started sleeping together (we have been friends for about a year), and I have fallen in love with him and I want to win him over. First of all let me start off by saying that I know that what I am doing is wrong and so does he. It has made both of us sick and emotional and everything else... but we continue to see each other. We have called it off a few times, but everytime we see each other we end up in each others arms. I blame it on uncontrollable lust. My delema.... his wife knows that she may be losing him to me. So she wants to change for him and work things out so that she doesn't lose him. Back to the beginning. He was living in a sexless marriage. Married 20 years, no sex in about 2 years. No closesness, no touching, no kissing - you know all that good stuff. I come along and we are both totally hot for each other - we have the best sex ever....... His wife finds out about us and fights with him for days, tells him she is going to change and doesn't want him to leave her. He breaks up with me. And what do you know they have sex for the first time in ages. Wow! I should be a marriage councilor. I can't believe our affair may have brought them closer. How bad do you think I feel since I was really counting on that divorce. Anyways we talk, he tells me he feels as if he has cheated on me, what kind of craziness is this... Well four days later, we are back in bed together. Great sex, incredible sex. He can't resist me. And I want nothing more to win him over. It has been a month since then. He is total confused, he wants to do the right thing... (you know stay married to the one he committed himself to for better or for worse) but he ends up at my house almost every weekend. We are crazy for each other, when he is with me... But then he goes home and trys to work things out with his wife. It's all bullsh*t. He's lying to her. He's lying to me. He doesn't even know if he is coming or going. I don't want to lose him. I want to win him over. And I may very well be an idiot for trying to do so. But love makes us stupid, doesn't it. So how the hell am I suppose to win him over with out letting him have his cake and eat it too? Oh ya, you may want to hear the kicker. She owns half a million in property - they live on, and he's broke with out her. What I got going for me - well I am very attractive, 15 years younger than her and she is not so pretty ( I am being kind ). (and thank god they have no children) Oh there is more... there is more... but this kind of the quick version summary. So to all you non judgemental infidels - How do I win him over? NakedButterfly