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  1. Hi there, sorry to hear that but the world is not fair and unfortunately it's full of people who don't care once they've got what they want from you. Let the wounds heal and move one, I know it's hard, going through this phase myself but there is nothing you can do. Love is a wonderfull feeling but in the same time it can blind you and your judgement may be impaired about the person you love. You think he is a nice guy , but in fact he is a jerk. Don't worry , it happened to a lot of persons already , you will heal and find someone who desserve you. Good luck
  2. Hi bud, I know exactly what you mean and actually trying to recover myself from some insensitive and manipulative bit*** who just used me at her convenience and throw me away in a very distasteful way, so no worries you're not alone to suffer from all the people who don't care. Don't share your love to these kind of people, they don't desserve it, they're just like vampire, they just suck all the good things out of you . And unfortunately the world is full of insensitive persons but also very manipulative persons and about the last category, as soon as you see them coming at you, step away quickly. These are the worst you can imagine because they have absolutely no scruples and will do whatever is needed to have what they want from you. There is a few peeps around who are worth to be friends with , for the others, avoid them pure and simple and try to detect their games ASAP. the sooner the better for you.
  3. Hi all, I hope I dont get confused as english is not my first language but if you're having an affair with a guy and you call his boyfriend to tell him about it , yes there is big chance that he was pissed off, especially if the boyfriend did not know it -) Did you have any particular reason to do that ? His boyfriend knew he was bisexual ? What you have to understand is that even if he's bisexual, his regular partner is a man and the girls for him are only the little extra.
  4. Hi there, sorry for my english but it's not my first language. I just want to share this story, which begins like in the romantic movies and end up this week in the horror section . It will show you how certain girls are simply and purely evil I live in Paris and at the end of May 2003, I was walking in Paris and this american girl was sitting there on a bench. As I walked near her, she told me a nice Bonjour, so I replied hello , sit on the bench and we began to talk. We had a nice conversation , she told she was on hollidays here and that she was going the same evening to Italy for 4 days. I told her that I wanted to go somewhere for the next few days but was not sure about the place. So she invited me to go with her in Italy. I was very exited with this idea, she looks cool, good loooking girl, 30 years old, me being 36 and we had a great afternoon togeither. So in the evening, we took the train to Italy and we arrived there the next day. We went out togeither the second day in Italy and we had a really great time there, it was in a small village near the sea, it was sunny , hot the place was romantic. So everything was great for the 4 days I was there. My last day there was supposed to be a monday and the sunday afternoon , we was both very sad at the idea of leaving each other. So being the foolish romantic that I am, I took the decision to stay one more day with her there, even if I knew it could cost me my job. So I stayed there till Tuesday with her, great time and I came back to Paris. Before I left Italy, she told me that she had a realationship in the states but she was dating the guy for 3 weeks only and was not sure if she was going to continue with him. She told me that she will still see him when she will be back. I agreed about that as we just knew for 4 days and she was in the States and me in Paris. ( it should have alerted me but I was to blinded by the romance ) We was at the beginning of June, she went back to the States 2 days after me being back in Paris and we began to email every day. Our mails was very romantic, she said she missed me a lot, she loved me and that when she saw me the first time, she had the feeling to know me for a long time. She also said that she tought we had a really rare and special connection; for me , my feeling was very clear too, I was in love with her and was making plan in my head to see her as soon as possible. At the middle of June, she told me she dumped her boyfriend , because of the lack of commitment s they had togeither and that she was now available for me. She told me her boyfriend was lacking the qualities she liked in me , etc etc.... So everything was fine, our daily mail was full of love and tenderness, and at the same time, at the end of June, my boss fired me as I missed the 2 days of the week I was in Italy with her. I did not care that me because I was in love with my american girl and he was a real asshole anyway. You know , when you're in love, everything can happen, you dont bother that much. So at the beginning of July, I asked her if she would like I visit her in USA for 2 weeks as we was missing each other a lot. She was very happy with that and even if I did not have a lot of money, I managed to buy an expensive plane ticket to the States, 800 dollars, and flew there at the end of July. We had a great time togeither and I came back in Paris at the beginning of August, depressed to not be with her . So I began again to write to her but she was not writing to me that much. Last week, I was very depressed and wondering what was going on, especially after our 2 months of very sweet mails and the 2 weeks there. So I wrote her a mail 2 days ago, she replied that she was very busy at work and did not have to much time to write. So yesterday as I was not feeling very good and I was telling her that I was glad we was still in love , as it helped me to go further, she replied this to me : "I'm sorry to be so blunt about this, but I know that I don't love you. I never did, I was in love with life, travelling, the experience of the moment, mixed with excitement and lust. " And the best part was "I want and I plan to date other people here in.." How bad is that , broken hearts ??? Needless to say that I've been in better mood and moral . I give you a few advices, for those like myself ,who feel very hurt ( and I'm trying to apply them to myself in the same time, even if it's hard ) 1/ someone who lied, cheated, beated, hurted you does'nt desserve you and will do it again, to you or another person no matter what. 2/ dont play his/her game by trying to come back and begin to speak, mail or whatever => you're just fueling the pain 3/ convince yourself that there is nice people around who WANT to be happy and are ready to make efforts to have a nice relationship, so don't bother with all the a***holes around who threated you like **** 4/ try to see your ex G/B friend as they really are, I mean , their true nature and try to be objective as much as you can. 5/ talk to the people you trust about your break up, talking help a lot because you need to evacuate the pain, don't keep it in your head. Hope it help, I wish you all good luck to you and to myself ( I need it , trust me )
  5. Hey Jazz, Yours friends are right, don't try to talk to her, especially if she ignores you, what kind of girl will do that except an heartless b**** you're wrong, its not that she doesn't know how to deal with the mess she left, it's just that she don't care about the consequences of her actions, so it's one more very good reason to get rid of her If you meet a girl with who you feel good, spend time with her, and forget about the other one, no matter what. You have to realize that someone who lie to you and screw you other is a bad person, she did it and she will do it again, to you or to other guys, there is no doubt about that.
  6. Hi there, I did not read your original post but if you're not with him anymore, you have to get over it, there is no other way, even if the fact that you work with him makes it more difficult. By acting like you do, you just hurt yourself even more, so the real question is : how long do you want to suffer and torture yourself ? the only solution is to let it go, even if it hurts like hell, stop wondering why he do such and such things. You say that it's fine at home, so maybe you can try to find another job, but be carefull because if you don't see him again at work, it does not mean either that you're going to get rid of yours questions about his behaviour.... A last point, don't run after him either, I know it's a big temptation but there is no proof at all that it will make him come back . Good luck.
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