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There is a suppliment called NLarge 2 by Prolab. link removed You must consume more calaries than you expend. One of my friends who was in the same situation as you asked me for help. I suggested this product and started training him at the gym, (I'm not a personal trainer or anything, but weight lift for fun). Within a matter of about 3 months he gained about 20 lbs using this product, eating normally (didn't increase his consumption of food), and being very consistant in working out. I also had the same type of problem when I was younger...very fast metabolism. I've found that with age, it slows down. Nowadays, if I don't hit the gym regularly, I'm in BIG trouble Try it! and Good Luck!

hmm...well no actual kissing yet...she's only kissed me on the cheek many times...I can kinda tell she wants to, but I don't know whats holding me back... Things have progressed a bit...but it's like a snails pace. We went from just talking and flirting...to holding hands...dancing close and such... I guess I didn't think she would take the "lets take it slow" comment so literal? We've already come forth and told each other how we felt...so I know the feelings are there...it's just that when you put 2 shy people together...nothing really happens I guess hehe

I've recently been seeing/dating this girl for a couple of weeks. All signs so far point to the fact that she wants this to progress....however....I established with her the first few dates, that we were both recently out of long term relationships and that I wanted to take it slow, and not make any mistakes. While this may seem like the right thing to do...I'm afraid that if we take it too slow..things may never progress. We've already been on many dates, probably about 5 so far alone. All other times were with mutual friends. At this point, I just don't know how or what to do to take it to the next level...we've been getting closer physically (holding hands and such) but yet no kisses other than on the cheek. I'm 27, she's 24...I keep trying to tell myself that we're not young anymore, we're not in high school...I should just make a move...I guess I'm just a shy guy at heart...She is also very shy when it comes to having physical contact. I don't want to make it seem forced..it should feel natural. Just having a hard time. Any suggestions on what to say? or even better, what to do? Thanks in advance

Let me start off my saying that I've just gotten out of a very long term relationship and I'm in no way ready for another one. BUT just recently I've met this girl. Perhaps I'm being a bit hasty in saying, but she is the girl of my dreams! I'm so confused about all this I don't know what to do. I met her through some mutual friend and have had the chance to spend some time with her and these mutual friends. During these outings, I've noticed that she been giving me a lot of attention. Looks out of no where, smiling. I reciprecate and she shy's away. We've gone to many clubs together and on many occasions, she has said that I'm too cute! No word of a lie, she's said this atleast 3-4 times each night we've gone out over a span of 4 weeks. There is lots of body contact, like grabbing my hand as we walk through the crowd. Dancing really close to me. Maybe it's just the alcohol? Just recently, I had the chance to drive her home alone We talked all the way back to her place. For some reason she didn't want to go home...she wanted to "chill"....but since it was about 4am, I said "Why don't I just take you home, but you agree to have dinner with me." She agreed and I drove her to her place. In the parking lot, I asked her for her number so we could have dinner...and this is where it gets confusing. She said "ummm...dinner sounds a little bit too personal for me, why don't we say we'll chill sometime." What the heck is that? Now I've said that I'm not ready for a relationship, and I know she's just gotten out of a long term relationship also, but PEOPLE do have to eat! And I really just want to get to know her better. Soooo...I called her up a few days later...we chatted for about 5 mins, and she tells me that she's heading up stairs so she'll call me right back. So I wait...and wait...and wait..about an hour and a half later she calls. We chat for about 10 mins, and just when I'm about to ask her to "chill" sometime, she said she is preoccupied and asks if we could talk tomorrow. I say sure, but where does that leave me? Do I call her? Do I wait for her to call? Everyweek seems the same...all I do is wait for the weekend so that I can see her....I want a way to break this through this mould, even if it's just to make a new friend, instead of waiting on mutual friends to make plans before I can see her again. Hoping someone can shed some light on this for me. Thanks a bunch.

I kinda have to agree with markers...she has a bf. However...that doesn't mean that you can't still be her friend...thats what I suggest you do. Perhaps, she will realize how much she likes you and will be the first to initiate.

I've read somewhere that applying toothpaste to the pimple as soon as you can and leaving it over night will help to dry it out fast. As for plump lips, I have no clue...

That is a great poem. It actually describes exactly how I'm currently feeling. If you wrote that yourself, you have a very poetic heart. If you wrote that for someone, I hope they will read that and will realize what they mean to you.

As the title states, I'm Buddhist and she is Christian. Even worse, her father was a Pastor, now retired. He is a very religious person. She was also before we met. We've been together for over 6 years. Since we've met she is slowly been missing church, so on and so on. I feel bad as I feel it is my fault she is drifting away from her religion. I've never been a religious person. Just recently, her father has found out about us and has requested that we have dinner and speak about our future. We did, and he wants us to get married, and in the mean time, wants to educate me on Christianity with the hopes of me converting. I don't know what to do. In one hand, I do love her and am willing to convert if need be. But I don't want to lie to myself and to anyone else by saying that I believe. I recently found myself at her fathers house on a sunday for bible study. While they were reading, so many doubts and questions came into my head. I felt fake, as I did not believe in what I was reading. I put up a fake face as I did not want to offend anyone. In a really naive way, I felt as though I betrayed Buddhism, although I am not an avid follower. At the end of the session, her dad asked me if I was ready to accept Jesus. I didn't know what to say. I told him that I was not ready. And that I need to really think about things and learn more about Christianity before I decide. He agreed. Just yesterday, she asked me if I was going with her to her dad's again. I declined as I didn't feel comfortable and was tired. She got so agry, she started up an argument over nothing. We almost got to the point of ending it. I guess I didn't realize how important it was to her. But am I wrong for declining and being reluctant? I don't know what to do. Again, I am willing to convert, but if I do not believe in the religion, then how can I? Perhaps only time will tell if I can accept Jesus or not. Confused.

I would definitely recommend that you initiate everything. I and probably many other men out there love aggressive women. If you want it, come and get it! and don't be shy about it!

I first off like to say how much I love this site. It has really helped me a lot even though I haven't posted much. I have a problem. My long term gf and I have been together for just over 6 years. We've had many problems, but have seemed to work things through. In the last year, we have suffered from many many problems. I don't think there has been a 2 day span where we have been happy. We have been arguing almost everyday for the last 5 months and I don't know how we are still together. (Maybe a comfort thing??) Anyways, I've posted before about this issue, but now it has taken another turn. There is a lot of information and facts so please forgive me if this doesn't make any sense. Since my gf has returned from her trip to the Caribbean, everything has changed. This happened in late April. 1 week after she returned, I found pictures of her with some guy on her trip. (nothing too bad, but there were about 12 of these pics of only her and this guy. I'm pretty sure this was an entertainer at the resort because I saw his uniform. Many of the pictures were of them playfully dancing and hugging. I also found emails that she sent to him expressing her feelings towards him. Lets just say I was so angered I became incredible hulk and started smashing things. This whole issue dragged on for a few weeks, and I decided that I would forgive her and try to move on, although i couldn't stop thinking about it. I mean, what harm can possibly be done as this guy lived so far away? Well, after about 4 weeks, I happened to find a telephone bill with long distance charges for about $200 dollars!!! The charges were collect calls from the Caribbean. Again I confronted her and she said that she did give him her number, but she also did that with all the entertainers as she had such a great time and considered them friends. She also said that she didn't expect anyone to call. Well, again after hours of talking, I decided that we needed some time off, but would remain together. After about 2 weeks of our "time off" we decided to try things again. As soon as we get back, what do you know, I see another phone bill with another call from the Caribbean! This time not as long, but still $100 dollars!! I don't understand. I really don't know how we made it through, but we've been dragging this relationship on for a long time. During this whole episode, I have not been able to stop looking through her things. I've searched through her purse, her wallet, her car, her email account, even her online bank account!!! I drive around when she is not at home to confirm she is, where she says she is. I can't seem to stop even though I was caught once by her, going through her purse. About a month and a half ago, she left for work, and I noticed a piece of paper in her drawer. It was an online quote for a vacation to the exact same location she was before! I was so angry I thought I was going to explode. I confronted her and she explained to me that she was searching for a trip for her friend at work and she didn't know how it got into her drawer. By this point, (OFCOURSE) I am really doubting what she is saying, but again, is she really going to end this relationship over someone she spent a couple days with on her vacation?? So I accept her explanation and try to move on. (Stupid??) Just today, I was browsing through her online bank account, and noticed that she has withdrawn $1000 dollars in cash, which is really awkward. The next record was a purchase for travel insurance. Now, please tell me if I'm losing my mind, but this sounds like she is going on a trip. She was supposed to have taken her vacation during this upcoming week with one of her friends, but I basically told her that if she went, we would be over with. So I ask her today if she is still taking a vacation. She said, no and that she cancelled it a while ago. So, I'm in a situation where I have no idea what is going on with her. I've caught her in so many lies that I don't believe anything she has to say to me. Yet, when ever we are apart I feel as though I cannot breath. She always states how much she loves me, somehow it's really hard to believe. I don't know what to do and I'm going insane. Keep in mind that I am not the best bf either. I did actually sleep with another girl during our previous break up a year ago, and she has recently found out. It was rebound sex and I'm sure many have had it. I had no feelings for this other person and have tried in so many ways to make my gf understand this. There is so much more, but I can't possibly go through it all. I'm just so confused about everything that I feel like just giving up on this relationship. (But I can't) I mean, how is she supposed to go away on a trip without me knowing? Can she be doing this out of sheer vengeance for my previous actions? Of course if she just disappears, then it's definitely over. But what could be going on in her mind? I know she still has problems with the fact that I slept with this other girl. But to go to this extent to get revenge? I'm so helpless.

Alright here's the deal. I know there are a lot of posts on here about wives with low sex drives, so heres another with a twist. Here is a little background on our relationship so it's easier to understand. I'm not married fyi, my GF and I have been together for over 6 years. We've had 2 major break ups. During the most recent one (about a year ago), I dated another women. We had sex twice during a 2 week period and I started to feel really guilty because my GF and I had only broken up about 2 weeks before. Well, to make this short, I missed her and broke it off with this new girl. We got back together after I begged for her back =P My GF just recently found out (about a month ago) that I'd slept with this girl. Lets just say she dumped me, but after lots of trying and talking and flowers, and gifts and sorry's, she finally forgave me and we started on the long and hard road to rebuild this relationship. We used to have a pretty healthy sex life. About 3-4 times a week (which is good for me, although I'd prefer it 7 times a week). The week that we got back together after she dumped me, we had sex everyday. I was actually very shocked as I know she was very hurt from what she found out. It is now been almost 2 weeks, and after all of my sexual advances towards her, she can only say "I don't feel like it" and turns over to go to bed, leaving me up and feeling rejected for hours. This has litterally affected my whole attitude and I now see myself snapping at every little thing. This has been going on for a while, and I am about to give up. I have a very high sex drive and will admit that I MASTERBATE MORE THAN WE HAVE SEX! I really don't think this is normal and it has taken it's toll on my mind. I have a strong urge to cheat, but am using every ounce of my strength to hold back. I know I won't as I love her very much and don't want to lose her. My question is: Is she using this as a technique to see if I really do still love her considering what she found out? OR can this really be a case of low sex drive. I try everything and I know she wants it sometimes, but holds back. I love giving her oral and have brought her to orgasm many times doing it. If this is so, then why won't she make love to me? Actually, while writing this post, I think I've realized the answer, Women, prove me wrong! Women use sex as a tool to gain the UPPER HAND in a relationship. They know they can go long periods of time without it (just like a camel in a desert without water) and I (and probably most men) cannot go more than 3 days without it or we start go insane, literally. As I write this, she is sleeping right beside me not knowing how I feel. Actually she knows how I feel as I've told her many times, but she doesn't think of it as an important factor for this relationshp, (I'm assuming). So PLEASE!! HELP! Thank you for reading this long long post. reply's are greatly appreciated.

Hey there, From what you've posted so far, it seems as though you are really in love with this person. I've really only got one thing to say to you. If you really love her and want to be with her, then try your a$$ off to get her. You never want to get to a point in your life where you look back and regret that you didn't do something. If she really is falling in love with you too, then I'm sure she will learn to trust you as you will learn to trust her. It all comes in time. And although there may be tough times, you just have to hold on. I've always learned from past experiences. If I truly want something, then I'll go for it. No regrets. Hope this helps

Thank you all for your replies. This is a great forum with great people. It was a mistake. I was lonely and confused. This other girl seemed to cheer me up at times. I am only human and need companionship. I do really regret it now, but there's nothing I can do. I left a few details out before, but those issues that arose during the 5 months, were caused by her. She went away on vacation with friends. When she came back, all was fine, until I found emails and pictures of her with some guy. I found phone bills of their long distance calls. This issue was causing problems. But I'm almost 100% sure now that nothing happened. I'm ready to forget it, but made the last 5months hell for her. I'm assuming she will do the same to me, if not multiplied by 10. That is the hardest decision. Were we really meant to be together? I don't think I can answer this on my own. JD

I'm new here so I hope I can get some advice. My Girlfriend and I of 6 years just broke up. Well actually she broke up with me. We've been having relationship problems for almost 5 months now. The whole issue is about trust. I'll be honest, I havn't been the best partner at all. We've had many many issues, but still seemed to have remained together. About a year ago, we broke up for about a month. During that time, I met another girl and we started to see eachother. To make this story short, we slept together. Through this whole 3 week relationship, all I thought about was my ex. I couldn't get her out of my mind. So I broke it off with the current one and tried as best as I could to get my ex back. It worked! And I thought we could move on with our relationship, but issues kept arising. Just the other day (while we were on another break) she called me up and started asking questions about the past. Lets just say that she somehow found out that I slept with this other girl while we were on a break. I tried to deny it for the fear that I would lose her for good. But I couldn't. She knew everything. We've talked since then, but I know she looks at me totally different now. She feels disgusted and I don't blame her. I'm so depressed now that I don't know what to do. I have no idea how I can even begin to win back her trust. Technically, we were broken up at the time when this all happened, but it doesn't make it right does it? I just can't see myself moving on without her in my life. She means to much to me now and I fear I have lost her for good. Next week would be our 6 year anniversary. I'm trying to best to plan something that will show her how much I love her. I don't know if I can do anything that will make her love me again. I can't go on. I know she feels betrayed. And the argument that we were on a break doesnt' hold water. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation and have worked it out? Please help for I don't know if I can live the rest of my life without her. JD