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  1. 8 years and 3 months of NC. Best of luck to all you guys just getting through this, it does get better
  2. GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH I WANT YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU I WANT YOU I WANT YOU I WANT YOU I WANT YOU BUT just friends would be good as well even though I fear I am just trying to convince myself that I'd be fine with being just a friend to you. ANYWAYS... when are you going to dump him and come back to me?
  3. Strict No Contact will rarely bring an ex back by itself. You will have to switch to light contact at some point, maybe even become your ex's friend, and see where it goes from there.
  4. 1. Just because he seems like his usual self it doesn't mean that he is not feeling pain/hasn't felt pain at all. The fact that he hasn't invited you to the party and didn't answer to your card makes me actually think that he's not over you yet. 2. Yes, you're still in pain while he's (at least on the outside) having fun. So what? This is not a race where who heals first wins. You are human and you're hurt, it will take time to recover the pain. You shouldn't compare your situation with his one...you're both experiencing separation from each other, but you are the one that has to deal with rejection & regret & confusion. It will obviously take longer for you to heal! You're not pathetic at all. 3. You will meet someone else and you will have better days, trust me.
  5. Yup exactly. Weekends are the best and the worst part of the week to me. I enjoy the great times I have with my buddies & the girls, then again I start to wonder what she and her boyfriend are up to and it does make me a little...disappointed? It's not really sadness, it's more like something irritating...
  6. It's not childish. I think ego has a lot to do with the fact that dumpees obsess over their ex's. I would like my ex to beg for me back, I do really want her to do it, just to reject her. Still, it's not just about "revenge". If she came back to me, it would mean that what we had was indeed something good/special, which is something I'm starting to question and ultimately don't want to.
  7. No, NC is not supposed to make them miss you. NC is supposed to help dumpees move on from their ex's. Ex's may start to miss you at some point and NC will definitely help it, but that's not the point of NC, just a possible side-effect. Anyways, you did the right thing by asking your mutual friends to not tell you anything about her. I did too and it helped my healing a lot. Too bad Saturday night a "mutual" friend of us (hot chick by the way, lol) started telling me things I did not want to hear - such how horrible her new boyfriend looks, how she has turned into an easy girl and how I should be grateful that she ended it with me and not be thinking about her at all... Thinking about it now that's actually comforting and I like the fact that everyone dropped her like a hot potato and "took my side" - this means I'm not the jerk she was trying to make me look like - but still, I wonder what happened to the nice, honest & lovely girl I fell in love with? Why did she turn into an attention-seeking * * * * * ? I just don't get it... BTW: I think I'm close to day 50 & aside from this little setback I'm feeling fine I suppose...
  8. You give no response. I would not announce NC. And even if you want to tell your ex you're going No Contact, try not to make it look like a desperate move to get him back...which is what "when you are ready to be exclusive again let me know, till then don't contact me" would do. Just go with "Please don't contact me I am moving on". If he wants to be exclusive again he will contact you anyways, you don't need to tell him.
  9. 2 weeks...? Lucky you! Better than being replaced the very moment she dumps you - which is what happened to me. If I survived the pain, you will too.
  10. Hey BHUK...don't forget that us dumpees tend to think that our ex's new love/sex life is wonderful while it's probably nothing amazing... When you're bored, you think she's out having the time of her life... When you're alone, you think she's cuddling with her new boyfriend... I mean, you tend to always think the WORST but her life without you is probably nothing but average.
  11. Healing is a necessary step if you're looking for a reconciliation. You can't "skip it" or just pretend you're not hurt.
  12. SuperDave you're back!! I want to thank you so badly for your posts...they really, REALLY helped me when I was drowning in the darkness... Hope you're not going to leave too soon...!
  13. It's ok to block things from your mind. If you've come here at ENA you've probably already suffered enough pain from the breakup and are now ready to heal. To think about it over and over won't do any good and won't be of any help. The best way to heal IMO is just try to look at the big picture...the world is still spinning around, today it's a sunny day (at least here lol) and you will be happy again!!
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