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Today is one of those NC days where I feel up instead of down so I'm really just enjoying it. I've been reading a lot of books on the subject, and learning to cope. But today I have not thought about getting back together, have not been sad at all so I'm really just enjoying myself bc I don't know how long it's going to last until I feel like poo again. But one of the lines I read today from "It's called a break up because it's broken" is that I don't necessarily fear losing him but I fear the future and going out of routine. It's up to me how I feel, it shouldn't matter what he's doing or who he's doing because he didn't respect my feelings, he placed his own needs above mine even after I told him it was hard for me to cope and what did he do? He ignored it claiming he doesn't have time, and I know he has time because he can update instagram, he can play words with friends and all that. I will not shed a tear for someone who does not care about my well being. He threw me away like a piece of rubbish for everything else in his life, because I was placed at the very bottom. Okay rant over!

Today is day 15, I honestly can go on forever until the pain goes away. To me it's not a challenge because I'm used to going NC, does it hurt? Yes, but it'll go away. Cheers Accepting the situation, accepting him/her and accept that things might never change will make the pain more bearable.

No out of nowhere, he should have expected it since the last thing he told me before I went NC was to get the "F out of his life," so that's exactly what I did. This was end of September, he reached out to me mid October. At that time I thought maybe we can start talking again, WRONG.... he still told me he didn't ever want to see me to avoid drama and I remember coming to see him anyways to have that last confrontation, he just stood there while I cried. That night something in me just died so I texted him and said I gave up on us and to have a good life, from that day on I had no urge to text or call him, I no longer reached for my phone, I no longer had my phone attached to me all the time either. Well guess what, the man who arrogantly said to leave him alone texted me on halloween and thanksgiving, I didn't think much of the greeting texts so just politely thanked him. I never initiated any further reply, I never replied in a way that made room for him to reply either. By the beginning of December he started reaching out more and more, random trivial texts and then a phone call that had him saying he thought I called but now realize it's his cousin with the same name. Again, politely answered his questions then hung up. But right now even though he calls and texts every other day or even everyday at times I don't feel that happy. I'm going to go with what I know right now and not assume that he wants to get back together unless he brings it up and changes. He left me, he left me in despair and grieving. He told me he didn't want me in his life, right now I still can't forgive him. Maybe if he shows me he's sorry and do something, idk anything to prove it then I can let go of my pain but there's no way in hell that he can just pretend nothing happened. I know you're in a lot of pain but I promise you it'll get better with time. I understand you said your GF is headstrong but that's what I thought of my ex too, but it happened. Just have some faith and don't contact her, what you don't know can't hurt you.

Yes, 3 months NC, ex swore he wanted me out of his life and never wants to see me again to avoid drama. As of today, contact from him every other day, random phone calls about trivial stuff like "what do you think of white tea?" eh?? So yes, anything is possible.

1st bf: dated senior year of high school, after a year broke up with me, a year and some odd months later we went out again, I dumped him for good. I just didn't want him anymore, still don't understand what I saw in him. 2nd bf: dated 8 months, broke up for 4, got back together for about another year, now broken up again. time will only tell if we'll be back together.

Another... I broke up with my high school sweetheart back in February 2007, got back with him on April 2008. By then the same things were happening, I was unhappy and this time it was my turn to dump his ass. My sister dated her boyfriend for a month and they broke up, over the summer they started communicating again and 3 years later they're still together. Current boyfriend and I took a break for 2 weeks with LC, got back together but now currently am broken up due to outside circumstances. I don't know if I'll reconcile with him, it's a timing issue.

Not my story but someone I know. My manager right before her wedding day the guy left and some time passed, NC from her and one day she heard from him. Since then they got married and just had their first child. But she said that what she learned from all this is she can live without him no problem and from time to time still does bring up what he did. A coworker of mine has been with her boyfriend for 12 yrs but they broke up several times with him cheating on her several times, then going after a coworker of hers. They were apart for several months, reunited, she left her boyfriend to go back to him. Even though this couple got back together I don't think it's a success story because she said herself that she's only back with him because she can't financially support herself. This guy has no intention of marrying her from what I can tell, they both cheated on each other back and forth.

Day 10, 2nd attempt at NC Beginning to think he'll never call and moved on.