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  1. I think I'm at 33 days today. Did my ex text?... are you kidding!! He would never give me so much pleasure. I am being punished I'm sure... his passive aggressiveness at best. It's okay... I have horrible moments for sure... I cry and want to call him, but I cannot. He is a pure jeckyl/hyde type guy... I would never call him or show up at his door... I would not know who I'd might get... and I need to protect myself from that. NC is the absolute best thing for me... I broke it once, and it was bad bad bad... I cannot go through that again. ... but 6mo from now... I doubt I will be having these bad moments... and THAT's what I need to focus on!!
  2. congrats zrehman!! Day 4 is awesome!! Having your ex texting makes it double hard I'm sure... I was not challeneged with that. I am out of sight, out of mind with my ex... I just have to work on not texting him or calling... I don't think I will ever have to worry about him contacting me... oh well. Well congrats on day 4!! Be strong. If you really want to heal and detach from her, NC is the only way... or you will just stay in the craziness and it will never get better. Good work!
  3. well I guess I should rephrase that... they need exercise, and most should have at least an hour of outside exercise a day. Given that, most owners utilize that hour by riding them. ... but you can turnout your horse or let him run wild in the arena, (which is always fun) or you can ride him Horses are very prone to stomach disease if they are not exercised. It's very important that they move around alot. If you ever part of a stable... you will see people there daily and always on the weekends. I would love to have a home with enough acres to have a horse in my back yard... but I don't think that dream is going to happen
  4. nice to be with family. me... nope. I have some wine and some fabric to cut (sewing)... so I might do that. I'm boiling some water now to make some yummy pasta... so that's about it. Tomorrow I plan to go to my family's and cut alot of fabric, haha... I make quilts and am starting a new quilt... so cutting takes ALOT of time, but right now that time taken up is good for me. The most exciting thing happened today though... I have an appt to see a horse on Saturday!! I'm so excited. Not sure if I will buy it... I might lease it for a while first, but it's exciting nevertheless.
  5. haha thanks for the understanding!! are you going out tonight?
  6. yuck... I have no desire to ever get involved with your species again... no offense oh wait... yes I would like to get involved with your species... it will just have 4 legs and weigh about 1500lbs... a horse, LOL!! That's the only male I will be hooking up with in 2009
  7. I'm on day 32 NC... do I still get to post (I love this icon, he is by far my favorite icon
  8. cause any kind of communication keeps you hooked to your ex... and if you really want to get over him, you need to "unhook". You can put as many excuses on it as you want about it being "nice" and "the right thing to do", but really what it is doing is allowing you to stay attached. True NC is for peeps who really want to unattach from their ex and move on.
  9. nope... oh wait, yes he did... after I called on Thanksgiving (his birthday) to wish him a happy birthday and I was crying... thinking he'd call me back... he sent me an email and said so nicely... PLEASE STOP CALLING!](*,)](*,) so I guess he did contact me, LOL!! That's when I started pure NC... but no, I have not heard from him since that email and I have not attempted to contact him... no way, now how, I'm done. Hurts like heck somedays, but if he can walk out like that after 1yr with me and have no desire to contact me, then good riddens... I'm glad to be where I'm at.
  10. hi there!! yeah for day 37!! I'm on day 31, ugggh. I'm feeling a little blue today too. Well it doesn't help that when I get on the train, my friend says to me "you sounded sad this morning on the phone. I thought uh-oh... you must have called Michael". I said to my friend "why would you think I would call him!!, and why would you bring that up?!!", ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!! It's hard enough getting over your exbf, it's even harder when your friends like the drama, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!! My friend needs a life! okay, i'm digressing. i'm going spinning tonight. made plans for tomorrow night (new years eve), but now I'm thinking i dont want to go, ugggh.
  11. cookiedough... you will not break down... why?... because you have me!!, and you have this board... !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you will make it... I know you will
  12. awww... thanks fiffy!! I appreciate the kind words NC is hard no doubt... but I guess I was lucky that my exbf is an insensitive SOB... haha... cause I never had to deal with making decisions on not writing him back or texting him back... cause he never did try to contact me... bittersweet I guess, LOL!! but thanks. It's been a hard road and will continue to be for a while I'm sure... but I'm better, alot better. ... and you hang in there!! Remember... if our significant other's are not there for us... what good is it for us to to chase them? Don't we want strong supportive people in our life who will help us, support us, and make life easier on us? Why do we want to chase after people who make life harder on us? So you hang in there... and do what is good for you!!... find people that want to be with you... it's much easier on the heart and feels so much better Thanks for your kind words... they mean alot
  13. wait,did I read that right... that he thinks he won't find a better combination than "hot and smart"? seriously, did he say this? cause if he did... I'd kick his a** to the curb. That has got to be the most insulting thing I have ever heard. Like you are "hot and smart", but still not good enough? What does he need? OMG, let ME kick his a*** to the curb. He sounds like my exbf who left suddenly and on his way out said "and such a pretty girl". Like I was a waste. Like the fact that I was pretty but still didn't measure up to him meant that I was wasteful. Seriously, run from your dude and far. Any man who says that to woman has huge issues... that is just incredibly insulting I'm sorry I wouldn't be his friend at all... honestly, I wouldn't. Tell him you are going to go find a guy who not only thinks you're hot and smart, but one who think's you're great as well and one who think's your deserving of being with all the time... cause you know what, YOU ARE!!
  14. well folks, this is is... day 30 NC for me...wow. i guess it's a bittersweet thing that i made it huh? sad to be here in a sense and sad that i had to do this, but ultimately it was a good thing... this NC thing. had it not been for this board, i may have called him, and thus set myself up for alot more heartbreak than i deserved. i feel okay today. i've felt better this past week. Christmas was good, and I'm glad. Thanksgiving was a nightmare and I felt awful that I wasted such a good day with my family on that jerk. I had relapsed bad on Thanksgiving... crying hard into his phone and to think that insensitive a** didn't even have the heart to call me back... but sent me a nasty email telling me to "please stop calling!!!!!!!"... that just made me ill... but also made me stronger. I vowed that day that I was done, and I was. That is when I truly started NC. It's one thing to break-up with someone, it's another to do it so cold hearted and insensitive the way he did... and honestly, I'm glad he's out of my life. He appeared to be a nice man, but nice men don't do this stuff So anyway... I guess I'm supposed to reread all my posts and write a conclusion... I'll do that tomorrow. I want to get through day 30 first, LOL!! I still miss the ex, but I think the worst pain has passed... thankfully. It was such a awful way to end it... him leaving on a moment's notice and he completely cut me off... I have never had such pain from a heartbreak like this... but I made it. So thanks to everyone on this board and on this thread... honestly, I probably would have broken NC if it wasn't for this board... and because of the board, I am alot better person today and probably alot more healed than I would be if I was still sucked in to him and his stuff. So maybe I'll still post after this, who knows... but I'm a testament to the rest of you guys that you can do this. If you really want it, you can do it. If I can do it, anyone can. Here's to day 30... and here's to my pride... I am worth more than calling and having the phone hung-up in my face by a man I dated for a year. Whatever happened between us, I was never due that abuse... and NC gave me the tool to stand up for myself and prove just that. So thanks... {HUGS} to everyone.
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