franfran

Great thread, but I feel like it's giving me false hope. I know I have to let go and all that, but reading this really makes me feel that if I disappear from his life for awhile (it's been 3 weeks already of strict NC) then he'll miss me so much he'll come back. Absense makes the heart grow fonder? If only it did.

Thank you digitadiva, I really think you're right when you say he can't deal with the stresses of a relationship right now. That's pretty much what he told me I just don't believe him. Thanks.

I wish I would have seen this before I broke NC and emailed him last night. Of course, no response, I don't know what I expected. I AM DONE now, never speaking to him again. Thanks cb

fiffy, it's okay. I'm dying right now without contacting mine. The only reason I don't is for the very fear that he won't feel pain, and I'm a mess, JUST like you. Sometimes we just can't control what we do. Just don't beat yourself up about it anymore okay? I'm at day three of the challenge, but day 10 overall of NC. Every single day is getting harder. It's almost like with each day that passes, my chances of being a part of his life again are dwindling away. I was fine, didn't cry for 5 days on end during the first week and a half it was over. Now I'm a freaking wreck. I don't want to call him because I can't stand the thought of hearing the indifference in his voice on the phone (since he "doesn't love me anymore") but I'm throwing the idea around of writing him a letter. I have no idea what I'd even say. Maybe I'll just write it to him then rip it up and throw it in the trash. Nothing I say will matter to him anyway so why even bother. I've been reading around that going complete NC is not the way to get an ex back. In my case, mine doesn't love me anymore so I thought maybe once I'm completely erased from his life for awhile he'll realize what he doesn't have anymore. Yet I can't help but think I'm sending the wrong message. I don't want him to think I don't care about him anymore. I know it's hopeless. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Day 9 of overall NC. Still wondering whether or not he misses me, or thinks he made a mistake. Don't know cause he won't contact me. I guess that makes the whole NC easier for me then. I guess I should consider myself lucky. I'm also trying to not be addicted to facebook anymore.. it's just too GD easy to login and search.

I just stumbled upon this site a few days ago and have been drinking it in. Everything that everyone has shared has helped me so much with my break-up. I haven't shared my story, I think other people have it worse than I do, but I am interested in starting this NC challenge. My dearest best friend of 4 years and boyfriend of 2 years just told me that he "doesn't love me anymore" 11 days ago out of absolutely nowhere (he told me I was the love of his life everyday!) and now will not speak to me.. Obviously I am completely crushed. I have no idea what happened. I've gone NC for 8 days already, but each day gets harder and harder without him. So I need this support group to keep going. Thanks everyone Here we go.