My Advice

hmm sad story.

It sounds coe-dependent but the lyrics are well done.

day, I have a lot in common with women in their forties and even some who are 19 or 20 if they are extremely mature. There is more to relationships than growing up with the same cartoons and toys. In fact, many people's personalities are almost as complete as they will ever be around their mid twenties. The only red flag is under 24, though it isn't a deal breaker, but that is because they are usually too immature or lacking self awareness to even be in a long term or lasting relationship with somebody their own age.

Our problems started about 3 years in. I got pregnant. I had two children already and so did he. I thought that this would be something that wwe could have together. To in a way bind our family into one. Well, he got all insecure and immediately I had had an affair with someone I had worked with because there was no way he could have got me pregnant.... it just didnt make sense... ( I had a paternity done to prove to him I had never strayed hoping to show him that he was the only one I wanted)... well before I knew it I was worse than the painted lady. We separated for 6 months during my pregnancy. -- You are assuming too much here and scape goating the age. This guy got insecure because he has low self-esteem on some level and isn't mature or self aware enough to deal with them. It is a lack of maturity not because of his age. Anybody who chooses not to demonstrate more trust than that and isn't educated enough to know forty year old sperm is more than capable of causing pregnancy has got problems. And the longer that we are together, and the older our son gets(he is 5 now), the more restless he becomes.--- anybody can get restless. More common among younger than older. Anybody can have children who resent their husband's new wife. People change Your personality changes as you experience life What happens if there is a child in the relationship Do you think that this person would be willing to start with another young child after having almost raised thier own? What happens if he/she becomes insecure because of low self esteem or mid life crisis--- response: yes, many are willing to raise another child and they do all the time. Older people have children wth substantial age difference between their earlier ones. It depends on what the person wants. If they want more kids or kids at all or not. And everybody goes through changes at different periods. Yes, people in their twenties go through more 'on average.' Does that mean people in their twenties shouldn't seriously date or marry at all? You can change and become incompatible about anything if you are inflexible or not good long term emotional chemistry. Hell, I am in my thirties and am changing more than I ever have. So I shouldn't be in a relationship? The age gap causes uncertainty in men and thereforee, regardless of what a woman does, she cannot "FIX" it or try to make them see anything--- This is a blanket generalization and absolutely not true. It might have happened in your experience but you are allowing that experience to prejudice against other age gaps. know. I am still opening my eyes to what life is really about and what things really mean. --- You would still be opening your eyes about what life means even if you were dating somebody your own age. Does that mean you shouldn't date at all? And I am dedicated to evolving my identity and view points until the day I die. Doesn't mean I am doomed with other relationships that are younger or older or even the same age because I am constantly evolving. It is called accepting another person for who they are, trust, gratitude and appreciation, something people need to learn at all ages. Your husband might be in his forties but he acts like he is fifteen.

princess if you have a problem with somebody who is five years older than you 'might' consider reassessing that priority. Five years is NOTHING. I find people younger than me who are intellectually stimulating and very mature with a far greater age gap than five years. (I am thirty). You might find a relationship very healthy with an even bigger age gap -- both with somebody younger and older-- if there is a sexual and emotional attraction and both of you are mature and have things in common (but different enough to be stimulating.)

Mr catus I am almost thirty one and I am in my intellectual and creative prime and expect that to last for many years to come. When I was 19 I was pretty mature but my views are evolving and expanding more than ever despite being a heavy thinker my whole life. People often reach their peak when they hit about twenty eight but people rarely consider the psychology why. People become comfortable and complacent with their views and dissecting what exist. They feel like their age is supposed to make them know more than they do. They become Lazy so to speak. But that should not be a barrier for somebody with a passion to intellecually evolve but instead a strength. As for the age gap, nobody should be against it unless they have prexisting prejudice. Relationships have all kinds of challenges at any age and where as you might have a problem in a relationship with one person because of his age, it might not matter with somebody who is the same age in a different relationship, and it is less an obstacle for some people than others.

''Body Dysmorphic Disorder Information compiled by Maurice Sterndale D Hyp. PDCHyp. Body dysmorphic disorder is an under-recognised chronic problem that is defined as an excessive preoccupation with an imagined or a minor defect of a localised facial feature or body part, resulting in decreased social, academic and occupational functioning. Patients who have body dysmorphic disorder are preoccupied with an ideal body image and view themselves as ugly or misshapen. Comorbid psychiatric disorders may also be present in these patients. Body dysmorphic disorder is distinguished from eating disorders such as anorexia nervosa that encompass a preoccupation with overall body shape and weight. Psychosocial and neurochemical factors, specifically serotonin dysfunction, are postulated etiologies. Treatment approaches include cognitive-behavioural hypnotherapy, psychotherapy and psychotropic medication. To relieve the symptoms of body dysmorphic disorder, selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, in higher dosages than those typically recommended for other psychiatric disorders, may be necessary. BDD is a chronic disorder that is equally common in men and women, and usually presents during adolescence and young adulthood. The average age of onset is 17 years.''.........one of many definitions of the disorder, although i think every person has a different degree of suffering of BDD and thereforee suffer in slightly different ways.