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  1. That is something that I used to live by... and I truly believed it because my ex and I had broken up (several times) but always managed to find a way back to each other no matter how ugly our breakup was. But now I don't know how much I believe it anymore... I mean a part of me still believes if 2 people really love each other they will end up together in the end. My ex (same guy that broke up with me several times) has left me once again but this time it's different cause were actually engaged and living together. We've been together for a total of 6 years... A part of me still feels like we love each other but just have so much differences and communication problems (more so on his end). I know I need to move on but I still have a little bit of hope that one day will be together....
  2. Just thought of another story... not a reconciliation story but she had the possibility of reconciling.... One of my friends was with her bf for 5 years. She moved down for him and they lived together. They broke up a couple times but always managed to get back together. Then towards the end of the relationship, her bf wasn't really putting effort into the relationship anymore. She got tired of it and then she decided to break up with him. She told him exactly what she wanted and if he would fight for her and show that he still cares, she would take him back. Well he didn't. He didn't want to and chose to be single. She was devastated and even tried to call him cause she missed him. He admitted that he was seeing other girls and although she was the one that broke it off, she couldn't imagine him dating other girls. Well she finally decided to move on with her life and did everything possible to get over him. She went out every night (that was her way of coping with the breakup), she made new friends and just kept herself busy. She also started her own business with a friend. Finally 3 months later he contacted her and told her he missed her. But by that time she had found someone else! Now she is getting married to her new guy and he treats her like a princess!
  3. I have another story.. my best friend was with her high school sweetheart for 3 years but they knew each other for longer than that. Anyway, they ended up breaking up because my friend went off to college in another state. They tried to do long distance for a little bit but it didn't work. My friend went to date other people and had several long relationships during her college years. Her ex dated someone else as well but nothing really serious. Every time she would come back to visit back home, they would meet up and their connection was still there but she knew it wouldn't work due to the distance. They maintained low contact and then kind of had a falling out. She came back to visit home once but they didn't see each other. Then the next year they somehow started talking again and she came back to visit. They realized they still loved each other and then he decided to move up with her in Seattle! Now they are living together!
  4. Now that I think about it.. I think most of my exes have come back... *My first bf in high school broke up with me.. mainly cause we would fight over stupid stuff plus we were young and this was my first relationship so I had no clue what to do! Anyway, we didn't date very long but I did like him. Then eventually I guess he liked this other girl at my school which is probably why he finally decided to break things off. I was pretty bummed but not super heartbroken since we really didn't date that long. Well I guess he tried to pursue that other girl but nothing came out of it. Then later on.. maybe a month or so later I ran into him at party and I acted totally like I didn't care he was there. I just smiled and then continued to do my own thing and have fun. He ended up trying to talk to me then later calling me telling me he wanted to be with me again. I decided to take him back but then I realized my feelings weren't the same for him anymore so I broke it off with him! *Another guy I dated for just a month ended up breaking with me because I was younger than him and I couldn't go out all the time cause of my mom. Eventually he dumped me and dated another girl right after. I was devastated cause I really liked him. Well he did end up trying to call me a few times after but I knew he was with that other girl so I didn't want anything to do with him. I ran into him at a few parties and totally acted like I didn't have a care in the world about him. Well I guess he soon became heavily addicted to drugs.. and then him and his girl broke up. He later moved to another state then 4 years later, he found me on Facebook and added me. I guess he saw from my pictures how much I grew up and changed and then told me he really regretted dumping me and he only did it cause I was too young at the time. He tried to see if I'd give him a chance again but it was already WAY too late plus I was with someone at the time. But it just goes to show... there's no telling when a ex can come back.. might be a few weeks to a few years! *I dated a guy for just 1 month.. but we had a lot of problems from the beginning. We would fight a lot and then we decided it wasn't working. I think he may have dumped me first though. Well I ran into him at a club shortly after and he saw me just dancing and flirting with other guys which probably made him jealous. He approached me and danced the night away. Well we hung out a few times and I knew he wanted to be with me again but then I realized that my feelings for him were gone already. *My MOST recent ex.. who I was for 6 years and also engaged with for a year.. well we had many break-ups and make-ups. Our first 3 years was a very toxic relationship. He would always breakup with me when things went bad.. and I'd beg him back and then he would finally take me back and the cycle kept repeating itself. Why'd I stay with him? Well obviously we had a lot of good times with each other and we had a very passionate relationship. I loved him and still love him to death. Anyway, our breakups were always like a week or 2 and then we'd reconcile. Sometimes he'd be the one to initiate contact.. but most of the times its was me. Finally after 3 years together we had one REAL big break up which lasted for 3 months. This time I thought we were truly over cause he actually dated someone a month after we broke up. I had never been so heartbroken in my life. I literally thought this was the last breakup because it ended so badly plus he had a gf (which was just a rebound for him). I stopped the calling/begging/pleading as soon as I found out he had a gf. That was the last straw for me. I did NC for a month and then he called me one day out of the blue to check up one me and make sure I was "okay." When he called I didn't know it was him cause he had called from his work phone. It definitely caught me off guard but I totally acted like everything was fine and dandy. I tried to get off the phone with him as fast I could though cause I was busy. I think he was surprised since the old me of would wanted to stay on the phone and talk to him about everything. But I was just disgusted with him and wanted nothing to do with him. I told him I had to go and that I'd "call him back." Well I never did call him back cause I was trying to move on with my life. Then 2 weeks later, he texts me and asks me again how am I doing. I ignore his text. He sends me a 2nd text saying that he still cares about me which is why he contacts me. BS!!! I ignore him once more. Well the next day, I guess he couldn't stand me ignoring him and calls me. At first I wasn't going to answer it but then I decided to hear what he had to say. Boy was I in for a surprise. He literally begged me back.. told me he was miserable without me and the other girl he was dating was nothing compared to me. He told me still loved me and would do ANYTHING to get me back. Now my ex is very stubborn and never really admits to being wrong so I know this took a lot for him to admit to this. I didn't trust him though and I told him that. He said he'd prove it to me and blah blah. Of course he dumped that other girl but still I didn't want to take him back right away. Everyday for 3 weeks, he would call me and tell me how much he loves me and that I am the "ONE" and that he wants to settle down. Finally after 3 weeks I decided to see him. Of course our attraction and connection was still there.. and we ended up getting back together (maybe stupid on my part). Things to be going good... but then I had a lot of trust issues. We would get into fights here and there.. but our communication was a little better. Eventually though, he started doing the same things he used to do in our old relationship like ignore me when he's mad and not talk about things. Soon I started to see the same old patterns in our relationship. Once again we broke up... for a week.. then got back together (stupidly). This time I told him though if we are going to be back together I want to know that we are going to eventually get married which he knew its something I've always wanted. He agreed with me and a month later he proposed and got me a ring. We moved into our own place shortly after. This was both our first time living together so it was very exciting but scary at the same time since we've had so much problems in our relationship before. Well in the beginning of living together things were a bit rocky but then we finally got the hang of things and everything seemed to be going well.... except I started to notice that he wanted to go out a lot more and party which was weird cause he never used to party before. All his friends are single and younger than him so I think he got influenced by them. I started to complain more that he wasn't putting me as a priority and I felt like if we're going to be married it shouldn't be like this. He also got back into doing ecstasy which is something he used to do a LONG time ago. Well in February things got bad and we were fighting a lot.. and every time we would fight he would just leave and go hang out with his friends. Then one day, he decided to pack up all his stuff while I was at work and called me after I got done to tell me that he was "unhappy" and that we were done. Its been a month of NC for me.... although no reconciliation yet... I really am trying to move on because what he did was the most ultimate betrayal But I do of course one day he does realize what he lost. 6 years down the drain.. *sigh*
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