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  1. Heya.. 14 years is a long time to let go in just a day. Be strong for now. It's going to sting a little along the way. I'm going through a similar situation as you are now except that it was only 3 years and not 14. I am so amazed by how long you two stuck with eachother. NC is so so so hard. Because you've just been so used to being 'with' your ex-girlfriend. I know it even hurts to see the word ex-gf. You might even feel like you're in denial like it's not happening. I feel like that right now. Except my ex-boyfriend wrote me a real long letter asking for me back that he'st rying to change, etc. I don't even know what to think. But as of now. For you, I feel like I need to know a bit more about your relationship. I don't understand why she is being so short and cold towards you even on the rare dates you've had with her. One minute having a great time again together and the next minute she says nope its not going to work. The best advice I can give you right now is that you NEED TO BE STRONG. You need to give her the time to realize what she's been missing. Instead of you always missing her. She needs to finally realize what she'll be missing too. Don't cave in. Because she's probably expecting you to call her or contact her. I hope the best for you. I really really do. I know how much it hurts.. You can pm me anytime kay?
  2. cakes

    Condom failed

    The pill works immediately. I went through this situation already. And I read distinctly from the PLANNED PARENTHOOD website that it states the PILL works IMMEDIATELY. If she takes it properly- meaning, every single day at about the same time. If she misses a pill, and all that sort of stuff--she needs to refer to the instructions that came wiht the pill. i could explain it to you want just pm me if you do. I woudln't worry about it tho, it works immediately. But do make sure if she's taking it everyday properly. But james, if you're worried...i would get hte mornign after anyway. That way you can just not have to worry anymore. I've done that before. kay! good luck!!
  3. this happened on DAY 12 of my cycle......may period ended on Day 6, and 6 days later, this happened, and that makes it day 12.....hope this added info helps.. but i did just read up on the pill....and it says that it works immediately if taken within 24 hours of your period...which i did..so i'm feeling a little bit better about it.. but any feed back still helps thanks a lot for reading my posts ..xoxox
  4. thanks for some of the replies sorry for not being as complete in the details.. The condom slipped off him. I found it slightly hanging out of me, the rim and that. And he did cum in the condom. I'm worried about spillage, etc. i had been back on the pill 12 days, the night that happened, but i'm not sure if that would have been enough days for the pill to become effective. The dr. i saw at the clinic said the pill works immediately but for some reason i'm really skeptical about that. So the next night of the incident, i saw antoher dr. at a differnet clinic, and he gave me 10 pills of alesse, alesse is just an ordinary birth control.. He gave me 10 of htem and said that it was the same dosage as a morning after pill. i'm just worried about my chances of being pregnant right now. i'm due for my period in about 5 days.... Any help at all?
  5. Hi all, I have been on birth control for about a year and a half..and i recently stopped, and got off the pill for a month (while i was on vacation)....As soon as i came back, i got back on the pill..12 days back onto the pill, i had intercourse, but the condom had sliipped off. Does anyone know how effective the pill is? having been back on it only 12 days and had this happen??? As a precaution- i did go to ta clinic and ask for a morning after pilll. Instead of gettign plan b, they gave me 10 pills of Alesse to take and said it was the same dosage as a morning after.. Any advice on how effective my birth control pills were being 12 days back...and what are my chances with what i've said..? Thanks for taking the time to read
  6. cakes

    swallowing

    dumbest question, never thought about it, curious. can girls get preg swallowing cum?
  7. Yes, on Aug 10, he is set up for an appointment to have a colonoscopy. It may have been the other way around though, I think he said it was going down his throat and not his bum. Either way that will be sorted out on the 10th of August (which I will be out of town until September) I feel goddamn pissed off at him and his mum for being so stubborn for my family for being so overly aggressive....
  8. Hey everyone, My bf has been having severe abdominal pain, constant diahhrea with blood for 6 months. he gest this ab pain almost every 30-45 minutes throughout hte day, that is what ihave noticed. And from what he says, after he eates, he has to go to the bathroom allt he time. i'd asked him what colour the blood and he kept telling me for 6 months he idn't know. and i asked is it deep red or bright red...and he kept saying i dont know.....today i asked him, he actuallly told me and said it was deep red. Is this bad??? i know there is a diff with the colours. After a long awaited appointment with the GI Specialist, the doc says that he might have Colitis. My bf has been very hush with me on this subject as much as i try to help him and console him and i'm very understanding and sympathetic. sometimes, most of hte time i dont think he's telling me everything b/c he thinks he'll scare me or realize how serious his situations is. So those are the symptoms i know of.. I'm trying to persuade him to get a second opinion....everytime i mention it to him or his mother...they seem to get soo upset with me. Btw, his mum is a nurse, but she hasn't actively been one for almost 30 years. But whenever i mention something its like she disapproves and i'm not sure if its b/c she's a nurse and thinks she has the superior knowledge and so what she says must go. b/c i coudl flat out admit to her without shame that i undrestand she absolutely has mroe kowledge but i just wanted her to listen. we had waited 6 months to help my bf. and i had before recently suggested to both my bf and his mother separtely to tyr goign to the Emergency...b/c you get fast results...its like a cheat path to get to see a dr asap. both diapproved strongly. I just awnted him to be able to see a dr he was suffering so badly....i idn't mean any harm the other day someone had mentioned to me to get his colon cleaned....i guess that is what people call an ammena (sp? i've only heard it never seen it spelt) i dont know exaxctly what it was but i came out adn asked his mother if seh would tell me about it and if she woudl consider it. At that time i didn't even know the name of the procedure and i kept describing it as geting his colon cleaned with water...and seh goes 'AMMENA' and i'm like "ammena??" and she just kept saying the word to me with a frown ..and the sister as well...and i'm like okay waht is ammena...and they said when u get insert a huge tube up your rectum and flush it out with tonnes of water...and i said i think that is what i am talking about actually i was sure it was...and they disapproved so much...i dont know much about the pros and cons with this procedure so i had no right to be upset with their reaction... But honest to god i dont knwo what to do. My bf is no longer able to go to work and is on medical leave....and actually had to go to the specialist again. And now another appointment is set for the hospital aug 10 to do more testing to clarify it is colitis.. please if anyone can help and give me their thoughts on what it could be...and especially waht the colourof the blood could mean?? I hope he does not have cancer, he keeps telling me he does, jokingly but i tihnk he's actually seoirus.. And the doc's have said they dont thikn it is colon cancer...but i'm just freaking out horribly..and he my bf is getting so upset with me that i keep suggestnig things ot him today i suggested i think it would be a good idea to get a second opinion...and i just got hell for it....i'm alreayd making this post so long i dont want to keep you all but....like i jsut dont know really what is going on..and i'm leaving in 2 days to visit my family in malaysia for a whole month...and i feel so sad that i wont be able to be with him righ tnow.... what do you think about this? has anyone gone throug this or experineced his symptoms....
  9. That's awesome!! I like your attitude!! By the way, I've seen you posts around the forum. And I've been meaning to ask, are you really 42 years old and is that really your picture on your profile? Cos in that picture, you're beaming of youth!!! 8) Anyways, all the best, sounds like things are going to turn out good for ya! Keep that attitude!
  10. Hey! You're already half way there to getting better grades!! Ahhh --good for you! Realizing and coming out for help is great!!! Kudos! Anyways- You're in highschool right? I think it said 15 on your age. But you could correct me if I'm wrong. I know with highschool you don't much leeway in the classes you want to take besides your electives. And of course, if you're heading towards the sciences or the arts. Well thats how it is from where i'm from.... That's the sh*tty part. Oh well. The thing is in highschool---i managed quite well...by taking sweet notes during class and doing my readings at home. And i mean REALLY review your material. Read it over and over again if you have time. With my notes from class, i'll add my own at home. That's one way of doing it. Anyhow....I don't really think i need to say more b/c i think you realize that you want to improve..and it really just takes that self-initiation ...and now tha tyou realize it, you'll put in that effort to study more, make more notes, review review review. Another good tip, become good friends with your profs...and when you dont understand ASK. I use to ask a hell of a lot of stupid stuff in class---after awhile i realized all those questoins i asked wasn't a matter of me being stupid b/c i never understood a bunch of stuff...it was me wanting and having the eager to learn...and you know your teachers see that in you...and sometimes that might just give you an A if you were a percent away.... Ack! i'm goign to stop gabbing! You'll be fine!
  11. Sounds like you're about ready to start a relationship. No one can really tell you what girls to go to and which to stray away from because people always change. The best suggestion I have for you is to go into a relationship, or go into your serach for a gf, without any pre-judgements, assumptions or that sort of thing. That's what usually drags and brings things down. See things from a positive side! Because you know what? There are a lot of girls out there that don't cheat..And i'm sure you'll find one who won't!
  12. Hey Hotchick, It sounds about well-overdue for a pregnancy test. So, no more delays! You must head out and do yourself a good favoour and take that test! From the sounds of what you have told us all here, I'd think there is a posibility of pregnancy. Yet again, only the test can clarify it. I only say this because of time you had sex (which was darn near close to your next period--usually females are pretty fertile by then)....Anyhow, every woman is different. Please update us on your situation. I hope you the best. But as one of the other post mentioned- it really is important ot know what you are doing before you have sex. The consequences, the risks, etc..I know sometimes in the heat of the moment, it's hard to make such a decision....but my best suggestion to avoid those heatof hte moment situations is to just GO ON THE PILL...youll never have to worry about having a time out to put a condom on. Though, for me, as effective as the pill is like 99%. I use that and condoms. Sometimes things just don't happen the way you think they will. And it has happened. So just a pre-caution for you and to other girls who are sexually active....play it on the safe side and just free yourself of worries! Best of luck
  13. There's always something about the "infidelty" section that always lures as much as i HATE reading it b/c i really do lose all hope. It's kind of scary b/c i know I have a great guy but --as good as I think he is..he could cheat, now couldn't he? The thing is- men are just as likely as women to cheat. And women are just as likely to cheat as men. It's a depressing subject, I know. I hate thikning about it but I can't. And I think it's grown to become a subconscious obessessive fear that I have that as much as I love and trust my boyfriend..I can't really "trust" him. Is it from reading too much of this stuff??? I don't know, guys? is it????? Well, maybe. GUYS i just feel like....i'm LOOSING all faith in the TRUST in relationships that people should have with their partners....The lust that partners should have for eachother and the not other sex..AND i know my bf is a great and wonderful guy....I seriously think i'm becoming seriously insanely paranoid ...reading all this infidelty stuff.....its just scary....honestly, before i ever came on this site...i'd never known so much of this cheating going on ...I guess I'm scared it could happen to me..and i guess it could...but i just hate getting all pessimistic on my relationship b/c i have a growing fear of something that may or may not happen. Oh hell-- i dont know what i'm talking about
  14. Thanks for your advice ! They are so weird. I never knew how infected those can be...I think one spread b/c another grew in the same area. But a couple nights ago, i saw a head develop and i tried popping it so that the pus would come out and some of it did...but it didn't really help. Though I found this Chinese Cream i have at home....I found it luckily and i use it for tons of things. I put it on, and it worked like magic, it pretty much drained itself and the whole thing shrunk and its almost gone now. Well for anyone who is curious it's called Mo Pi Ko. It's a chinese cream..not sure wehre you can find it...i'll have to find out. BUT THANK YOu..i think i'm cured!!
  15. does anyone get boils??? they are bumps that grow to be prety big.....and pus collects inside b/c of infection..they last about 10-25 daysd and they are red and also hurt... how have you treated it if you have?
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