flyguy08

Heres the deal, just looking for advice on what to do next. Well, this past Saturday, I met a girl out at the club. While we were dancing, we were talking. Nothing serious, just the basics, whats your name, what do you do chatter. Well at the end of the song, she grabbed me, and told me her number. I did not ask for it, she turned around and was like ***-***-****, I jotted it down in my cell phone, and decided to wait and call tonight (Tuesday). Well, about 30 minutes ago, I called. But she did not answer. I left a message, saying who I was. I know, before I go nuts about it, who knows .. she could be out with her friends, ect. But before I make the mistake of calling again later this week. What do I do if she does not call back, tonight, tomorrow, or ever. Thanks

Been talking to my ex-girlfriuend .. and I asked her to do something this weekend, just for Friday night. Below is her response . how do I answer. I live 2 hours away, long distance. We have seen each other since our breakup over the past .. and we always spend the night together .. should I just suck it up .. and just go, see her and see what happens? or is this a bigger thing, that i'm not seeing? -Thanks I'm doing fine... I don't think I have any plans for Friday, are you planning to come down for the game?? The only request that I have, just to keep things uncomplicated b/w us, is that I would rather us not stay the night together.. would that be a problem if you came down on Friday?

I know .. nothing big .. but my ex-got a ticket this morning. She called me, and talked to me .. and then we got off the phone. Was gonna send her and e-card....but what should I write? Thanks would this work? short and sweet Hey there .. sorry to hear about your ticket. Don't sweat it, things will be ok.

Hey There .. thanks for reading. lets recap: After 2 weeks of no contact, me and my ex started talking. She called me 5x's on Saturday, but I decided to not answer. On Sunday, I called her and she was mad that I ignored her phone calls. (Actually I was busy with friends out of town, and did not want to ruin my weekend, if I did talk to her) So, with that said. On Monday, we talked again, this time in a mature adult way. She said she was thinking of me and that she got mad on Sunday b/c she was unable to talk to me. The conversation went on and I asked her about us and the feelings that she had on Sat. She said that she would be open to the idea of hanging out again, but taking things slow. Well, we talked on Tuesday .. but when I called her on Wed, she did not answer, no return my call. My Question .. what should I do, how should I react, should I even care, blow it off likes it no big deal. In addition, am I setting myself up to get hurt again, or is this something that's normal, taking it slow to get to the big payoff. any advice would help. We are both 25 and dated on/off for 2 1/2 years. Its been 7 months since our breakup .. but we have always continued to talk. Thanks

THANKS EVERYONE .. OTHER PLEASE KEEP THE ADVICE COMING.

need some help .. went and saw the ex-girlfriend on her b-day. (been broken up for 7 months, live 2 hours away from each other) It was on Monday .. I decided to call her in the morning to wish her a happy B-day (while on the phone, she says .. if you get a wild hair, you should come up) Anyway, I did and everything went perfect. So, I spent the night, we never even talked about "us" .. just had a good time being around each other. Spent the night together, ect. Well, Tuesday night comes, and I need to get on the road .. she walks me out to the car, and I try to kiss her .. but she instead decides to kiss me on the cheek. I looked at her and she says "I don't want to make things confusing" Now, I might not be the smartest guy in the world .. but what the heck does this all mean?

Well, its my ex's B-day tomorrow. I sent her a card a couple of days ago .. but have not heard from her ( i'm not sweating this .. since maybe she did not get the card yet .. or has not checked her mail) My question to you .. should I call tomorrow and wish her a happy birthday. I've gotten mixed advice from friends, so I was wondering what "outsiders" might think. Some tell me not to call, others tell me to call late, rather then first thing in the morning. Neither of us has called each other in 3 weeks .. I guess, what i'm saying .. if I want to get back together with her .. is there a right way to handle this?

Heck No, I dont want a relationship like that. I don't want to call her to be buddy buddy. I guess I want her to realize what she is missing, ect. If she calls that's one thing. If I call, then she's see's that I'm just waiting around for her. I think you have opened my eyes up on the situation. I just don't want to overdo it, if she calls. But I was trying to figure out, from her point of view, what she is expecting from me. All I'm saying is .. I think a card is perfect and show though. If she calls, I'll talk to her, won't do anything with on her B-Day and we'll see if she calls later in the week. She has control, because she is the one who will make the final decision to say she wants to get back together. So, if I'm not there .. waiting for her to call, then she is "wondering" what i'm up too. "Curiosity can do wonders"

Yeah, I can see your point about control. But by calling her, don't you think I'm showing her that I'm there waiting around from her. I realize that games are not good, but this is a game of control. If I'm calling her, then she's not wondering what i'm up too and who i'm dating. Calling her, gives her control.

ex-girlfriend's b-day is coming up .. I decided to send a card. We have not talked to each other for 2 weeks now, neither one of us has called each other. She should get it by the end of the week and I imagine she'll call to thank me. What should I do when she calls. Would it just be smart to just chat, catch up and say i'll talk to you later. I do want to date this girl again. So, I want to play it smart .. but realize that things don't happen overnight. Thanks

Sent the ex-girlfriend a birthday card today. We've been off/on for 2 1/2 year. But during the past 3 weeks .. neither one of us has called each other. What should I do .. (assuming she calls to thank me) Should I ask her to take her out on her B-Day? Or just talk to her and go from there.