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  1. routerx, Thank You so much for your mature reply. I like your suggestions..growll j/k No but thank you for not trying to read more into this then what I said. I mean obviously you have nothing to hide, so you are not sensitive and offended.
  2. Nmarch thanks, I am so glad someone could actually respond without trying to shift the blame on me. I feel your pain. ANd now that I read your post..i'm not going to take this thing down. Nope. Obviously men need to wake up. If they don't like my post..hey don't read it.
  3. I wonder if there is just one person who can stop trying to make it seem like this is all just my point of view. I noticed no women have responded yet just the men. Maybe then no one will assume this was written about just me. To be more specific this was written about one woman in particular. She posted something about her husband and it troubled me. I want to know why men do this to women. I don't think I said "I HATE YOU MEN" I guess people only hear what they want. I will take this post down because honestly I"m irritated that no one can answer my questions with out trying to say "sweetypie,your views are whats bad" because this is not just my view. Maybe I'm the only one with the guts to speak out about it.
  4. You know what I think? (I think no one is reading my post all the way because if they did there would be no way they could miss what i put in big letters. "i'll get to the women later" I know men are not all bad, I know women arent all good, My post is to get answers from the not so good men as to why the do what they do. Maybe this will clear things up a bit.
  5. All of the Posters suggestions were great however no one seems to want to tell you those words "should you cut him loose" I will get to that later but first lets discuss the fact that they don't visit you and you only live an hour and a half away. That shows laziness and lack of reciprocation to you. It would be different if they at least offered to pay your way sometimes. I would not be surprised if your father is behind this. He sounds like a severe control freak who has to have it his way or the highway. I hate people like this. They make others miserable because they can't handle the realities of life. I bet your father's father was just like him. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Your biggest worry, is not "I think my family may turn my wife to be against me" But more so "what if I make my new wifes life a living hell because I turn into my father" That's a big issue. Most things we hate, we turn into. Your father will not change. He hasn't changed in 35 years and he's no longer helping you. I suggest you stand up to him. I can't say cut him loose because if I do and you do it and then later regret it then I'm up the creek and reamed hence forth. But I will tell you my sisters and I were so mad at my father one year for all his crap that they (I was out of town) didn't even come visit him for fathers day. He cut them loose for two years and they have never been happier. He now wants to talk to them and its just a hi/bye relationship. Nothing more. He has no power over them any more. I am the type of person who can love you from a distance. I would not visit them anymore.. And if they act funny tell them. Why should I visit you guys and you never visit me.Its not fair". I would call less. When my dad called I wouldn't be available. Pull away slowly and see how this improves your life and the stress your imature father is causing. Sweeheart some men are stuck in their ways and never grow up. Its not your fault. Its not your problem its his .
  6. I can already see the innuendo's and reaming coming. If you are offended by this post then maybe your in the 75% I'm talking about and the truth hurts. I already said that there are good men out there 25%. I can tell men are sensitive and get all offended. Like there perfect and never hurt anyone. SelfDiscover..I liked your post and I can tell from your "what five things do you like about yourself" that your in that 25%. However to the other poster, I didn't post this about me, actually I posted this about a few other women I know. Oh lets say about 10 who's men just wont act right. And these are faithful good women. Women who deserve a guy like you SelfD. Keep the posts coming. P.S This post is not only about a few men I've dated but for all of the good women out there who are being treated bad just because a man thinks he can get away with it!
  7. Wow I am so proud of you. I didn't know women like you still existed! I am very impressed with you. Instead of what most trifling sneaky no good home wrecking women do, you have more respect for yourself and others and you decided to back off. You have no idea how much this will do for you in the future. So with that being said.....You have to see him in all the time, so its not going to be easy, oh but it is possible. The best thing for you to do is concentrate on your school work, and start looking at other options. This is the only way to get over this thing your going through. Go out and have fun with other men. Keep things on a very distant "Good morning" "hi" and "goodbye" level! After a few weeks you should be feeling better. But definitely keep your distance..i don't care how cute or perfect you think he is...let him be with the other woman, real women don't have time to play seconds. Sorry sister you have more important things to do.
  8. I have really had it up to here with men and there no good ways. I am so up to here with it. I don't understand why men can't grow up for a minute. What is it about a married man or a boyfriend that makes him treat a good woman like a dog? Actually worse then a dog. I want to know from men and women here on the forum what you think the darn problem is. And how it can be solved. When a man gets married or a boyfriend gets comfortable he becomes complacent in the relationship and just wrecks shop. Men forget to 1. Be Romantic 2. Be faithful, 3. Find there clothing or socks 4. How to Iron, 5. Last in bed 6.Dress Nice..so on and so on? I really want to know what the problem is!! *BEFORE I GET REAMED, THIS IS NOT DIRECTED TO ALL MEN JUST 75% THE OTHER 25 % GET ALL MY RESPECT and keep up the good work* *P.S. I KNOW, I KNOW WOMEN DO THIS TOO, BUT THIS IS MY POST AND I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT WOMEN THIS TIME...I'LL GET TO THAT LATER OK? *
  9. I'm sorry that he did this to you and after all this time, while he gets away with his treacherous deed your stuck still trying to find that missing piece of your heart that he trampled on. This is not fair to you. His selfish deed hasnt done anything but hurt you. And his continuous lies about women at parties is really just the icing on the cake. A good friend of mines says "It's not what your man tells you that you should worry about..ITS WHAT HE DOESN'T" He feels like he has something to hide. This may also be old guilt still festering inside himself and he feels like your down his back. This may be the main reason for his lies. Truth is, if he really loved you and wanted to prove things to you..he would take YOU to the office party. If there are no feeling there for him and this "homerecker" then you should be more than welcome on the trips. I know your probably making yourself sick everyday worrying about this guy and his whereabouts right? This is no way to live. This is shortening your happiness and making you sad..this just is not right. Marriages are suppose to stand the test of time, but it seems like your marriage is headed for the rocks. No sex in five years? This is serious I'd like to know who is the one withdrawing about the sex....If i knew that...I could help you more.
  10. Hey Self D... I love this topic. Thanks for making me think about things I like about myself. I think this will brighten my day. The # 1 thing I love about myself is my heart. My heart is very big. I am by nature a kind loving person. I am very sensitive to others, and don't like to see people hurt. I'm also very giving...I'd give my last dime to a person in need. I can't sleep until I have helped that person. Sometimes this hurts me and blows up in my face..."i've been cursed with a big heart" # 2 I'm intuitive, I can smell a rat a mile away...(when it comes to fake friends or frauds) # 3 I'm strong both Physically and Mentally. I can put up with a lot and still hang on to see tomorrow. I may feel like giving up sometimes but usually I snap out of it and wake up. #4 I'm Funny. "most people laugh when they are around" me this makes me feel really good! I like making people smile. #5 I'm a very honest person. I don't steal, I don't lie (maybe a white lie here or there..but for the most part..i'm an honest woman. The one BIG thing that is missing from this list is COnfidence. I just dont have very much of it. I'm a nice person. I know that,..but I have a lot of insecurities..so this gets in the way. If I knew what to do about it..I probably would have done it already.
  11. No offense but I think that if you are only trying to get a man hooked on something like this that it will eventually end up getting to you and the whole time he's getting what he wants and you end up being used. I hope you think more of yourself then this. I think you should try hooking him on your mind..not your body. Just my opinion. Men by nature are hooked on sex..sorry but its true, so you'll never have a problem there. But if you want to keep him, you have to start the relationship off with more substance.
  12. Well At first I would say that you have no right going through her journal and see what happens when you go searching for things...YOU FIND THEM. But thats all the spanking i'm going to give you because who wouldnt want to read this juicy gossip..hehe She sounds like she is not ready for anything more then just friends. Who is this stalking boyfriend she is referring too? From reading this I'd have to say that she seems a bit up to no good. You found proof of this, so its up to you to do what you feel is best with it. Ok?Me
  13. I honestly don't think either one of you is ready for marriage, I'm sorry but you have way too much living to do. What's the rush. You guys don't have to get married so soon. Sheesh i'm 23 and don't want to be married this young. If you love each other that much then your love will stand the test of time, and years, and College, and more. Give it time..don't rush. You don't want to get married then find out when you are 24 or older that he wasnt the one anyway. Then most of your youth is gone.
  14. Yes, it could be a number of problems but from the just of what I read from you, sounds to me like another human touch on his genitiles makes him somewhat shy or uneasy. Or maybe he just hasnt really had that so he's not as sensitive to it as he would if he was used to it. Depending on how many other women have done this too him. Or it could be the opposite, he may have been with so many women that he just cant climax. Lastly, (but i doubt it) you may just need to practice on him more and do it better.
  15. I must agree with you Johnny, But just to play Detective lets look at the facts, He im's you after a month, then as soon as you Im him, he gets offline and is gone without a trace...sweetie I must tell you this guy sounds like a dud. he does not sound all that interested to me. Move on and cut your loses. I mean could you imagine if you and him actually started dating, next thing you know a few weeks go by and he's nowhere to be found. Sorry sister...let this one go before you get more then just worried and paranoid. You may get hurt..
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