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bronte last won the day on July 3 2009

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  1. Day 3...It's ended up being WAY too hot to move furniture and stuff, so I'm trying to stay busy with other moving-related tasks. Really wanting to talk to him about how the move's going, but fortunately he's taking a fun trip with friends this weekend--Knowing that keeps me from contacting him, since he s obviously not going to think that's a good time to chat! "Oh, excuse me, guys, ex-girlfriend on the phone..." No. He'll be back in my town in about a week, though. Yikes!
  2. Day 2. I'll be busy moving into the new place this weekend, so hopefully I'll get to Day 5 with no difficulties and no temptation!
  3. Day 1...Sheesh, can't believe I actually flirted with him yesterday! My thoughts are definitely more confused than they were. Going back to boycotting AIM, since I can't trust myself to make good decisions regarding it...
  4. lol, thanks! I am feeling a little better about the conversation now, I did get to tell him all the exciting things that are happening in my life and I think I came accross as confident and reasonably happy. It has stirred up a lot of emotion, but maybe it's good that I know to prepare myself for things to potentially be even more difficult than I thought they would be once he's back in town. But still, back to NC tomorrow!
  5. lol, yeah, I noticed that earlier this evening and laughed. Appropriate!
  6. Thank you, I really appreciate the words of support! I'm just worried because he's coming back to town in about two weeks (after working out of town for the summer) and the last thing I need is for him to start hanging around wanting to flirt with me IF it's not accompanied by him wanting to work on the things that were wrong in our relationship. I feel like I can hear the "Jaws" theme playing and the shark is coming right towards me!!!
  7. Oops...I messed up. He IMed me and I responded, so I failed NC right then...and then he started flirting with me and I flirted back, which was even worse!!! (Though I did say no and end the chat when he suggested we move to webcam, so perhaps I get some points back?) I did get to tell him how great my new job is and how excited I am about getting my new apartment this weekend and how generally awesome I am, and he agreed that I am awesome, so there is that...but still. Not worth it! Back to Day 1 tomorrow. *head to desk* The reason I'm most upset with myself is that this contact from him is VERY suspiciously timed. I set myself back to "single" on the dating site where we met yesterday, something he would almost certainly have noticed since he's active on the same site. And then the next day he just happens to contact me? I'm an idiot, he just doesn't like the idea of me dating other people and wanted to be sure I was still there for him. Ugh!
  8. Day 16, feeling a bit down but staying strong. Lavender, I think it's up to you whether you contact him or not--if you don't feel like contacting him, you definitely don't have to! The point of the 30 days is really so that, if someone DOES get to Day 30 and still feels as much like contacting their ex as they did on Day #1, they at least do so with a slightly clearer head.
  9. Yay, fruitapus, congrats on making it to the 30 day mark! I do think the rate of healing slows down around the 15 day point, because you're past the initial withdrawal symptoms but it's still a long, long way to happy. And also yay for vertigoxo, you'll be at the 30 day mark soon too! I hope the date goes well, I just changed myself back to "single" on the dating site where I met the ex and am hoping to get some dates lined up soon too. Just casual ones, but still, I think it might help.
  10. Day 15 - Halfway through the challenge! One of my friends was asking why I'm never on AIM anymore...Didn't know how to explain that it makes me sad if my ex IMs me and it also makes me sad if he doesn't. I guess I should try to be on some, though, since isolating myself can't be good for me either.
  11. Day 14, doing pretty well though definitely also in that "Not going to contact him but WHY isn't he contacting me? Jerk..." space. I have to drive past his apartment on the way home from work and today I didn't think about it till I was past it. I know the real victory will be when I don't notice at all, but still...progress.
  12. wish_on_a_star, sorry to hear you're having a rough time...I came really, really dangerously close to e-mailing my ex yesterday--e-mail composed and mouse pointer on the "send" button--so I know how quickly emotions can take over and make us forget what we had planned to do. Day 13 for me. Talking to my friend last night (the one who hadn't heard anything about the break-up before then) was actually really helpful. Something about relating the whys of the break-up to a new audience reminded me that, yeah, I loved him and he loved me, but he was REALLY being a jerk to me there at the end. And she was a really good listener and contributed stories about friends of hers that helped shed light on my situation and made me realize that no, I really, really don't need to contact him. And yet I can already feel the resolve fading a bit...I'm glad tomorrow is Monday and I'll have another work week to distract me!
  13. Day 12 Still feeling really tempted to contact him with trivial stuff, the equivalent of poking him, I guess--"Are you there? Still remember me?" Trying to remember that that would be more annoying than welcome, I'm sure. We can't really talk about anything serious till he's back in town, and he may not want to even then. Hanging out with a friend tonight who hasn't heard about any of my break-up woes yet. Hoping not to succumb to break-up verbal diarrhea in which I suddenly share all my innermost feelings with people who don't really need to hear it, lol. I just want a fun evening that takes my mind off of it all...
  14. Day 11 Doing okay today, though something happened at work that I would love to tell him about. I guess I can just imagine his reaction and try to be satisfied with that. (Or is having imaginary conversations with your ex a sign of impending insanity?) It's weird, I was SO close last night to contacting him to ask if he's still feeling uncertain about whether breaking up was the right thing to do, but when he commented on my Facebook status that urge disappeared. (Well, lessened.) Maybe I just wanted to know that he still remembers my existence...
  15. skveerkamp, yes, yay for Day 30! I'm sorry you're not feeling more celebratory, I know it's a milestone that's bittersweet--but if you're starting to see more of his negative characteristics, NC is doing what it's supposed to do for you. It just works verrrrry slowly. (And I can sympathize about people telling you he'll be back, my ex has a history of leaving and coming back, so when people see that I'm very sad they think they're comforting me by saying he'll likely be back again and feeling conciliatory before too long. But it is NOT helpful!) Speaking of my ex, he commented on my Facebook status tonight. Just a short teasing comment referring to a long-running joke of ours. I might make a short comment back even though it would technically be a breach of NC, because I didn't find his comment to be emotionally upsetting and I'm 100% positive my reply would be the end of it, it wouldn't be the start of a long conversation. Thinking it over, though, and I'll decide tomorrow before I leave for work.
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