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  1. raggamuffin
    Ok a relationship that gets off to a start like this is probably going to take some work. If you dont trust her than i honestly wouldnt bother with her because honestly trust is everything. Dont worry about getting hurt too much because most of my lessons in life have come from being hurt. So being hurt to a certain extent can be a valuable lesson. Good Luck with this one!
  2. raggamuffin
    At your age it is probably normal...I think most teenages go through stages like this during their highschool years and it usually lasts for a couple of years. Maybe you should spend a bit less time together and find other things to do outside of this friendshiip group. It doesnt seem like it is anything to get too worried about though. When you are older you will laugh about these funny little disputs, i know i do now!
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    Dont pay for lunch/dinner ALL of the time, let the girl do it sometimes. Any jokes are ok with me, swearing is fine aswell it doesnt bother me. Be yourself, if you are a caring gentleman type then thats fine, I am sure you have got it all sorted out yourself. I love affection, being kissed on the head, hand that sort of stuff. Just stick to the simple stuff and dont try to over do it.
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    I agree with Maggie, you should probably stop contact with your ex. It seems to take over your life and current relationship. In my opinion you will never be able to be with someone while you are still so involved in your exs life because you are constantly comparing your new relationship to your old one. If you want to give this new relationship a go then stop contacting your ex. You need to be fair to this new girl because she is inlove with you and the least you can do is give it everything (if that is what you want) or be honest to her about the whole mixed feelings situation.
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    If it is a circumstantial reason then prehaps there is a good reason to go back. However, arent relationships about going through the hardtimes together? Isnt that how couples evolve? You dont just break up or take a break when things start to get difficult and then when the difficulty is over just rekindle (Maybe you do, but I wouldnt). If I was with someone who went off to war and they broke up with me, it wouldnt stop me from worrying and waiting. What is the point of being with someone if you break up when things get really difficult? Things are always bound to get difficult is some way or another.
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    I think that for your own sanity you really do need to take a step back. I think you are being played here. You are being kept around prehaps just in case. It is lovely that you still want to be friends and stay there for eachother but after a relationship breaks up the friends thing takes along time. For me personally we were not able to be "just friends" For about 2 years after the relationship ended. Unfortunately too many feelings get in the way of being friends until both people have moved on. If you cant get hold of her in person find a time to call her and sort this out for once and for all. You deserve to know where you really do stand and move on with yourlife.
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    For me personally I have never had a grand plan for finding love and romance and it has always just popped up and happened when I have least expected it. Although I can see that somepeople, very very busy, prehaps synical people may need to plan the whole romance thing down to a t. But I believe that romance happens in its own good time.
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    Well that sums up perfectly the way people feel about their exes confusing little games doesnt it. I like it!
  9. raggamuffin
    You are kidding yourself. You love eachother way too much to see eachother as friends. So if you are going to see her be honest with yourself. I honestly think to sort this out you need to talk to her person to person. Right now though in her state of mind or whatever I dont think you can do anything right so dont take anything too personally. If you dont see her it will be the wrong thing, if you do see her it will be the wrong thing. I guess if you want to be there for her you are just going to have to ride this emotionally and confusing wave out. Prehaps you should let her know that you are here for her but you are going "away" for a few days and wont be able to contact her. Maybe this may help clear your head. I know that this must be confusing for you so prehaps its best to take a step back for a little while.
  10. raggamuffin
    Dont play games. Come out with it and say it. It will help clear the air, she will appriciate your honesty and then you can move forward, either with her or without her. Good luck.
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    It is fair to expect that if he is using electricity, water, whatever that he should have to pay his fair share especially since he has been there practically since october. It may be that he doesnt have to pay anything at his parents house but you are not his mother and shouldnt have to support him. He is a grown man and needs to accept that when you "live" with someone you have to contribute to the house hold. He should still give you money regardless of him not being there anymore, he used the electricity he should pay for some of it. As for struggeling to find the money, prehaps you could ring the electricity company and ask if you can get an extention on the date the bill is due or if you can pay some now and some later. Just so you dont get hit with hefty overdue fines. Your friend is right, but I understand that it must be hurting you a lot. Best wishes.
  12. raggamuffin
    Hmmmm I am a little concerned that your friend being happy makes you angry. You should be happy for your friend. Sure its natural to be a little jealous that he has a great girl but to be as mad as you are, doesnt seem normal to me. I think that you should just act normally towards him still hang out with him, invite him to do the stuff you used to do but just accept that yes he will want to spend time with his new gf. Prehaps you should go and make some new friends and hang out with other people, not to get back at him but just so you have other options when he is hanging out with his girlfriend. I know it can be hard but it is not worth all of your anger, if you stay this angry it may end your relationship with him..Be careful.
  13. raggamuffin
    Hmm I am a little bit confused, you have not kissed her but you have told her you have loved her? Ok if she wasnt freaked out by you telling her that you love her than I am sure she will be fine with you kissing her.
  14. raggamuffin
    Hi! I am so gland that you are over your ex, isnt it the most wonderful feeling in the world?!?! I am in the same situation as you are in right now. I just explained it to the guy and he was really great about it and now I dont have to worry about things going to fast for me because I know that he is supportive and understanding of my need to take things a little slow. This girl will be really understanding I am sure. Infact she will probably find it rather refreshing, its nice to know when guys dont want things to go from start to finish in 2 dates!! She is probably just trying to make sure that you know she is interested. Girls are very eagar to please their new men. Just explain the way you feel and it will be much easier for you. Best of Luck.
  15. raggamuffin
    I think you will find that although a lot of people may infact want their exes back, that alot of us are completely happy in our lives and just like helping other people. I did start coming to enotalone because of my ex but not because i wanted him back. Lots of people here just need advice for everyday things. When it comes to love what do i want?...Basically someone who will treat me well, someone who likes me as much as I like them, that is it really, im not fussy. I have that person in my life right now so I am as happy as can be.
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