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  1. well congratulations lol! Uh...I would not even be thinking of girls right now if I were you!!! lol you lucky one you!... Well, I would not tell your exgirlfriend just yet, bc she might want to be with you only for the money. Its a sticky situation but I would not try to act too arrogant or change the person who you are now just because you won the lottery. Continue being the same guy, and don't mention that you won the lottery until further into the relationship so that you can differentiate a real relationship from a fake one.
  2. From what it sounds like, he might be unfaithful to you emotionally. He should not keep comparing you to his ex gf if he really loves you. He should not even mention her since it bothers you. You said he dragged you, that is called physical abuse, no matter how you put it. He wants to control you but will not stop communicating with him ex-gf for you. This doesn't sound like a good relationship to me. Especially how he makes you feel that his ex is better than you. He should never compare you, because you are unique and special in your own ways. I would find another man who will love you for who you are and forget about this creep.
  3. I agree with darkblue. If a guy likes you are is worth the time, he should accept you the way you are. I personally think that you might not be able to hide it for long if you guys get seriously involved. What if he wants to go for a job one day, or asks you to walk quickly over there...etc. etc. Tell him the truth, I mean, i don't think it should scare him away at all. I wouldn't work it up too much, just tell him like its not a big deal. Maybe something like this, "oh by the way, your going to have to walk a little slower next time so that I can keep up with you because___(your reason here)____________-...," Like that it doesn't sound scary. Dont treat it like a big secret because then that might make him feel uncomfortable to ask you if he notices anything "strange".
  4. They lie because they don't want people to know they are taken. If people know he is taken, that will be less likely for other girls to come up to him to talk. Probably a cheater. I don't think there is any specific signs to tell if a guy is lying to you unless he is clearly caught or there is suspicious behavior. Some guys lie so good, you would think they are actors!
  5. Dont be so hard on yourself. I don't think its only the gay factor that pressures an individual to be perfect. I am not gay, but I have always felt this pressure from my parents to be "perfect" in school and walk around like I can't mess up, or else... I think that everyone has an obstacle that makes them feel insecure about themselves (in your case, the obstacle is being a homosexual). I think its good that you set high standard for yourself, but at the same time, let the world accept you for being imperfect (I am not referring to being a homosexual, but to other imperfection in your life). Like you said, nobody cares at the end if you wear this type of clothes or those clothes, when it comes to respecting you. Unfortunately, people will always hold stereotype. All you can do is be your true self and hope that the world accepts you for who you are, even the imperfect You. If they don't...tough cookies....Live on, try your best but don't forget who you are in order to please the rest.
  6. Look, Im going to be optimistic here..But if he had the heart to be the first to declare her "love" to you, then she must have really been in love. Im sure it has not faded so quickly. Yea, what you did was messed up and wrong, but it could have been worse (cheating, physical abuse, verbal abuse, etc...) This could be just a test of the relationship. I think you can still make it right. If you truly love this girl, find a way to get her back. Don't be pushy of course, but don't give up. Sometimes giving up and feeling hopeless is what most people encourage you to do, I suggest you try again to get her back and ensuring her that you are very sorry. I am sure she is in pain as well... Well, good luck and i hope it works out for you!
  7. Hey, I just got this really funny idea (farfetched, but possible!).......Maybe she has a twin Well, don't get too bummed out about it, you should ask her out on a date or have a real conversation with her. A one-time-friendly-day won't convince her to be ultra charming to you.
  8. Many counselor are always quick to diagnose with some type of "disorder" because it is the easiest way to get you out of their hair and pass you on to someone else. I suggest that you talk to someone you trust like a doctor and have him/her give their opinion. It could be another aspect of your life that is getting in the way of your studying. Maybe social life, drinking, drug usage, family problems, relationship problems...these are all things that affect our ability to pay attention in school. (I am not saying that this is your case, but many times its the case). I would definitely get a second opinion from others. There might be a certain "therapy" you can do to help your problem. Maybe take extra vitamins, excercise, change sleeping patterns, or change you diet...Its sounds off topic, but these things all affect the way we perform. I stuggle with a similar disorder, but its an Anxiety disorder where I get very nervous about test and being in class that I literally have panic attacks and I can't pay attention to the lessons. I just say to hang in there, college is a tough step in life since there is alot of pressure, and at the same time we are being introduced to the reality of the "adult" world with responsiblities. Another thing I wanted to ask was...you said you want to be a lawyer. Is that your passion? If it isn't and you are taking classes into the major, it might be stressing you out or boring you to the point of losing concentration.
  9. I had to repost after reading this...I agree with this for the fact that is shows how everyone has their own fantasies. We all just express it in different ways.
  10. I don't think that you should do anything that will make you feel uncomfortable. Whatever reason you are against porn: religious, you feel it is unethical, its just plain gross to you..etc.., you should tell him clearly. You got to realize one thing though, your boyfriend has a fetish for porn and he really likes it, since he looks at it often. I personally think your boyfriend is normal for looking at porn as long as he it does not affect your romantic relationship with him. Apparently you are hurt by it though. I seriously do not think that there is anything you can do to change a man who like to fantisize with porn. But it does not mean that he doesn't love you or want you physically. Its called a fantasy that he will probably never perform in real life. Men are visual creatures, they like the beautiful Barbie blondes and the crazy sex life that does not really exist. Its like a little boy with their toys. My boyfriend watches porn (once in a blue moon). When I first ran into some videos in his computer, I was not surprised and teased him about it. He was very embarrassed but I just laughed it off like I didn't care. In reality, our relationship is so healthy that i don't really care what he looks at as long as he doesn't begin to neglect me in any way. I don't take it seriously because I have looked at porn too and I know that I love him just as much and porn is just a world of fantasy. "Reality" is my boyfriend and me, my family, my dreams, my career, my education, the friendships I have and share. Besides, the more you think about it, the more you will analyze something that is irrelevant to reality. Like I said before, if it really bothers you, that is okay and I don't suggest that you engage in anything that will hurt you more.But be realistic and don't expect a "trend" that your boyfriend has to subside. Even if he quits his porn watching, he will still fantasize. You can't control his creative little mind. Well good luck with that, and I would not take it so seriously if I were you.
  11. You said that you have been anorexic for many years and that might explain why it was weird for him to said that. Having a problem with your own image can make that statement seem awkward. That was sweet of him to say and you shouldn't really think about something to say when he says it again. Just indulge in the goodness of the moment.
  12. There is nothing wrong with having "fun" just be careful with your emotions because this guy might not see you for who you are and is just using you for sex. If you are fine with that...go for it, and have protected fun!
  13. THE BOOKS ARE LIARS!!! lol Just kidding. Everyone is different, I bet the book didn't tell you that. I would have to disagree with that statement because my boyfriend is circumcized and he feels pleasure all right! And so do many other men that I am friends with. Don't think about it too much because when you finally get into the position of having oral sex or actual sex, you might not get excited because of the worry, not because of the fact that you are circumcized.
  14. Make him beg for forgiveness sounds like you are willing to take him back "eventually". That is just plain nasty what he did and embarrassing to you in your own apartment. What else could this guy have done behind you back in the past? Ewww!! I will stop writing before I say too much. But ill put it simple: This guy is dirt, he CHEATED ON YOU IN YOUR OWN HOME (with a $lut who wanted to play strip poker in the first place), has the balls to tell you he couldn't help himself because she had big breasts. This guy is a loser!!! Oh, and I hope you learn your lesson in letting a boyfriend play the game in the first place. good luck and I hope you do the write thing and don't give in to temptations because I can assure you more heartaches may come from this relationship.
  15. She probably felt uncomfortable around certain people...it happens. I am not saying this is the case, but maybe she would have felt left out. Whatever the reason is, it is understandable why you are mad. But whatever, she offered an alternative to make up for it and that should show you that she does care about your feelings.
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