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  1. My name is Brian. My girlfriend's name is Darlynda. We met on eHarmony and have been courting for a year. We have been talking about marriage. I moved from Denver, CO to be closer to her. She lives in Joplin, MO (3 1/2 hours away). I drive to see her on weekends. We have been doing this since May. I have 2 boys ages 4 and 7, who see me on their school breaks. She has two girls asges 5 and 12. Last weekend her 12yo asked me what I want for Christmas. Up until now, she has been very unsure of me. However, I feel that changed last weekend. I have about $40,000 in debts, but she has about $25,000 in school loans, credit cards, etc... I am a Software Engineer, and she is a hairdresser. Darlynda has been living in a trailer her parents provided her for the last 10 years. Her parents live next door, so she gets free childcare as well. Her life has been pretty sheltered, but now she wants to get out of the trailer. She jumped on eHarmony to prove to her friends that there were only weirdos on there. She said to me she was not expecting to find a husband, but she feels she has! That means she has a lot of changes coming up. I have spoken to her parents about my marriage plans, the ring I have on layaway, etc... Somehow Darlynda and her mom were talking. Her mom told Darlynda "He has an engagement ring on layway...He LOEVS you Darlynda.. He wants to marry you. If you are not sure, you better be sure, or you are not being fait to him." SO... She comes back about 3 weeks ago and says she needs "space". I told her we could talk once per week on Monday evenings, and if she wanted more, I would be available to her becuase i love her. However, we have spent the weekends together since. I am expecting her to ask me to come down this weekend as well. What do I do? She is asking God to speak to her in her heart "BRIAN IS THE ONE" or "MARRY HIM". I really believe this is the Will of God and I am praying until I get the answer... I'm praying for her!! I SO WANT her to hear God! She said God spoke "Annoint Brian, he's the one"... and "He's my best". She said I meet her "lists", her friends all see how much in love she is with me, her parents recently gave her a quote off a TV preacher, "Sometimes opportunity comes alone. Seize it, because it might not come again..." Her dad gave that to her. Her heart says she loves me. She has told me that she wants to marry me "swiftly" if she hears from God so we can have some GREAT SEX..LOL... and we can just be together and enjoy life. She believes if she hears from God, that my debts will work out, we can buy a house, the kids will mesh, etc... She just needs to hear from God. I believe Darlynda and I are meant to have a happy life - as soon as possible! I recently got a second job, am writing some articles, and found out there will be some serious overtime at work so that's good news since I get paid for every hour I work!! I can have about $45,000 in the bank by May 2008. My total debts are only $40,000!! She is ok with me working in St. Louis 2 days a week while we are married. That gives her Mondays to herself for "me time." Everything seems like it will be fine. Ok, so how do I get through this? Have any ladies done this to your men? If so, what was the result? Did you marry? Do I stand a chance if she is trying to get a house first? Or should I even care who gets the house as long as we can be together??? Did your marriage get stringer because you took time apart? I feel she will hear something soon. She said she feels she will hear in her heart soon. OH HOW I LONG TO BE WITH MY LOVE!!!! I MISS MY LOVE!!! Help!!! Thoughts?? ANYONE??? I need guidance!! My heart is going crazy!! And I have 2 1/2 weeks to go!! And I'm praying she will DEFINITELY hear something so we can celebrate Thanksgiving!!! I LOVE HER SO MUCH!! I MISS MY LOVE!! My Best friend!! My soulmate!!
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